Thinking of baby #2

Brittany - posted on 09/27/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




Okay,lets see where too begin!Ive been thinking of having another baby bc my son is the only child and he has NO ONE too play with and Im having baby fever.I actually convinced my boyfriend (sons father)too have another one.We want too start trying too concieve in March 2012,thats when my son will turn 3.I will turn 22 in March also.My life is kind of lonely I dont have many friends and my bf works alot.So im feeling this empty spot of bring another bundle of Joy into our lives.My bf will be at top pay at his work in June 2012 and plans on pretty much retiring from there.I finally lost all my baby weight it took 2 years.But how is the adjustment of having 2 Kids?Tell me the pros and cons :)Im hoping how we try in March (the baby should be born in Decemeber 2012 and my son will be 3 years and 9 months about that time!Should I wait and enjoy the myself with one child or is about 4 yrs a good age difference too have another kid?I just know I dont want my son growing up alone.


Bonnie - posted on 09/28/2011




If you and your boyfriend truly want another child, you should do it. There is no time like the present. You never know how long it will take to become pregnant the second time around either.


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√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 09/28/2011




Don't wait! If you want them to play together, don't put more of an age gap between them because chances are they will not play together like you are envisioning even longer because the older one will be too much older.

Why does your son have no one to play with? Are there no other kids near you? When he starts school, all of that will change anyway, you know that right? He'll make friends :)

It's a lot easier with the second - I just had my second. It's not bad at all. Just make sure you have help for the first week or two OR help lined up for the time you need to spend in the hospital. That is something I didn't even think of so my poor parents ended up helping watch my toddler while I was stuck in the hospital for a week due to a csection AND I couldn't lift my toddler for 4 weeks! :(

Good luck! Hope its everything you imagine it is :)

Michelle - posted on 09/27/2011




Go for it. I have 3 and thinking back 2 was an adjustment but not as big of an adjustment as 3. My first two are 16 months apart and the difference between the middle one and the youngest is 21 months. The age difference you have makes it not quite as hard. The older the oldest is the more helpful and independent they are. A baby is not going to cure your loneliness, but a baby is a wonderful thing. If you wait too long the age difference will probably be too great if you're hoping for a playmate . My nephew was 8 when my niece was born and they do play together sometimes but more like playing with a babysitter or adult relative then playing with a peer. So anyway baby's are always good and go for it.

Sarah - posted on 09/27/2011




Well, I think you should go for it. :) I have a 2 year old & I just found out I'm expecting baby #2! I'm a little scared but thrilled at the same time! My son & the new baby will be about 2 years 9 months apart. I think it will definitely be challenging, but people do it every single day. I say if you are financially, emotionally, and physically ready to handle another baby, then why not go for it. ;)

Brianna - posted on 09/27/2011




i think you should go for it :) i have baby fever aswell and cant wait to get pregnant :) im planning on starting to try and concieve in nov or dec.. (i wanted to start nov which would be a aug baby but now my best friend is getting married in aug soo im think i might wait another month cuz when i would be due just after there wedding date and iwont wanna go into labor at the wedding lol plus im making there wedding cake) my daughter is 22 months now so if i concieve in nov or dec my kids will be 2 year 9 month or 2 years 10 months apart. my daughter should be independed enough that its not superhard to have to kids but they will be close enough together that thye can still play together (i find if there to far apart they have nothin in common and wont play well together). I dont blame u for not wanting ur son to grow up alone cuz i wouldnt want that either. I think that in the mean time you should join a moms group in ur area (i go to mom and tots swim at the pool) and make new friends with kids. good luck :)

Adrienne - posted on 09/27/2011




Having a second child can bring so much more joy into your life. It can also be very difficult. Personally, I would not have another child just to provide a playmate for my first and because I was lonely though. You might try finding a moms group on, or even starting one of your own. It will be awhile before the two children want to play with eachother in any case, and having an infant and a toddler at the same time can be a LOT of work.

Good luck, and I hope I helped!

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