tummy sleepers ???

Alisha - posted on 11/27/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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hey everyone maybe u can help me ?? my son is 2 months old and can hold is head up but not roll over we dont smoke in our home but he was a underweigh baby but has gained weight very fast and is double his birthweight now , so ive read tons of reviews on the SIDS issue and just cant seem to find a middle ground he doesn't sleep for very long on his back cuz he startles himself awake but is a little better when swaddled.. he likes sleeping on this tummy so u can pat his back and he sleeps better and longer ... this is my first baby and im kinda feeling a little lost on the topic p.s. my cousin had a baby 10 years ago that passed away from SIDS and extremely worried in that thought PLEASE ADVICE !!!!!

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Devin - posted on 12/01/2009

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my baby is about to turn 3 months and cannot sleep on his back i mean he will scream and cry till u turn him over then pass out.. he goes to bed around 7:30 and sleeps till about 4 in the morning then feeds and goes back to sleep. i was worried about sids too at first but he can hold up his head and turn it so he sleeps good and im not worried about it so much. i think if ur son can hold up and turn his head he should be fine

Melanie - posted on 12/01/2009

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Get youself a movment and breathing monitor. My brother died of SIDS so both my sister and i were on them. I put my daughter on one for a while to. But please remember that they are just a machine and can go off for no reason, my daughters went off a few times and i was so scared! convised that if i didnt have that monitor then she would have died, finaly after many drs continued to tell me when the alarm goes off dont run in and grab the baby dont focus on the alarm focus on the baby check the baby if the baby is still breathing then dont worry that the alarm went off. I finaly started to relax and not freak out every time the alarm went off.

Mandy - posted on 11/30/2009

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my first child was also a tummy baby he would not sleep at all on his back and my daughter is now beginning to sleep on her tummy, i was to worry about sids therefor i went a brought a monitor call babysence which monitor ur babies breathing and sends off a alarm is somethings not right with ur baby, its great for extra piece of mind.

J - posted on 11/29/2009

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Well...I have had three healthy children. All have been tummy sleepers as well. My first daughter had reflux and would not sleep until I put her on her tummy. My second did have any issues, but, would cry and cry until I rolled her on her tummy, and out she went. All of them could moves their heads well too.

But, I also made sure I had a firm mattress, no toys in the crib, no bumbers unless they are up higher. I've heard a simple fan can reduce SIDS, by some high number, like 80-90%. I had all my babes in my room with me until they were rolling over, then I moved them to their own rooms. There are lots of things you can do to help...I guess there is never any guarantees. Hope that helps.

Courtney - posted on 11/29/2009

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hello i have a 4 mth old son how had the exact same problem try wrapping him so his arms dont startle him but i put my baby on his stomach and he sleeps fine the hospital told me its not that bad to put them on there stomachs

Lisa - posted on 11/29/2009

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My middle child could turn himself over onto his stomach at 2 months, even if I swaddled him. He had really bad reflux, was even medicated for it, and obviously felt better on his stomach. He was very strong and could hold his head up well, so I stopped fighting it and put him to bed that way. I just made sure there was nothing in his crib that could cover his face, and they say now to make sure there is good airflow, like a ceiling fan or something. My other two babies slept swaddled, in a positioner, on their sides. That is a good compromise for a baby who startles easily. You could try swaddling him and putting him on his side with rolled up receiving blankets on each side to hold him in place, or a sleep positioner, if you have one. Good luck!

Andrea - posted on 11/29/2009

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i nave a 2 year old daughter and she was a tummy sleeper and i started puting her on her tummy when she was 2 months so that she would sleep longer and she started sleepong throught the night at around 5 or 6 months because of this. You could try doing this in small steps like at nap time because you can check on him during and see how he is doing with it.

Katie - posted on 11/28/2009

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Hi,i'm katie.I have to girls and just a couple of months before my oldest little girl was born my best friend lost her baby to sids.when my kids were babies i worried my self sick over that.have you tried laying him on his side with a pillow are blanket rolled up next to his back?that's what i had to do.

