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Stifler's - posted on 08/07/2011

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Being bored to me doesn't mean I have time to do nothing. Housework is BORING. So is grocery shopping. I don't enjoy either of those at all.

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My kid is school aged, and I'm still very busy most days. Yes, there are days that I finish up early and have a little time for myself, but I am far from bored.

My thoughts on this woman's comment are that she is rather bitter and bored with her life so she was purposely trying to make someone feel bad to create drama. No one says something like that not intending to do some harm.
I also feel that she is probably very shallow and has very little going on mentally, because if she had anything to think about (or the ability to think about anything beyond the concrete) she would have enjoyed the extra 30 minutes and taken advantage of the time to reflect.

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Patrice, that is what I'm saying--she obviously has no life outside of "mom" and "work". The thing I love about being a sham is that I have time to have a life outside of being "mom" which I didn't have when I worked. That used to be me before I realized there was more to life than business in my kid. I was so busy working and parenting, I didn't have time to be involved in anything else, so on the odd moment when I didn't have to be working and I didn't have my kid to parent, I didn't have anything to do. Yes, there could have been tons to do, but I was not involved in anything so there was nothing-- you end up with these little snippits of time and nothing to do because your life is completely empty outside of work and parenting.

Casey - posted on 08/07/2011

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She obviously has all kids at school, so in essence had a day off with no kids under her feet - yeah that's the same :P

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Hollie - posted on 08/10/2011

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What was the original comment? I don't see it posted but I am sure I would have something to say...

TRACEY - posted on 08/09/2011

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Okay'''Ldaies i'm a stay at home mom, with 1 special needs child who's 5 ,and we have no way to communicate to him. so when he want's to tell me something and i don't understand, he flips over charis, tables bangs on the tv and everthing else. next iIhave a 7 yr old with PICA thst;s when they eat any and everything, like white out, dog food,rocks,pencile,you name it, Next on my list is my husband, who has cancer,liver failuer,chronic pain all day, who has lost over 100lbs, must I keep going, ok I have
another who is ADHD,no need to decribe his behavior if miss a day taking ..then I have 8 more kids after them a total of 10 including a 10 month old..NOW DO YOU THINK I DESERVE TO BE A STAY AT HOME MOM?

Tracy - posted on 08/08/2011

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Being a SAHM of school age kids and being a SAHM of infant/toddler/preschool age kids is completely different! I have a 3 year old and an 8 month old, getting the house clean is next to impossible. Soon as I put one thing away 3 more things come out :) My 3yo is at the stage where he always wants to "help" and do everything himself. Life is far from boring at my house and when I get a minute to myself (on the rare occasion) I like to sit and just enjoy the quiet or get a few things done without "help". Yes, I spend plenty of days "lounging" in my jammies, but that's only because I didn't get up at 5am to shower alone. I work 24 hours a day, get no holidays, no vacation time, no sick days...I don't even get bathroom breaks! I LOVE my job, but it's far from boring and anybody who will sit and tell you that is jealous and not happy with their own lives. Being a SAHM is the hardest job I ever had (I thought it would be easy since I taught preschool up to 2nd grade for 5 years), but it's also the most rewarding!

Kathleen - posted on 08/08/2011

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Amen, Jessie Greatorex - my feelings exactly! A friend of mine told me once that she believes some people have children simply so they can check it off their list - sounds like perhaps this woman falls into that category. How sad that she doesn't understand what a gift it is to get to stay home with your children. My children are beautiful miracles and gifts in my life (even though I have to admit that they drive me crazy at times - but I think that's normal for every mom, whether stay-at-home or not) and I am SO thankful my husband agrees that it's worth every sacrifice we have to make for me to be home with them.

Danita - posted on 08/08/2011

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Obviously isn't cut out to be a Stay at home Mom! maybe not even a mom PERIOD! Just goes to show how sometimes people can show their true colors.

Liz - posted on 08/08/2011

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What have you been smoking??? Being at home with my kids is the best thing in the world.

