Tummy Time Woes

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I'm so sad. My 4 month old was doing tummy time and he spit up and face planted into his spit-up. It got in his eye and up his nose and he was SCREAMING for about a half an hour afterward. Every time I put him down he flipped out again. I finally had to put him in his swing so he could settle down and fall asleep for a little while. I feel like the worst mother in the world.

The biggest problem is that he was just starting to *enjoy* tummy time. He actually really doesn't enjoy it but I make him do it anyway to build his muscles.

Has anyone else had this problem? How have you avoided feeling like a failure? I can't believe I made my baby cry and be so upset. It was heart wrenching.

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Lisa - posted on 02/09/2010

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Ahhh tummy time! The midwife at my mothers group showed us a video (from the 70's judging by the crazy mommy hairdo's) about tummy time and now we're all unnaturally obsessed with it! My daughter sometimes loves it sometimes hates it. I never know what her reaction will be so I just flop her on her belly several times a day on different surfaces and see how she goes. Her favorute seems to be my bed but I'm not sure I like her there for extended periods cuz last week her dad came home from work and picked her up after she'd been there happily for a while and she had poo up to her chin and i had to rush the blanket to the laundry mat!!!!
She likes her Bumbo too. It really cute to see her in it cuz she cant sit on her own yet but at 3 mos is holding her head no probs. I think variety is the key with my little one.

Rebecca - posted on 02/09/2010

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I ordered the jumpy seat for my daughter I will keep you posted on how that goes. you keep me posted on that bumbo seat!

Rebecca - posted on 02/08/2010

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Yeah they have them there and Target. I am not sure if walmart has them but I got mine from Target and it was like 10 dollars cheaper!

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Ha! Mine is indeed looking like a bobblehead... But, we tried it again this morning and he seemed to actually enjoy it! I stuffed some blankets behind him so he could hold himself up in the front and not snap his head backward, and it looked slightly awkward but it kind of worked. His feet definitely do not touch the ground though...

I'm going to try one of those seats. Where did you find? Babies R Us?

Rebecca - posted on 02/08/2010

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Rachel sorry took me so long to get back to you (Saints excitement) but my daughter is 13 weeks old and she isnt holding her head up on her own for that long but the seat comes up in the back to keep her neck from snapping back and I sit with her and watch. How is the jumper going because the doctor told me to get her one for leg strength I am worried about getting one because I dont want her to be bouncing around and looking like a bobblehead.

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Here's something interesting - since he doesn't love tummy time and he seems bored sitting in his chair and playing with stuff (or eating stuff), I figured we should get him one of those exersaucer/jumping things. So I read all of these reviews about the Baby Einstein jumper and quite a few moms said their babies (4 months or younger) loved it and could use it. So I went ahead and got it, my husband put it together, and we put our little man in it, and he can't even touch the floor! And he just flops over because he's not holding himself up yet. We even added a blanket to help balance him, but he just sat there and looked mad/confused. I'm going to try again today right after his nap and hope I get him in a good mood, but I don't get how these tiny little babies are using something that is just so enormously large and they can't touch the floor.

Am I crazy??

Trina - posted on 02/06/2010

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My son used to be sick after a few minutes whenever I did tummy time and he hated it. I tried lying face-to-face with him and he liked that. I also tried putting a mirror infron of him and that worked well. But mostly he just lay with his head to the side sucking his thumb!! I had to do really short periods on his tummy. He's now 10 months and is no worse off for not having had lots of tummy time!!

Don't feel guilty and don't let anyone else make you feel guilty. Some babies love being on their tummies and others don't. You know your baby better than anyone, so you decide what's best for him!!!

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That's an interesting idea. Never heard of that before. Does it work if he's not sitting up on his own yet, though?

Rebecca - posted on 02/05/2010

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like i suggested to one mom having the tummy time issues use one of those bumbo seats. my daughter no matter how long after her feeding still throws up if she is on her belly for more than a few minutes. I got the tray that goes with it put a piano on it so she has something to entertain her and she gets the back and neck exersise that she needs. Checked with my doctor and he said as long as I am sitting with her and watching her so she doesnt snap her head back or fall forward its a great idea.

Stephanie - posted on 02/05/2010

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Neither of my kids like it but i still did it not because the doctor told me to but because i felt that it was a good thing for them and yes they screamed and cried but i found doing it a few times a day was better than for long periods of time. Try different toys everytime you put him on the floor try even getting on the floor with him

Angele - posted on 02/05/2010

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its true! I dont like all the fuss abt tummy time. Obviously I still do it but now way would I pressure my baby to do it if she does not like it. babies will develop with or without tummy time. one should see it as an extra stimulation to help the baby develop and explore the world. nothing more...all babies will then develop at their own pace

Angele - posted on 02/05/2010

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hi I know what you are feeling. I had the same problem with tummy time. my baby has hated tummy time since a very young baby. and she still hates being on her tummy and now she is an 8 and a half month old. she now can roll on her tummy but immediately rolls back on her back! I try to do it now to encourage her to crawl. what I found works best for me is to do tummy time several times a day, even if it means at a few seconds each. I used to do tummy time right after a diaper change so I ll remember and sort of she comes to expect it. then tummy time when I was playing with her. and tummy time while watching her fav tv programme. Use a boppy pillow that has helped my baby alot!

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Alicia, I don't know whether to laugh or cry at your story! I'm trying to make up for it now by letting him watch some Sesame Street. I still feel bad!

I'm going to do tummy time a little bit at a time from now on. It just made me feel so terrible because I saw him "swimming" frantically but I thought it was just because he was mad, not that he barfed on his blanket and stuck his face in it! I guess it's kind of funny looking back, but still...

Alicia - posted on 02/05/2010

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Sometimes I think I'll scream if I hear "tummy time" one more time!!!! I know it is good for the little ones, but it is such a cause of stress for us mommies. Can't we just ignore it?!?!?! I agree w/ Angele...a little bit here or there is easier than trying to do it for long periods of time. They will eventually come around to liking it and will develop those muscles just fine. And your son will be ok with it again. Just give it a few days and don't force it.

You can't feel like a failure. It is totally out of your control that he spit up...really, as hard as it is to see them suffer, you cannot put it all on yourself. I once let my son sleep in his own vomit when he was 6 months. He apparently threw up in the middle of the night. I had no idea till the next morning. He even got a rash on his face from it and that little rash just ate away at me for days. How does a mother let her child sleep in vomit??? But obviously, if I knew I would not have let him. I can't blame myself for it just like you can't for this. Trust me, there are plenty of times to come when you accidentally will bump his little head or scratch him or something...it makes you feel terrible for sure. But these thing are all accidents and our little kiddos know we love them and are here to comfort them. In comparison, just think of all the millions of times you have kissed, cuddled and loved him in the past 4 months...it surely makes up for the little mishaps.

Angele - posted on 02/05/2010

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hi I know what you are feeling. I had the same problem with tummy time. my baby has hated tummy time since a very young baby. and she still hates being on her tummy and now she is an 8 and a half month old. she now can roll on her tummy but immediately rolls back on her back! I try to do it now to encourage her to crawl. what I found works best for me is to do tummy time several times a day, even if it means at a few seconds each. I used to do tummy time right after a diaper change so I ll remember and sort of she comes to expect it. then tummy time when I was playing with her. and tummy time while watching her fav tv programme. Use a boppy pillow that has helped my baby alot!

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