Terrible eating habits-Behavioral or Something else???

Laura - posted on 09/30/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My son who is almost 4 has been a picky eater from day one, but I don't believe that is the sole issue. He would sit at the table for an hour without hardly eating a bite if we didn't constantly monitor his eating. We have to threaten punishment, manipulate, use reverse psychology, for every meal, and it has taken a toll on me. I need some advice that really works.

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Laura - posted on 10/07/2009

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Quoting Brenda:

he will eat whenhe gets hungry as long as u dont give him snack and give him water to drink. he is being stubborn and he his winning the game over u. so that how the roles get reversed and they start controling the house. good luck. it doesnt getting any eaiser



You are right.  He has been winning this game for too long.  Thanks!

Anna - posted on 10/01/2009

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Ok I didn't read any of the other posts so don't know if this is going to be a repeat. But my mother told me a good peice of advice that she was told when I was a child. A child will not starve themselves...they will eat/drink when there bodies tell them that they need to. Just make things avaible through out the day. He will eat when he feels he needs to. Hope this helps a little. Good luck

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Sarah - posted on 08/15/2013

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evenutually he will get hungry and what has been put in front of him he should eat. I have two kids who are picky eaters and i make them sit there until they do it. keep your head up your son will eventually come around.

Laura - posted on 10/07/2009

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Quoting Anna:

Ok I didn't read any of the other posts so don't know if this is going to be a repeat. But my mother told me a good peice of advice that she was told when I was a child. A child will not starve themselves...they will eat/drink when there bodies tell them that they need to. Just make things avaible through out the day. He will eat when he feels he needs to. Hope this helps a little. Good luck



Thanks Anna.  I just needed to be reminded of this!

Lorna - posted on 10/01/2009

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Try letting him help you cook,i did this with my son and it really worked.good luck and dont get stressed about it :)

Elise - posted on 10/01/2009

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Have you thought about allergies? My son is not a picky eater but from day one refused certain foods, oranges, kiwifruit, dairy, soy milk and goats milk. Turns out he's allergic! Kids have an innate knowledge of what food is good for them and what isn't. It can be hard to tell whether its fussiness or not. It may be a good idea to get him checked out by your GP or a naturopath who would be better at diagnosing intolerances.

Brenda - posted on 09/30/2009

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he will eat whenhe gets hungry as long as u dont give him snack and give him water to drink. he is being stubborn and he his winning the game over u. so that how the roles get reversed and they start controling the house. good luck. it doesnt getting any eaiser

Vickianne - posted on 09/30/2009

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Does he go through stages? Sometimes for maybe a week he eats alot? Every child requires different amounts of food. Could he be getting to many snacks that are to close to dinner time?

Allison - posted on 09/30/2009

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Growing up I remember having to sit and eat all my food even though I might not have been hungry. So I always tell my kids they don't have to eat but they are sitting there till everyone including my husband and I are finished eating. I then only give a little snack like one piece of cheese and then say hey dinner will be soon so hang tight. My kids eat like crazy, though one is picking she still eats her fair share but in spurts. Like for days it seems she eats nothing then all of a sudden she will eat for a whole day straight. Good luck to you!

Leslie - posted on 09/30/2009

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talk to the doctor to make sure nothing is wrong. most kids go through theses stages. Some are worse than others. just make sure he is getting plenty of fluids and taking vitamins. he re wont take those you could try telling him he can take them or get a shot its his choice. i had to take my son to the doctor and the nurse brought the needle in and he freaked out and I havent had any problems with that. Make sure hes not loosing alot of weight. To much weight lose is a problem. eventually he will eat only one thing for a while.Its just part of them growing up.

Laura - posted on 09/30/2009

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Quoting Christie :

I know you said that you tried reverse psychology but for how long? I went through this with my middle child. Everything is a bullheaded struggle with her:) I spoke with the pediatrician regarding her lack of eating and her response was no child is going to starve themselves. Some children handle growing up as everything is out of their control and eating is the one thing they can control. Just make sure they take their vitamins and you'll be good.. So I let it go and now she's my best eater of my 3. Granted it wasn't overnight but I just had to keep telling myself it ok...



Thanks, Christie!  I think the times I get most stressed is when we need to be somewhere on time.  I can't get him to understand that he needs to eat in enough time to get to our destination on time.  I feel horrible sending him places hungry.

Christie - posted on 09/30/2009

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I know you said that you tried reverse psychology but for how long? I went through this with my middle child. Everything is a bullheaded struggle with her:) I spoke with the pediatrician regarding her lack of eating and her response was no child is going to starve themselves. Some children handle growing up as everything is out of their control and eating is the one thing they can control. Just make sure they take their vitamins and you'll be good.. So I let it go and now she's my best eater of my 3. Granted it wasn't overnight but I just had to keep telling myself it ok...

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