Rachel - posted on 08/08/2011

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All I can say is that it's much easier to pull someone down than to raise them up, and I think it's just sad that this person defaulted to such a mean attitude. I am home with my children with the exception of a job that I work for 4 hours one night a week. My children are almost 3 and 19 months, and I am completely spent at the end of each day. I am spent from meeting the needs of my children, and that means feeding, napping, loving, nurturing, trying to start life lessons that should come from home and a parent. At the end of each day my house is (still) the disaster it was the day before, and through my own exhaustion, I make myself choose 12 things to clean/pickup. That is how life works when your life revolves around being an active parent.

Perhaps this person had more down time because her children are school aged, but I think it comes from a very ugly place in one's heart to put others down to make yourself look/feel more valid.

Jennifer - posted on 08/08/2011

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WOW! This lady has nerve. I have an 11, 9, 7, and 4.5 year old. I am always busy! Between getting the older ones to school, then running errands with the youngest, trying to keep the house clean, and spending time with each child, not to mention getting them from here to there and everywhere. I also am active in their activities. I lead 2 of their Gir Scout troops and am on the PTO of their school. My son has different issues that I have to see many doctors for. Now that it is summer time, it's either keep htem busy or lose what little of my mind I have left! Wish she would visit me an help me to become bored, cause I don't have the time for it!

Kristina - posted on 08/08/2011

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I've been a stay at home, homeschooling mom for the majority of my children's lives. I've rarely had a problem getting everything done. Granted, I've only had 2 children, but I don't see what all the fuss is about. Make a schedule. Do a little bit everyday and things get done. I've never found it to be rocket science. Of course, there are exceptions, i.e., multiple children, sickness, emergencies, over-scheduling, too many outside the home activities. But being so busy every single day that you can't get basic housework done is just being unorganized, IMO.

Kandy - posted on 08/07/2011

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Just because she feels that way, doesn't make it true. Don't worry about her. She has a right to feel anyway she wants too.

Darla - posted on 08/07/2011

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Some SAHM's do not have enough time..I can relate to that saying as I have 5 kids the youngest is 2 and have to run kids here and there, on top of housework, and I am an online student and that requires alot of time. My house is never totally clean but who cares...if someone does not like it then dont come but it is clean enough.

Dawn - posted on 08/07/2011

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I'm a S.A.H.M. and I all I have to say is "to each her own" everyone is different.

Amy - posted on 08/07/2011

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I understand that! I'm not crazy about housework either but grocery shopping is ok if I can do it by myself lol.

Amy - posted on 08/07/2011

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I'm a sahm too and I've found myself doing both extremes. My boys age 4 and 10 months often play by themselves or with each other. I found myself being lazy and sitting on my butt most of the day. Lately, however, I've adjusted my priorities and keep myself busy most of the day. I'm either cleaning or playing with the boys. I've found it's much more fulfilling to keep busy then to let myself get bored by not doing anything.

Patrice - posted on 08/07/2011

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Lol... I can't even get mad at her status b'c I have thought the same thing on numerous occasions. I am a single, stay-at-home mom/student of 3 with a spotless house (no I do not pay a maid). A PTA mom, a classroom mom and the neighborhood sitter.... yet I still get bored at times. I have 3 degrees and am used to working and going to school on a campus. Being a stay-at-home mom isn't for everyone. I wasn't meant to be home for 6+ hours cleaning. My kids and I share the chores equally, so they can grow up to be self-reliant adults. I never have to clean while they're gone. Boredom totally sinks in. I love my kids to pieces, anyone who knows me can clearly see that. I spend so much time with them when they're not at school. We're very close but, dang, I miss having a life outside of just being a mom.

Jenni - posted on 08/07/2011

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It's really relative to the age of your children, how many you have, how high you set your household standards, how many activities your children are involved in, how much time you spend entertaining your children, if your children are in school full time... if my children were school-aged I believe I would have a lot more down time.

