Think my Bf might be loosing interest in me

Patti - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mom of a 10 year old and a 6 month old.I still have some of the baby weight from when I had my 6 month old. I have tryed loosing it but it is hard as I had to have a c section. And in the last few days I feel like my Bf is loosing intrest in me as any time we pass a pretty girl he makes a comment. I told him I was trying to loose the weight and he told me that he did not care as he still thought I was pretty. But last night I found out that he is still useing POF even after saying that he would deleate his account. He has only messaged one girl and made a comment on how he thought she looked great for having 4 kids. I dont know what to do.

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Tracy - posted on 05/11/2011

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i WOULD BE REALLY CONCERN THAT HE IS ON A DATING SITE. i HAD MY LAST C SECTION 8 YEARS AGO AND i HAVE NEVER THE LOST ALL THE WEIGHT BUT YOU GOT TO BE HAPPY WITH HOW YOU LOOK IN ORDER FO HIM TO BE HAPPY WITH YOU THAT IS IF HE NOT..I WISH YOU THE BEST

Chrystal - posted on 05/10/2011

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I think he is being very disrespectful towards you and you should tell him that. Let him know that if he doesn't stop than, there is always somebody that can take his place. Good luck and I'm sorry you are having to go through that with your boyfriend.

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Sounds like there are definitely problems in that relationship. You have to ask yourself whether YOU are still interested in him.
If you are, ask yourself why, and if those reasons are worth what you will have to do to make the relationship work.
There are no wrong answers, but you are the only one who can answer.

If you still love him, it is worth making an effort, a REAL effort--marriage counseling, cutting hurtful people completely out of your lives, etc. If you are just staying for the comfort of a relationship, or because he is the father of your child, you may need to move on--YOUR happiness is the most important right now, because if you are not happy, your children cannot be happy.

Patti - posted on 05/10/2011

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We have been togeather about 2 years we broke up for a bit because another women was sending him sexual text messages and I got made when I found out. He told me that he kept telling her that he was with me but then turn around and keep texting her.
Then funny thing is he is alittle over weight himself and I never say anything about it.
The worst thing is when we got back togeather I only asked two things from him 1) not to talk sexualy to the other women again but he could still be friends. 2) To deleate his POF account. And he said he would and now I find out that not only has he not deleated it but now he is back using it.

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A dating site? NO. Dating sites are for Dating, Facebook is for making friends.

How long have you been together? It is rude to make comments about pretty girls to one's girlfriend. It's fine to look discretely, I know I check out my fair share of hotties, and I'm sure my husband does the same, but we do not blatantly point them out to each other--that can do nothing but hurt feelings.

I have been known to tell my husband he needs to loose a few pounds, but I do it LOVINGLY. He is significantly older than I am and I need him to be healthy. It is one thing to encourage someone to make healthy choices, it is quite another to bully someone into an eating disorder, and what he is doing sounds more like bullying than encouragement.

I would suggest marriage counseling. I know you are not married, but you have a kid together, so I'm assuming you mean to be in this relationship for the long haul. My husband and I have been doing counseling for 6 years (notice the correlation with my child's birth? lol). We are now at a point where we only go twice a year, for "maintenance" (lol), but in the thick of our issues, it really helped us to understand each other, and how our actions/words were making each other feel.

Patti - posted on 05/10/2011

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Plenty of fish its a dating site he says he uses it to make new friends but its all pretty girl he looks at.

Montana - posted on 05/10/2011

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i was 130lbs when my hubby and i met. after 7yrs together and 3 pregnancies later, I am much heavier than I was 7rs ago. I also had to have a c-section. I opted for the mirena birth control. Ive read that other women on that have a hard time losing the weight. i know my husband loves me but i see him looking at the other women. sometimes it bugs me and sometimes i think it doesnt matter cuz i seriously doubt that chick in the string bikini has had any kids lately. summer is upon us and i have vowed to stay active. i dont workout but i am learning other ways to get my excersize in. i think for me it will always be a battle. after i had my daughter i lost all the preggy weight in a year. but i was working and on my feet all the time. idk... time to get back on weight watchers for me and now that the weather is nice start strolling the baby everyday.

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