stuck in a rut!

Anna - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




im stuck on such a rut! im 21 yrs old, and i have a 9 month old daughter with whom i stay at home with. I feel like ive been so wrapped up in being a mommy and a wife, that i have forgotten who ME as an individual is. i loove being a wife and i loove being a mommy, but i still want to be ME. ive completely lost my own personal sense of style. i just go for whatever doesnt have dried up snot or baby food all over it lol. i try to go shopping but i dont even know where to begin, because for one my body is TOTALLY different since i had my emma(which im ok with, nothing wrong with a little curves) and for two, i have no idea what i even like or what my "style" or personality is. i feel like a robot, going through the motions of being a stay at home mom. i love my famly dearly but i miss ME!


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Casey - posted on 01/19/2010




I can relate. I have a 5 month old girl and between my body changes and breastfeeding I dont feel like the same person. I absolutely love being a wife and stay at home mom but I am just now starting to feel kinda back to myself. Its hard when everything in your life has changed, including your body. Now that I have lost most of the weight i have gotten some outfits and that has helped out alot to feel cute again.When you get an outfir go to a trendy store- don't just pick up what you find at the local wal-mart. I know its not all about the way you look but I def think its a start. I have stayed close with my gf 's that have small children and that is a lifesaver. You def want quality friend and husband time it does wonders!

Leah - posted on 01/19/2010




I know exactly how you feel. I said this exact same thing (almost word for word!) to my hubby. Of course he didn't know what to say!! I know this cannot be just about shopping. You will get back into the swing of things. You just have to sit and figure out how you need to do this. That person you were before mommy and wife is still there, and I promise, she needs to come out!! I have outfits I wear only at home with the baby girl and then I have the few clothes I wear when I go out with the hubby (which, might I add, is rare). You will figure it out. Good luck honey!!!

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Do you not feel somewhat like the you before you got pregnant? I mean, obviously your life is much different, but it doesn't mean that you need to lose who you are. Ever since getting back to my old size I have been so thrilled about dressing the way I used to. I feel like a young, stylish mama and you should too! :) I think a good pair of new jeans is a great place to start. Maybe think about your fave celebrities and take some style cues from them. Kind of cheesy advice, I know:/ But maybe it can help you get back on track.

Jessica - posted on 01/19/2010




Hi Anna

I can totally relate. Having 3 boys aged 11yrs, 4yrs & 4mths old, its really hard finding the time and energy to focus on being me - not just a mom. As for personal style or dress sense, I dont think I have had one in a long time so dont feel alone. I tend to just go for the stuff that hides those "little" curves you were talking about. I do think its important though for you to have some "me" time. I love my boys more than anything - but what keeps me sane is having some time off to do some of the things I enjoy doing - even if it is just meeting a friend for coffee. I cant give you much advice on this, but I hope it helps knowing that its not just you that sometimes feels this way. Good luck and hope you start feeling a bit better soon.

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