Toddler regressing after birth of newborn

Sonali - posted on 02/13/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi, my 2 yr old has regressed since the birth of younger sibling. First of all, he is totally jealous of newborn. Doesn't go near him and totally ignores him. We have tried to engage him in baby care but he doesn't do anything related to baby. Just runs away from baby. If I am holding baby and he wants something from me, he will try to push off the baby from my lap. I am really concerned for he has stopped interacting with me and my husband. Keeps busy himself by playing and thing I am concerned is he is constantly repeating abc . Even if I am talking to himself, he will pretend not to hear and keep saying alphabets. Though he is still affectionate and gives lots of hugs and kisses, but stopped interacting. He repeats every word with his ipad videos but doesn't speak up with us. Really worried. Is there someone in the same boat. What should I do?

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Magen - posted on 02/16/2016

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Hi Sonali, I am kind of in that same boat as you are (or was I should say)... My oldest is 21 months old and he was use to being the only one for a year and some odd days. He was doing just about everything you described up above. shoving the baby hitting the baby. And I explained to him hes too young for you to be doing that (not that he really understands but I still gave it a shot). I brought his brother upto him every chance I got but he still pushed him away and eventually stopped interacting with us all together. But I didn't think of it as him not interacting, more like independence, and getting use to his younger brother. Give him time he will come around. My oldest is now affectionate towards his younger brother. he started bringing his brother everything, giving kisses and hugs, holding his hand. I was surprised when he started to do this... I thought I would never see the day when he did. But, he still has his days when he doesn't want anything to do with him or us. but, for the most part he does great. try and have him help with the baby so he doesn't feel left out, have him near the baby if he will. try to let him know that nothing has changed and you still love him the way you always have....

Aubi - posted on 02/13/2016

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Hi Sonali! I was kinda in the same situation as you are currently in right now when my youngest was born. At the time our 1 year old little boy didn't want anything to do with his little brother, didn't really want to interact with either me or daddy, his eating slowed down and he pretty much isolated himself from everyone. My best advice is just show your oldest ad much love as you can and what he will allow without making him/her mad and just give it time. Your oldest is used to all of your attention at all times so they might feel a little lost and confused. Just give time, now our boys are 18 months and 6 months and love to play with each other! I really hope this helps!

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