Step children and chores???

Autumn - posted on 09/22/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have 2 stepchildren that spend every other weekend, holidays, and 2 or more weeks in the summer here. My children, who are 6, 4, and 2 all have chores they have to do on a daily basis. Usually the children rotate by weeks on the chores. When my husbands children come over I think it's only fair to give them chores as well. They are teens and of course think it's not fair that they have to come over and do "work," saying they don't have to do it at home. It becomes a fight all weekend amongst everyone. I don't think it's fair for one person(me) to do everything for 7 people all the time, which is why we have chores. What can I do to keep the peace and still enforce the rules???


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Katrina - posted on 09/23/2011




They definately should be helping out. The fact that they're teenagers is going to make it all the more difficult. But certainly, as with your own children, they have jobs and do them, as part of the family team. Not sure of your circumstances ( what your relationship with their mum is, etc), but have you and your husband asked their mum if she could come on side with you, to let the kids know they have to do chores. Not sure but that is all I can think of. I had a step-parent, and from the other side of the fence, I did everything I could to NOT do what I was told (maybe I thought he'd get annoyed and move out). So as a step child it can become a bit of a power trip. Not sure, as I don't know your circumstance, but thought I'd add perspective from a step-child. I do hope you find repreive soon, and get those teens showing some respect. xxx

Stifler's - posted on 09/22/2011




What kind of "chores" are you talking about? Like washing up, folding washing, tidying up the house before dinner? Coz yes they should be helping with that stuff. And what Jennifer said.

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2011




You are right, they should be helping. I would just tell them that they are part of the family, and family has to work together. That being said, until they do their part, no tv, video games, cell phones, or whatever. For now, they may think of you as the enemy, but in the end you will be teaching them so much, especially if bm isn't teaching them how to run a house as a team.

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