Tired/Stressed Mom of 2/ I just need to vent!!

Amber - posted on 09/15/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a SAHM of two sweet little boys ages 3 & 1 with a husband I love very much. I am sick to death of cleaning! I feel like I get absolutely no where because of my children/husbands constant messes. I say husband because he will allow the boys to tear the house apart without batting an eye. He could care less what the house looks like. I however am constantly being judged and talked about by his mother. She would show up unannounced at dinner time, stay for an hour while not taking any food, then rush home to gossip to anyone who would listen about what a crap house keeper I am because there were dishes in the sink and laundry to be done. Luckily, she got angry when my husband asked her to call before coming over.

On the weekends my husband likes to spend time with the kids and I. I am grateful and love to spend time with him too; but there are times I need to be alone without being worried about the kids. I can usually get him to take the kids outside so that I can have some me time, but after a half hour or 45 minutes, he starts calling me every ten minutes telling me to come 'spend time with the family'. I am 'with the family' all day, everyday. When he starts calling me I am torn between screaming or crying. I am so stressed out and tired from trying to get time to think. Am I the only one?

I just want a day off. No jumping up every 30 seconds to play referee/chef/waiter/maid. I know that is what being a SAHM is about, but I am still a human being with limits. I shouldn't have to break into tears just to get my husband to realize I really DO need a break from the kids with out coming back to a disaster. I also get sick of him telling me to jump up and take care of the kids so he can keep watching tv and drinking beer. I understand he wants to unwind, but they are his kids too.

Anytime I try to explain this to anyone, nobody gets it. They think I lay around and watch tv all day. Even my own Mother wont help me with the kids, and she is literally a mile from me. If I ask her to watch the kids for a bit to get some shopping done, she whines that she wants to go shopping too. I have to play chauffeur to her! I am a FREE taxi cab on top of everything else because I OWE her for all the rides she gave me as a kid! She offers no gas money, which causes my husband to be angry at me for doing anything with her. So its constant stress in one for or another.

Not to mention that on top of this, my husband is bugging me for a third baby! My youngest just turned 1 just days ago and I still have all my baby weight from that pregnancy.

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Amber - posted on 09/16/2014

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Yes, the same boat! I admire you doing home schooling! I am torn about what I should do about school, but I have 2 more years until I need to worry about that. Good luck on getting time to write!

Just the act of writing that down was a release for me, and hearing from you made it even better. Thank you!

Madcowmobboss - posted on 09/16/2014

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Aww... I know how you feel... I stay home and I have taken on homeschooling this year too! I feel like I am constantly on call! Constantly moving, constantly picking up something, constantly breaking up fights while trying not to get into a fight with my own hubby because I am cranky from all the constant motion... It feels like a never ending work day... I was lucky our four year old just now finally started sleeping all night so I am getting full night's sleep now... I wish I had advice for you... I used to work and I loved the peace and quiet but was torn by my need to be there for my kiddos... So my hubby promised me an hour every day to relax and write (since I'm a writer and that's what my job was) buuuuuttttt it's been a year now and I have not gotten one hour since I quit working... Just know there are women out there (like me) who understand where you are coming from... Good luck sweetie! If you ever need to vent and talk look me up :-D

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