To feel bad or not feel bad?

Johanna - posted on 07/31/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )




I have days when i just want to be alone without kids and boyfriend. Is this bad? There are sometimes that i don't even want to talk to my boyfriend, and he says I have no patience anymore. Patience! I have 2 kids to be patient for..


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I know exactly what you mean. The last few days have been insane in my house and I want to just run away. I feel bad for thinking that way but if I am stressed and emotional, I am no good to my kids, and they pick up on that. we all need our space from time to tome.

Katherine - posted on 08/02/2011




Nope, not bad at all. I feel the same way a lot of days. You work your butt off and need some me time.
Totally normal.

Sunshine - posted on 08/02/2011




Everyone needs some time to themselves but not even wanting to talk to another adult worries me a bit. How old are your kids? You may want to talk with your doctor and see what they think. We all get stressed and need a break but you wouldn't want to over look postpartum depression or just depression.

Ana - posted on 08/02/2011




You shouldn't feel bad. Everyone needs their alone time. My boyfriend will sometimes go into the other living room to be alone. And sometimes I hang out by myself in the bedroom. Everyone needs at least some quiet time if not going out with friends

Jenny - posted on 08/02/2011




Exactly, your kids take up all your patience. I only have one child, an 18 month old son, and I was worried when I was pregnant with him because I didn't have much patience for people to begin with, but strangely enough I have a lot of patience with him, but very little for anyone else. I think it is good to take time for yourself. If you don't have that time away from your kids and your boyfriend, you don't get a chance to miss them and it's easy to start taking things for granted. Plus you need time to reboot yourself!

Stifler's - posted on 08/01/2011




NO. I have one of my kids in daycare one day a week and when the other is old enough she'll be going too. on the same day. So I can have a day of being myself.

Aenea - posted on 07/31/2011




I agree with Chrystal, you have to get that me time for yourself or you just may blow up. It's not like you don't love your family or want to neglect them or make them feel neglected absolutely nothing like that at all. You just want to be able to be you from time to time, we as women can't make our husbands/boyfriends and kids to understand it cause believe me they won't. I have a 12 and 14 yr old as well as a husband for 10yrs. and the three of them tried to play that make me feel bad card and guilty one cause I took a day for me. Even more so I've been doing more for me every chance I get cause I never have done it unless it was a hour there or two hours there and that is not enough. Anyway do you, cause as long as you do then the home life is that much better. Meaning when we unhappy (this is an example) everybody in the house gets an attitude, lol!

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It's not bad to need alone time. It's normal. Tell him that if you got a bit of regular alone time you would HAVE more patience.

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Feeling bad is a waste of time. If you think you shouldn't want time alone, stop having it. I think it's perfectly okay to want time alone. But either way feeling bad about it is pretty useless.

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