Step children do not understand

Maria - posted on 08/19/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I am so lucky or (is it my kids); with my husbands career it is almost essential I am a stay at home mom and God has blessed our income to adjust.
I am having problems with my 16 yr old step son who lives with us. His bio mom and grandma are all career minded as well as most of his friends moms. It is hard for him to understand, we have only 3 left at home with a 4 yr old the youngest which I have been told am doing a great job preparing him for Kindergarten while allowing him to just be a kid.
Anyway, my 16 yr old had a huge blow up on me and our choice of lifestyle with me at home. I was called some pretty ugly things by him. It hurt, but dad addressed it firmly, I haven't heard an apology, but the next day he acted as if nothing happened.
I still am emotionally torn up. The only thing that makes me feel good is maybe he blew up on me because he KNOWS I am the one here and will never leave him?

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Kari - posted on 08/19/2010

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Sounds like it could be a number of things including him being a little jealous that you can be at home and available for all the things that his bio mom can't. I love the idea of a career but the truth is that every choice comes with a sacrifice and working requires you miss some things. Perhpas he blew up because he needed to get anger off his chest at the idea that his real mother has to miss things such as sick days and summer days. If your really concerned and want your feelings heard then I suggest gently letting him know that you were surprised and it made you feel bad that he yelled at you and see if there's any way he'll talk about it with you or at the very least apologize.

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