Adrienne - posted on 11/28/2009

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My oldest now going to be 2 1/2 in december would sleep on his back during the night and on his tummy during the day. But when my youngest now going to be 1 1/2 in december would only sleep on his tummy if we made him sleep on his back he never stayed asleep. We always made sure his head was turned to the side. Plus we would wake up and check on him because we were worried about SIDS. If you go and ask the older generations they had a different sleeping position for each older generation. One was on their sides, or on their backs, another was on their tummies.

Shy - posted on 11/28/2009

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My 6 month old as been sleeping on her tummy since she was 7 weeks old (stuffy nose due to cat dander allergy that we found out later and has since grown out of it). She loves sleeping on her tummy, she started to sleep longer and longer and has slept through the night since she was 11 weeks old because she sleeps on her tummy but if we put her on her back she would wake up every hour, if she didnt wake up immediately. I too was extremely concerned with SIDS as well but was a bit more reassured when we purchased a new baby monitor (angel care) with a sensor pad that detects if they stop breathing or moving within 10 secs. It is a bit of an investment (i think 160.00cad.) but also a life saver. I still use it even tho she is old enough now she can roll over on her own and she does the min. she lays down to sleep.

Lyn - posted on 11/28/2009

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my yougest who is now 15 would not sleep on her back. As soon as she was able to she rolled onto her tummu, I got tired of turning her over all the time so i left her and she slept better.

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I would only let them sleep that way when I was a wake until they knew how to move better. When my youngest learned to roll she would roll to her tummy and pass out. Just make sure no toys are extra blankets are in the crib. Good Luck!!!

Carolee - posted on 11/28/2009

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Talk to your doctor about it. I had to lay my son on his tummy because he ABSOLUTELY refused to sleep on his back, even before he could roll over. He would scream and cry the *moment* his back touched the crib. It all depends on what your baby's doctor says.

Renae - posted on 11/28/2009

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The issue with babies sleeping on their tummies is not so much about suffocating these days. Modern cot mattresses are firm, whereas once upon a time they were soft, we are told not to use pillows, pillows used to be used from birth and we are told not to use bedding/blankets/doonas but sleeping bags instead. So suffocation isn't your main concern.



The fact that most babies can lift their heads from birth when on their tummy isn't really relevant because even though they can lift their head, they don't know that they should lift their head. Just like when a baby is capable of picking up toys to play, but it is a few more months before they will think to use their hands to remove a blanket that has gone over their head.



The main concern these days is that babies go into a deeper sleep when on their tummy, which is why they sleep better and why up until the 80's mums were told to put babies on their tummies. (So there are decades of babies who were fine.) The problem with a much deeper sleep is that the part of the brain that stays alert while we sleep and tells us to keep breathing and heart to keep pumping might also shut down and go to sleep. And thus, the baby stops breathing.



If you do decide to sleep him on his tummy (and I know lots of people who did it and their babies are fine and they swear by it) I think you should def get a breathing monitor. The one I had is called Angelcare Sound and Movement Monitor. If baby stops breathing an alarm will sound. Expensive but worth the piece of mind.

Jessica - posted on 11/27/2009

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My daughter sleeps on her belly and has no problem i think that they can actually breathe better this way, if you lay on your back how well can you breathe and sleep? but if you dont want to lay him on his belly then you could do what i did about the startling, when my daughter was younger she couldnt lay down flat because she has acid reflux and would throw up so i had to sit her mattress up but she would get startled (the reason why they do is because they get the feeling that they are falling) so i would fold a thick blanket up or roll it up and put it under her legs and she wouldnt jump or wake up after that and that was the only way she would sleep for a while

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Ok, the SIDS risk is a real one. I know that many parents out their kids on their tummy, and probably we all were put on our tummy. But a lady I know who is a community nurse, and she has been doing her job for many years, and when I had my son she was telling me that when she started in every new mothers class of 10 usually atleast 1-2 babies fell to SIDS, but now with more SIDS awareness it's much much less. Unfortunatly many parents, who don't remember, or weren't born at that time forget how big the risks are. (all this she said to me when my son was still very small).

I would try wrapping him well, and making sure it is secure around his tummy as well as his hands, because that is part of the reason why he likes to sleep on his tummy.

In the hospital I was told that if you need to pat them to sleep on their tummy/side, and then roll them onto their back to actual sleep.

