step son doeant get much time with his father.

Letha - posted on 01/20/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have my 2 kids but also my step son which I help my husband with. I have been in his life since my step son was 6 months. But his mother seems to think that my husband is a bad father and the he doent put his sons needs first. I have tried to tell her she is the reason the father hasnt been a constant. She didnt allow my husband to see him until he signed the divorce papers and all he wanted was his son and then asfter the papers she disnt allow us to get him like the papers say for christmas for the years of 2012 and 2013 in fact for 2013 christmas day she took to Georgia with our son and she wouldnt allow us to get him till my husbands visitation weekend. We only get him every other week from friday at 6pm to saturday at 6pm and 12 of the hours he is asleep he gets sick and she seems to think before he makes it to our house the we are the cause of the rashes. One time i noticed he had a rash and it was there for a month and i told my husband it wasnt heat rash because heat rash goes away with a warm bath in a couple of days so we kept telling her but she was trying to fight us saying its nothing but the spota had briuses around them so me and my husband took him to the doctor and it was bed bugs. She thinks the her son should come first but she doesnt even go by that her self and ive told her that no one child can be greater than another. They are equal and when i told her she said she didnt agree and that we couldnt get extra time. Now she has a new baby that has been in the hospital and my husbands son goes to his grandparents all the time. Instead of asking us if we will keep him while she helps her other baby she neglects the relationship he could be getting with his father and now the relationship shows with his grandparents. Oir son always ask for me or her parents. Never for the parents but in my husbands defince he can pick him up friday because of work and i have to get him and that makes our relationship stronger. But i believe that he is just wanting a mother figure there that doeant have to leave him. He crys when he has to go to sleep which makes me believe that when she leave so he doesnt cry but its hurting him on the inside. Any advice on what may help.

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Letha - posted on 01/21/2015

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He was going through court with me when my parents wouldnt let me speak and then he ended up getting her pregnant so he had no money for two court cases. And her parents have a great amount of money so they would have tried to run him dry but now that we are together we still didnt have to money for an attorney til income taxes. He isnt a bad father at all like she tries to say he is and im just worried for my step sons future relationships and how he will cope with everything and if my husband will ever br able to bond with his son like he needs to. And woman get it so much better than men. We get to carry and feel and hold and bond so much better and faster with the children before the father can even think about loving them. And i feel like fathers should be the first to hold the babies when they are born because we've been holding them for 9-10 months. Everyone one says that well the men can just run off but you can go after them for child support and they dont get to see there child and then theres father who get screwed even if they are good and want to support therir children. Yes my husband signed the papers because we wanted to see his son but he was also out of his daughters life for the whole pregnancy and first year because of my parents so all he wanted was his kids. What would anyone else in his shoes done. Took her to court and not seen him as well for 2 years?

Letha - posted on 01/21/2015

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He was trying to do it without court since we didnt have much money and at the time she wanted him to pay $780 per month and that doesnt include daycare or insurance. And he was only making 11 an hour. And he so had my 2 kids. I believe she just wants money and doesnt care about the relationship each parent needs with him. She also gets income tax each year she wouldnt change that for nothing.

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2015

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He didn't have to agree to her attorney's agreement.
This has obviously been going on for a long time, he should have gone to court as soon as they broke up. He has been allowing her to dictate the terms so she has been.

Letha - posted on 01/20/2015

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Thats what we are planning on doing with all our income tax money. But they had her attorney to write out an agreement and he hates its its one sided and doesnt have say so in anything and he signed it so she would stop withholding his son. I love him with everything i have to give. I feel like sometimes im the one who spit him out. He clings to just me and his grandparents. And she says she is struggling but she has a brand new trailer (they are the first owners) and like 3 or 4 acers of land ans were we live one acre of land is like 60,000. And then she tells us she has to scrape up money for her kids.

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