Struggling to cope

Kelly - posted on 11/29/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Struggling with my 2 year old plus i have step children another 2 year old 5, 7, 9 10 all living with me need sum help

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MJ - posted on 12/01/2013

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Hi Kelly,

I too am a new SAHM with our own newborn daughter (4mos) and two stepchildren (5yrs and 2yrs old). IT IS THE HARDEST JOB THERE IS, YET IT IS THE MOST FULFILLING! Fortunately, my husband is financially supportive and values the role of a SAHM as the most meaningful position there is, but OH IS IT LONELY! Yes, my husband works SO much and it's just myself and the kids at home together all day. At times I just want to get away. I used to think that being able to go to work and having that short break away from the house and kids and all the "wifely" duties would be nice, but blessings are packaged differently. I get to spend time with the kids and have the peace of mind that I know they are being well taken care of. BUT we NEED balance. I never used to "go out" until I had children bc know I know that it is much needed. A couple times a month the kids will stay at their grandparents house so my husband and I can go out and have a night out on the town. We as SAHM need this! We need the attention from our partner and the fun of getting out of the house! I'm still struggling, I've been feeling completely overwhelmed and neglected. Judge me all you want, but I'm 26 and at times I really do miss the freedom so that's why I say make sure you do what you can do have balance bc a healthy minded mother is the best mother.

Kelly - posted on 11/30/2013

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I hope so all my life i wanted children couldnt wait for my own family sometimes i dont no if im cut out 4 all this extra work mind u my partnert cant work due to ill health but does nothing to help around the house maybe if he. Helped me more i be more stress free its just im quiet let everthing build up he speaks his mind x

Claressa - posted on 11/29/2013

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Hello , Im also new to being a stay at home mom. I recently got into a serious relationship and together we have three beautiful girls. I tried to go back to work and well that didn't work . I only made it four days before deciding to quit . Im happy I did because I need to be home with my family and I decided that no one was worthy of watching my girls full time except for me . Those are my moments to spend with them and teach them and raise them . Before I decided to quit my job I was so gung ho about having to go back to work because I too was going insane about being a stay at home mom. I had no social life , I was at home alone majority of time , but when kids got home from school it was all chaos. The job I had was not worth me being away so much and it really made me realize how much I WAS missing out on. Before I went back to work i was the very same way you are. very depressed , very unmotivated and i felt very alone . Im happy that i decided to quit because it sure did light a fire under my @$$... i wake up feeling so blessed in knowing that I'm so lucky and grateful that my man encourages me to stay home. I hope you have found your motivation because being a stay at home mom is the most challenging job in the world but at the same time is the most rewarding. its hard i know but there is light at the end of the tunnel .. I promise

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