If you really can't get him to ahve a good sleep on his back I'd talk to a community nurse or Dr about it.

Meghan - posted on 11/27/2009

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my son slept on his tummy from 8 weeks old. i decided to do this because he would only sleep for 45 mins on his back, and up to 2 hours on his front.

Christina - posted on 11/27/2009

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My doctor told me to sleep my son on his belly. I was VERY nervous for months honestly. I have finally got over my nervousness. It is easier once he can roll over that will reduce the risk of SIDS. His dr just told me do not put anything in his crib, blanket, bumper, toys, stuffed animals, put him in a well fitting outfit, not too big that it could get in his face. when it would be colder i would put him in a thick footy pajama outfit. not that my son can roll over both ways, i put a blanket on him. Good luck it's nerve-wracking

Alisha - posted on 11/27/2009

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thanks everyone so much for your advice truly a blessing !!!! i think im going to try for his back maybe swaddled til he can roll over then to tummy just for a better internal feeling !!!! - alisha

Pamela - posted on 11/27/2009

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My son has been sleeping on his belly since 2weeks old! if he can hold his head up then i dont see a problem , I hated laying my son on his back ecspecially after eating i was always scared he would choke on his spit up ,

But anyways my son is now 19months old and still sleeps on his belly :)

Laurie - posted on 11/27/2009

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My doctor has said that once they can roll over by themselves you can put them to sleep on their tummies if you want. The primary risk of small children on their tummy is either suffocation - because they can't move their heads once they get face down on the mattress or carbon monixide posioning because they don't move their head and are breathing in their own exhalations. Once neither of these are a problem - i.e. the baby can easily pick his head up and turn it from side to side when on the tummy even if they can't completely roll over, then they should be fine. Alisha, I would tend to put him down on his tummy, not swaddled, with his hands up by his face so that he has some leverage for being able to move his head around when he needs to. Just make sure there are no blankets etc that he could get trapped in. As for your cousin's baby, while it is very sad, it is also fairly rare and also used as a bit of a catch all for deaths of small babies the doctors can't explain.

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both of my kids slept on their tummies as soon as they could roll over, i too freaked out with my first born, however, my doctor told me that as long as they could hold their head up not to be too worried..and to make sure there was nothing in his crib, not even a blanket. for when it is cold we put him in heavier one piece pajamas. he also used a pacifier which i heard helps reduce the risk of sids.

that being said, i still never put them to sleep on their tummies, they just always ended up that way when they could roll themselves over.

my advice to you, is to not put him to sleep on his belly until he can roll over on his own. for now i would try a bassinet, a swing or even a car seat (on the floor of course) to see if any of that helps him sleep better. sometimes they startle less in a small confined area.

good luck!

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i was very scared when i had my son almost 20 months ago because of sids thats all i did is worry an i worried bad, when my son turned eleven weeks old he learned how to roll from back to belly an that the only way he would sleep if i roll him back to his back he would roll right back to his belly in his sleep an i called the doctor an she told me theres not to much i could do, alls you can do is really keep nuthin in his crib an they say having a fan on low has also shown to reduce the risk of sids an i dunno if you give him a binky but that has also shown to reduce the risk an anytime his bink falls out when he s sleep just put it back in his mouth, that what i did an crazy part i still do that. but you also said he cant roll to his belly , that he just likes you to pat his back maybe hold him an pat his back or put him on his belly for a minute while you do it an then roll him back over hope i could help

Becky - posted on 11/27/2009

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i'm not a doctor and strongly believe in going by what doctors say...with my 1st child i did everything by the book. my 4 month old was born wanting to sleep on his belly and only sleeps that way. Against their advise (due to sids which terrifies me) i put him on his belly to sleep. i always make sure his head his turned sideways and away from blankies, toys, etc. he has done really well with it. he has reflux and GI issues really bad and this seems to help him. good luck in whatever you decide.

Angela - posted on 11/27/2009

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I can understand why you worry about SIDS, cause I do to. But, my baby sleeps SO much better and longer on her belly too, she is 2 and a half months old. I do let her sleep on her belly and I feel that she will be fine as long as there are not any blankets or anything to bunch up in her face. Also, if they have a pacifier it reduces the risk of any problems because it keeps them from getting into too deep of a sleep.

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