Supper Nanny

Alexis - posted on 02/06/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )




I have noticed a lot of not so positive remarks about the Super Nanny techniques. We have tried them and they have worked for us and our 16 month old son. What are the issues that people have with the Super Nanny techniques?


Nikki - posted on 02/20/2011




I worked in childcare for 10 years and have a degree in child development. I LOVE super nanny's techniques. Some of them I think are a bit much, like hanging charts for every single thing all around the house LOL, but they are good ideas.

Lacye - posted on 02/06/2011




Love the Super Nanny! She is just awesome! Some people have a problem with her because a lot of her methods, takes time and patience. It doesn't just happen overnight like it shows on her shows. She works with the parents and the kids for a few days before it really starts to work.


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Stephanie - posted on 02/20/2011




we've been using timeouts with our daughter since she was 15 months and they do work but you need to be consistent. i also use the technique for sleep with no communication and occasionally the present one and those work for us too....i love super nanny....but you do need patience for her methods

Nikki - posted on 02/18/2011




I used to like her, but then I had only seen bits and pieces. I have watched a few episodes recently an I must say I am no longer a fan at all. In fact, I think she is a bit of a bully.

Some of her strategies for older children are ok, but as far as her treatment goes for children under 4, she has no idea what she is doing.

I am actually interested to know where she gets her techniques from because from what I have seen she clearly doesn't take the child's developmental and emotional needs into consideration.

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I used her techniques on my child already, especially after time outs; hugging her and telling her why she was in time out in a calm, loving voice. She's only 15 months and she's learned to listen now to just a warning for most things.

I thank that show as to why I don't have a problem with her sleeping right now. I made sure that she was sleeping in her crib at night from 3 months onward and we started out co-sleeping.

Kelly - posted on 02/17/2011




We tried the rapid return technique with my two and a half year old. On the show it takes them about 50 odd times before the kids go to sleep. We gave up when it hit the 900's. By the fourth night we moved the security gate to her door and shut her in. She screamed for about 2 hours and fell asleep at the gate. This continued every night for about three weeks. Then we started leaving the gate open and threatening if she gets up we will close it. She very rarely gets up now, and when she does we shut the gate and go through the screaming process. Time out doesnt work either. Maybe shes too young but she started banging her head on the wall and threw the chair accross the room so now, we send her to her room and shut the gate as punishment. She is an otherwise happy and perfect child. Its only a sleep issue. I stopped watching those shows because all they did was make me feel like a bad mother. :-(

Jess - posted on 02/08/2011




There is another show kind of like super nanny. The house of tiny tearaway's, where a child physologist's has 3 families move into a house and tries to sort out the issue's with their kids.

For sleep problems they do both the rapid return technique and the parental presence technique. Both seem to work well.

Alexis - posted on 02/07/2011




I have seen comments left by moms advising a mom not to use the super nanny technique if offered to the mom asking for help. I to have used the sleep techniques and they have worked! Walking him back to bed 10 times a night can be tiring the first few nights but in the end I get a lot more sleep now that he sleeps in his own bed. I to would like to see some more information on the stress it puts on the child vs crying it out.

I still watch super nanny on Hulu.

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Even if a method was 50% effective I don't see how that would make people be negative. Any method that is even 10% effective is worth sharing. If it could possible help a family in crisis then we should be thanking her for her help. I don't see how anyone would be negative to anyone just trying to offer advice.

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@Renae Not being rude at all (or not trying to be) but I see a lot of people throwing out statistics in almost every convo on COM. So I would believe those statistics only if I saw proof. Because for me, sitting in the room with my daughter relaxes her more then if I was to walk out of the room. If I walk out of the room my daughter sits up in bed and screams, and if I sit in the room with her she will lay down and whine with her eyes closed. She also would go to sleep quicker if I stayed in the room with her verses leaving the room.

Jenn - posted on 02/07/2011




I have never heard anyone say they don't like her - I LOVE her! As for the one where the kid peed their pants - the kid DID do it on purpose - it was a way to get attention and hopefully get out of time out. My son used to try that one - "Mom I have to go pee" he'd go on and on. But guess what - when time out was done he suddenly didn't have to go pee anymore. There were a few times where he really did have to go pee - but you can hold it for a minute and it's not going to hurt you. If you had to go THAT bad beforehand - you should have been going to the toilet instead of doing whatever naughty thing it is that you were doing to get put into time out in the first place.

@Renae - just curious if you have any links regarding the sleep issues. My sister did the "parental presence" thing with her one son because it was the only way he would calm down and go to sleep, and I use the "walk back to bed with no communication" method.

Renae - posted on 02/07/2011




Depends which one you are talking about. The sleep training method where you sit in the room and face away while baby cries is a "parental presence" method. These date back to the 40's and are now known to cause more stress for the baby than leaving them alone in the room to cry. The "walk back to bed with no communication" technique for toddlers works in less than 50% of cases, so compared to other methods it has a very low success rate. I am guessing these are some of the reasons people are negative.

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I love super nanny! Does that show still air?? What channel and what time!!! I guess I could look that up lol... OMG who has issues with her?? What do they say about her?? I couldn't imagine anything wrong with her techniques I've never seen it fail! (except the parents failing to stick to the techniques)
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Alexis - posted on 02/06/2011




Those were my thoughts, Either the parents don't stay consistent and put up the fight in the beginning to break bad habits, or they think its suppose to happen in 45 min! Doesnt the super nanny work with the families for a week? I also think some parents feel bad that they have to punish their kids, not realizing that by lovingly disciplining them they are showing love and by letting them run free they are setting their kids up for hardship later on. I would really like to hear from those that oppose Super Nanny.

Jess - posted on 02/06/2011




I love Super Nanny ! The only things I don't agree with is the tone she uses sometimes with children. I often feel that the tone is inappropriate.

I saw an episode where a young child had wet themselves while on time out. Super Nanny convinced the mother the child had done it on purpose and made the child strip themselves and clean up the mess. That I didn't agree with. The child had been going through the time out process for some time and was very upset. I don't think you should EVER punish a child for wetting themselves.

Other than those 2 issue's I am all for Super Nanny.

Stifler's - posted on 02/06/2011




It's because her techniques require perseverance... it's just TOO hard!

User - posted on 02/06/2011




I like that show and have used some of their techniques. Some I tweak to fit my son's behavior and age... I think some people have issues with Super Nanny are the ones that can't do "tough love" with children so young or are ones that probably need Super Nanny themselves. :)

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