Stressed with 3 kids.... Stay at home mom

User - posted on 01/05/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am so stressed lately with 3 kids 4 and under with my youngest 2 only 19 months apart. My family isn't around to help since they live in another state...... Feels very down and want to talk to other moms going through the same thing to see what may help me be in better spirits.

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Anna - posted on 01/10/2013

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After having baby I lost my self.I depressed badly.I couldn't do any thing for my self I was afraid to leave my baby even for few minutes.I need support and had no one .my house and me were in mess.but my friend like an angel help me to gather my self.somtimes she took care of my son and I have time for my self and my home and I learned nothing happen to my kid if he is in safe place and I had time for my self.kids grow up so fast we shouldn't be worry about all of things. just be sure they are safe and manage some free time for your self.

Emily - posted on 01/09/2013

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I would love that also, i seriously dont have time to go to mom groups and all that. my oldest is in kindergarten and they also have dance and gym. then theres my house to clean and laundry to get done and homework. no time at all. i am lucky i get to go on this computor.

Mandie - posted on 01/08/2013

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Same here chicky! It gets stressful when you can not get things done that you want or need to have done. Don't get me wrong,"me" time in my house is something that rarely happens,but if I can keep my kiddos occupied long enough for me to get at least a few things done then I feel a lot better.

User - posted on 01/08/2013

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Mandie....that helped alot. I know that my at home business and my working are things I enjoy doing, so I really need to make that "ME" time to get those things done. I notice if I don't I'm much more unhappy and stressed. I forget about me to much of the time.

Thanks!

User - posted on 01/08/2013

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Emily....I feel the same. My hubby says to go to mom groups and meet others, but I really don't have time. I'm not sure if you have time but maybe we could friend one another on facebook and keep in touch during our days just to help? I would love that.

Mandie - posted on 01/07/2013

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I'm a stay at home mom with 5 kids ranging from 8 yrs old to 2 months old. (8,5,4,almost3 and 2 months). I do it all on my own (my husband brings home the bacon so to speak). I know it can get stressful to say the least. I'm not sure what kind of answer you are looking for but as for me,when times got super stressful I decided to turn the tables. Instead of the kids being bored with nothing to do but go crazy and make huge messes,I would make up a game or take outside to play. Just something to occupy their time and take their attention off of being crazy and the bag of cheerios that would surely meet the floor sooner or later. OR (and I know Im gonna catch grief for this) but it won't hurt anyone if you pop a movie in or turn on a few episodes of Dora whiel you can get some housework done or just sit around and take a load off. People dont understand that being a stay at home mom IS a stressful job sometimes, Yes we chose this, BUT if you are anything like my situation...the husband goes to work,comes home and his job is done.End of story.(well he's not a total A Hole he helps sometimes) Everything is all on you and you alone,and while you are trying to pay bills over the phone,wash dishes,pry one kid off of one leg,another kid off the other leg,while trying to find a third arm to get another child from standing on a chair who is surely gonna fall off of it,just to look around you and see the house somehow went from sparkling clean to Tornado Alley in 15 minutes flat...yes you can feel like you are about to lose your mind and its understandable. I've also worked since I've had my children. I've got to say there really isn't a difference for me either way because after I got done cleaning up people's messes at work I came home to clean up more messes here so... You need to find some ME time(which again I know is VERY hard to come by) but maybe once all of them are asleep you can soak in the tub,or lay on the couch and watch your favorite shows or movie,play on the computer(I find BigFishGames is an awesome stress reliever for me when I actually get the time to play a game or two),or my favorite thing to do is turn on my music and dance around like an aidiot.Yes,I admit it,I dance like an idiot while listening to music. That is another thing I do during the day when all the kiddos are causing chaos. I turn the radio on and UP while I do housework.They see me dancing around like an idiot and they start dancing around. I also have little toy cleaning sets so when I'm cleaning they get their brooms and dustpans and help while jammin to some music, Hope that helped a little bit and good luck to ya

Emily - posted on 01/07/2013

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i am in the same boat, for that reason me and my husband arnt doing to well. we moved away from everyone i know for his job. he doesnt seem to understand either. he tells me to find a group and find friends, but what he doesnt understand is that i have alot of mom duties. when does he think i have the time to make a new friends. He works and i stay home and take care of my three little girls and the house and everything else in our lives. sry to unleash all of my problems like that, i just cant seem to get my self out of this.

User - posted on 01/06/2013

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What all did she help do? I know getting help would be what I need but all my family and friends are 800 miles away and noone here can/will help me

Anna - posted on 01/06/2013

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I understand you I had this situation too.but I got some help of my best friend.

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