Strategies for handling the last months of second pregnancy

Morgan - posted on 06/08/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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It seems like every one thinks I have it 'so easy' being at home- I have a 15 month old and I'm 8 months pregnant- so my family isn't helping the way they all said they would when they were encouraging me to have a second- I'm still thrilled about the baby, but how do I get through these last weeks with no energy and an energetic toddler to run after? My husband is great, but he works two jobs and so he is only home on the weekends.

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Stifler's - posted on 06/10/2011

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Let the kid feed himself. One load of washing a day. Nap when they nap. Make husband help with lawn mowing, window cleaning, anything heavy.

Louise - posted on 06/08/2011

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You ring the family up and tell them you want some help! Nobody likes to think they are in the way and they would probably want to be asked. If you have your parents on the scene use them they will not mind. Sometimes us parents wait to be asked and our kids expect us to know when we are needed. Put out the call for help you may be surprised.

Michelle - posted on 06/08/2011

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I have 3. Mine are 3,2, and 6 months so I know how you feel. My husband was out of town towards the end of my last pregnancy. Definitely nap when your little one does, plan easy meals (freezer meals or crockpot meals), do what you can for housework but figure out where you can cut corners too, oh and go to play areas where the little one can run around safely and you can watch from a seat.

Cori - posted on 06/08/2011

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I'm interested to see what other moms say. I'm in a similar boat. I'm 6 months pregnant and staying home with my 2 year old. All I can' say is gate off or block areas you don't want your little one in, accept any offers for help you get (either watching your toddler or helping around your house), ask for help if you really get frazzled, and realize that not everything will get done. Aim for "functionally clean" when you do housework.

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Claudia - posted on 06/13/2011

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NO , it's not easy at all. That said I have a 29mo and a 9mo. I can only encourage you not to try and be supermum. If things don't get done in the house they don't! If you can afford it try send your 15mo old to daycare for a few hours a day or just phone your family for some time to look after bubs so you can rest or do things you need to. Stand up to yourself now as once baby is here you need to be strong for yourself and 2 little ones - very tiring...We don't have any family where we are but we have awesome friends who helped out - we even had a 13yo come in and help us at times with bath and bedtime. I agree go to mothersgroup , get a sitter and never be afraid to ask for help - there are lots of mums in the same boat...

Christy - posted on 06/09/2011

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Since your family originally offered to help you through the pregnancy, I think you should go ahead and ask them for help. Have options ready for what you'd like help with so that they can choose something they're comfortable with.

Also, have some down time with your toddler that's you and her without her dragging toys out all day. It doesn't need to be playing or chasing or anything like that. Snuggle time, story time, TV time. Your toddler is old enough to learn how to help put away toys, so in the process of down sizing, you can put the toys in separate containers and then get out one container at a time. Then have your little one pick it all up before switching containers. This will help keep the house under control.

I've been there, I feel your pain. It's hard. It's going to get harder before it gets easier. Having two little ones is quite the challenge, but you can do it!

Jackie - posted on 06/09/2011

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first of all...congratulations on having your second baby and having enough energy to even run around a 15 month old :) I think what nichole has said is good advice. give the 15 month old a portion of the house in which to run around in. I wish i could give more ideas but Im a bit useless as i only have the 12 month old at the moment. But i do hope it gets easier :)

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Also, minimalize / downsizing helps. I am down to about 1/4 of my wardrobe until I am not pregnant anymore and healed well enough to take care of two kids. Afterall, I don't fit into much but my sweat pants anymore (my waistline grows sooooo big being pregnant, even those jean streatch maternity pants make me cramp. it sucks) so what do ya do? it's been a lot less stress on me this pregnancy, as I have come to terms with this being how it has to be for a while. I love it

I also put half my kitchen away for a little while. I only have 4 of everything out - cups, bowls, spoons, forks. 8 plates. about 3 pans and 2 pots. It's helped so much in keeping down the dishes and helping me realize more when I need to do them (right away!) I tend to let the kitchen go and then freak out over it and I cannot handle doing 2 hours of cleaning at once anymore so..... this whole minimilizing thing causes me to stay on top of stuff on a regular basis, while also having to do a lot less.

Shannon - posted on 06/09/2011

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I am kinda in the same boat. I was VERY close with my sisters when I was pregnant with my 1st son and now I am 8 months pregnant with my 2nd son and I don't really have any friends to help me. I am able to keep up with DS if I stay home but going anywhere without my husband isn't really an option right now. My hubby is home more so that is a plus but I feel bad having to ask him over and over for help, he is more than willing to help but I just feel bad. I know how you feel. maybe if we lived in the same city we could help each other out. :) Good luck!

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I would never ask my family for help and nor would they offer any. Take rest when you can let the housework slide if you have to, dont be afraid to let your little one sit in front of a dvd so you can sit down for five minutes.

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If you have to, baby gate off a good portion of your house (clear out dinning room, or livingroom) and let them run ragged with their toys so you don't have to stress so much when you need a good break. You'll need it when the next one comes anyway :) expecially in the beginning

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