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2011

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her kids are at school. that's why she's bored. they're not home messing up the house and demanding food all day. LOL.

Amanda - posted on 08/06/2011

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She needs toa take a visit to my house if she's bored and has nothing to do. It's far from boring here

Katherine - posted on 08/06/2011

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I have 2 kids, 5.5 and 2.5 and it's no joke: I have NO free time. She needs to rethink her statement seriously. She has nothing to do because someone probably does it for her. She probably has a babysitter or nanny that takes care of everything. What a jerk.

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I will admit as a stay at home mom that i get very bored, even while doing things with the kids. I can also say that once upon a time as a working mom... I got bored. Do I create "down time" for myself as a stay at home mom? You bet your ass I do. Mothers need it. Now there are some stay at home moms that do nothing but sit on their ass all day... giving us "active" stay at home moms a bad name, just as there are career driven moms (that may neglect family) who give working moms a bad name that manage to balance the two.



I have been on both sides, Ive been a working mom now im a stay at home mom and I can honestly say that being a stay at home mom is much more draining, physically emotionally and mentally than working ever was for me. There are days when I would prefer to work again, but the way I see it is quit simply, I dont need or want anyone else to raise my kids (daycare/babysitter) I have the option to stay home with them and thats what I choose to do.



@Denikka

order take out 90% of the time (no, or at least fewer, dishes) ETC.

I dont feed my family junk, I cook every day, especially for my husband, he works all the time the least he deserves is a warm home cooked meal and he gets it along with so much more.



I should add that Im in no way being sarcastic with this post, just puttin in my two cents :)

Denikka - posted on 08/06/2011

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Oh you can have PLENTY of down time as a stay at home mom.
Just don't plan out activities for your KID(cause multiples are time consuming, not to mention, if there's no activities, like finger painting, arts and crafts, etc, there's no mess), have a dishwasher, don't dress your kid at home (no extra laundry), order take out 90% of the time (no, or at least fewer, dishes) ETC.

See ladies, it is possible to have enough time to be bored as a stay at home mom.
Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go clean up the sarcasm and little bit of disdain that I just dripped all over the floor XD

Gabby - posted on 08/06/2011

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Wow, I am a 19 year old mother of a 9 month old. My life is anything but boring !

Not only do I take care of my 9 month old but I have to try and keep up with laundry, cleaning, cooking my daughters food and online schooling. People have no clue how hard being a SAHM is until they have walked in our shoes, so they shouldn't judge us.

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Tara I completly agree with you! I dont put my house work before my kids or even my husband. Im a mother of three... 8,2(almost 3) , and 8 months. Now my house is not dirty, with those ages in kids it does get messy but at the end of the day if my kids are happy, fed and warm, ive done my job as a mother. And thats what I am FIRST and foremost!

Raechil - posted on 08/06/2011

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I am 18 years old and the stay at home mother of a 2 month old baby boy. My house is a wreck. The laundry is in the living room but clean. dishes need to be washed. trash needs taken out. but my son is more than taken care of... I play with him while he's awake... usually sleep when he sleeps... and at night when he's sleeping is my best chance to get stuff done and I cant then because my Bf and his sister actually sleep at night. Yeah I could do it during the day while he's awake but I'd rather use that time to play with him and make sure he knows he's loved so Yeah I'd be pissed too.
In order to get it all completely done you would have to ignore your kids or miss out on some sleep.... Just my opinion anyways.

Tara - posted on 08/05/2011

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I'd be pissed, especially if she's supposed to be a friend.

You can't make that whole "those that say they have too much to do and can't do it, that's a full crock" statement without first having walked in another person's shoes. Some people have physical issues that interfere, some have kids with special needs - there are a boatload of reasons for people to get behind on the things that people like that figure you are "supposed to do".

Honestly, my house isn't spotless, sometimes there are crumbs/food spills that take time to clean up, laundry sometimes waits until the weekend - whatever. My kids are healthy and happy and they know damn well that THEY are my priority first, chores get done when I have the opportunity.

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