Teenagers and Friendship

Randa - posted on 09/01/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 14 years old daughter is loosing her long term friends and this is affecting her well being. She feels sick sometimes(stomachaces, headaches, nosia), she is a very social girl, I am not sure if she is over reacting or her friend are changing on her. Any suggestion? Thanks


Rose24 - posted on 09/02/2016




The teen years are challenging with all the changes going on inside them and in their world. First I think continue what you are doing and that is show her you are sensitive to her feelings of loss however, look for ways to give her hope and encouragement. Teens often feel like these changes are the end of the world and we know they are not but us knowing this does not help them. You did now say why or how she is losing these friends and that could make a difference in how you handle the situation. If they are moving away, encourage her to find ways to stay connected and our technology makes this easier than ever. If she is losing them because they have lost interest in the friendship, help her to understand how throughout our life we grow and change and often our relationships change as well. If there have been times in her life that she lost a friend, a pet, or a grandparent perhaps talking about how she felt then and yet she recovered and moved on and explore ways she may do the same in this situation. Share perhaps a personal story with her when you lost a friend and how you dealt with it. And remind her often that she is beautiful and social and very special and while the loss of these friends are hurtful that she will make new friends and share with her ways to make quality lasting friendships. Encourage her continue being the best of who she is and trust that the people who should be in her life will be. In addition, hold onto the good memories and allow this experience to build her strength of character and always remember to have a friend is to be a friend. Until this, passes encourage her daily with examples of the good things in her life allowing her to focus more each day on these.


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