TROUBLE GOING TO SCHOOL & WANTING TO STAY

Nicole - posted on 10/14/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter is giving me such a hard time about going to school now. She was doing fine, but the last 2 weeks hasn't wanted to go. She was even 2 hours late today because of this problem. And when I get there, she keeps clinging to me. I even had to pick her up early the past few days. It is all because they have a nap time for an hour a day. They don't even have to nap..just rest. They gave her a pillow (other kids dont even have that) I gave her a toy to play with while she lays there...nothing is working.



Can anyone offer me any other solutions??



Thank you!!



Nicole

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Tonya - posted on 10/14/2009

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Good luck to you too Nicole!! Our son to was just not wanting to take naps in school because he grew out of them at home too and he would remind us of that... I do believe however somedays he comes home and says he has not taken a nap, maybe he lays there with his eyes open too. The reward systems are nice that some schools are using!! My son will come home and say that he got a sticker for being good that day! He too used to want to skip out of some of the classes.. Gym class he said was too hard because those sit-ups make you work hard!! Hoping that it goes better for you! We would discipline at home though too by taking a toy away from him for a few days if the problem was severe enough in school. But yes we are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel, we even thought about switching schools with him but stuck in there and now its getting better...

Tracy - posted on 10/14/2009

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those are great suggestions Tonya, wish I had tried that with my 6 yr old sooner!!!! I just wanted to add, the one thing I learned last year that helped me this year, is to not go and pick them up early from school. thats where the pics and lil notes come in, I just recently was told about that from my daughters teacher, when they call and I'm sure they let you talk to your daughter, if not have them tell her, you are unable to come and get her right now, that you will talk to her after school. I would talk to the teacher too, my daughter didn't want to leave home cuz of her lil sis and me. but the teacher caught on and suggested the ideas that Tonya had suggested and she also has a system of every day she has a good day, she gets a post it with a smiley face on it!!! so far its working and she goes everyday, and I have not got a phone call yet!! My daughter would play the act to her music, gym, and art teachers, til I topld them what was going on!! Sometimes they just need a lil push and reassurance!!! good luck to you and your daughter. oh another thing, do they have to have nap time???? maybe she feels she has to nap and thats whats getting to her...she may not want to even lay down, are they alowed to just sit quietly???

Nicole - posted on 10/14/2009

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thank you very much. some good ideas in there. I never thought my daughter would do this. She loves to play with other kids and shes so smart-- it's just that damn naptime...other than that she oves it! I will try those things out. Once again, thank you very much. And good luck too (sounds like your son is doing well though.)

Tonya - posted on 10/14/2009

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We also have had this same issue with our 6 year old boy.. Being his first year going full-time to school it was hard the last month and finally it clicked in for him that he is going to school.. He would also cling to my leg every time I left.. I even ended up with staying with him the whole day one day in school because he told me he was scared being there... Stressful because he would cry and not want to go.. Anyways, we ended up sending a few pictures of us along with him either put in his lunch box or bag, also his stuffed dog and a blanket he could use at naptime and other kids in our school have a blanket from home, which our school doesn't mind if he has. Ask the teacher if okay?! Also, he was able to bring a few small toys to play at playtime in class and after awhile a few of the kids joined into play...Another mom told me to draw a heart on his hand and draw mom and or dad in the middle and have them look at it and put it close to their heart.. Also, we write a little note in his lunch box. For example, we love you and will see you when you get home. This last week it finally clicked that he had to go to school!! He told us the night before that he would rather not talk about school because we were talking about it to much and that is how it went for a few weeks.. He does come home and share a little and than we usually don't keep talking about it after supper or so otherwise he used to cry and get upset about it. So, we are hoping for a good year now too! I just think their minds are just maturing so much and my child was SO used to being home.

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