three year old devil spawn

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I know it sounds horrible, but he really is im at my wits end with him. I have been out of work for over two years do to medical problems, and I have to resist the urge to beat the craps out of this kid. I stay with my uncle who is in his 60s and never haf kids wife girlfriend nothing. He gives my son everything and anything he wants just so he doesn't have to listen to him cry whine temper tantrum what ever you want to call it. He will see me making dinner and what does ge do gives him soda candy chips what ever so he wont eat his dinner. This is every night for the past 2 1/2 years. I cant even remember this kid had an actual meal because of him. Now he had him addicted to damn video games just to make him be quite. Its my uncle's ps3 so its not like I can take it away and hide it. Yesterday I unplugged it and my uncle threw a fit. Now because of all of this the little shit doesn't listen to a thing me or my fiance say to him he just runs to my uncle and if I yell or try to discipline him i get yell at. I know the logical thing would be to move and I would love to but sadly with me not being able to work there is no way we could afford anything. Rent assistance and all of that are full and have been closed for the past two years so there is no hope in that either. I have tried talking to my uncle about all of this at least 150 times and he refuses to change his ways. Im ready to sign over my parental rights to his father because I cant take it anymore. He never sleeps either he is up till three four in the morning playing he will not stay in his bed and runs to my uncle every time. I have completely given up on this kid because no matter what me or my fiance try to do with rules boundaries anything are imidetly futile. Im in constant unbearable pain due to my medical problems and I have zero patients left. Im at a loss of what to do an I cant take it anymore.

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I physically cannot work I can't stand or sit for more then 15 minutes without being in massive amounts of pain more so then I already am. You dont know how I feel every day so dont try to act like you do. I bet you have pain meds that help I dont haven't been able to fiance anything yet that does. My fear of cars how about I can't get in them they are too low...... I love jow people pick and choose what they want to read and understand rather then everything im saying. ..... Iwwould love to work again but I can barley make it to the damn bathroom

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As for my finances truck he pays more a month then he should just to pay it off sooner. He tried to sell it but he loves his truck and selling it he would regret so I wont let him. Cars are a death trap i have problems getting into them since they are so low to the ground anyway. So truck isn't going anywhere. Plus I would much rather get into an accident with a truck then a car thats just me. With loans the interstate rate on them is insane I will not ever take one out and how would i pay this back the o yes the magical money tree in my back yard. Knitting can't do it hands dont want to work most of the time as is (arthritis) Im lucky if I can get a bottle open. Those push squeeze tops can't do it so knitting wont happen.

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He does see him on the weekend and pays child support but that is only $200 a month. Which is just enough to cover diapers so on and so forth for him. I do receive food stamps which covers our food otherwise we would be screwed in that department. I have been going through the disability loop around for over a year its hard to get and they take their happy time with it. So how can I afford at the very cheapest $750 a month in rent I can't. As for "internet" my fiance got me a phone two Christmases ago so three g. I'm horrible because I wont live in the hood dealing with incompetent f***tards my fiance wouldn't let us move there anyway. Also most people have a strong urge to beat the shit out of someone at one point or another. I can admit it kids aren't my strong point its people in general I hate people. I have already stated I want to move but we cant unless I get ssi disability something. As for my uncle I can't control what he does he is up at 5pm and up till at least 4am he doesn't work either. He is set in his ways and if something doesn't go how he wants it to he flips shit. I realize he is my son but he will nit do anything the way I want it to be done so am I supposed to go buy a cattle prod and shock him..... pretty sure thats illegal. I have no car I dont even know how to drive add-in on to the fact im only 23 how do I magically have money to do things. I have only worked two jobs my whole life which was 2 1/2 years before my health took a complete shit. Last year I tore the ligament in my left knee walking hurts and is almost impossible mind you. Recovery from it was almost a year due to all the complications. Then this February the same ligament in my left knee went to so had to go through that all over again. Now my backn is curving in two different directions and the lower dics are degenerating. Which is extremely painful. Not adding onto the fact I have arthritis, lupus, and fybromialga. The amount of pain im in everyday is unreal which for normal people hurting that bad would put anyone in a bad mood and make them extremely irritable.

Snow - posted on 10/13/2014

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I agree, you have to put your foot down. That child needs some serious discipline NOW. Time out won't work on this kid, he needs a butt busting. Other parents in the country are weird about it, which is why we have disrespectful heathens running around. If my daughter disrespects an adult, she gets a spanking. I look at other children, and always see what a well behaved kid she is. So, spankings work.

If your uncle doesn't want to raise him himself, he needs to butt out. I don't agree with giving children soda, or video games. Video games aren't allowed because I've seen first hand the damage they cause to children, ESPECIALLY at a young age. When introduced young, you have no chance at all unless you get rid of the console forever.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but I think even you know what you should do. If you don't act like his mother, who will?

Michelle - posted on 10/11/2014

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I'm sorry but your child deserves better than a Mother who wants to beat the crap out of him.
If you really want to help him then you need to find a way to get out of your unlce's house. While he is undermining your parenting your son will never listen to you.

Lori - posted on 10/09/2014

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do you understand the uncertainty that your child has been living with for that past three years of his little life? this has to be hard on your child? could that also be causing the behavior issues?

there is no stability in his life - at all. soda should be the least of the concerns.

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My fiance works full time and also part time side jobs everyday. He is gonna alot but almost everything he makes goes to his truck payment the insurance and the $8000 in medical bills he has from when he hit a deer with his motorcycle last year. I have had two knee surgeries and my back is curving in two different directions so im pretty well screwed. I have looked at the low income housing in the area I live and its all in places I will be attacked just for being white. I will not put myself in that kind of situation here isn't much better but at least I dont have to worry about having to shoot someone in front of my son.

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He came after me with a butcher knife so I left him. I have tried all of that and if im bed ridden which I usually am I cant take it away my son knows how to hid stuff and not let me see it because he knows it will be taken away. If I said even a few things I want to say to my uncle he would kick me out I literally have nowhere else to go but under a bridge. My mom abandoned me when I was 16 left to fend for myself. I have no other family. So I have to choice but to stick it out until there is someway for us to get at least $800 more dollars of income so it is possible to move.

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