UnRuly 3 and 4 year old

Candice - posted on 11/24/2008 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have a son and a daughter they are 12 1/2 months apart... They are constantly gettting into everything climbing on counters, pulling out clothes, getting into my makeup, wasting TP... basically you name it they do it... Not to mention, they DO NOT LISTEN, and spanking and time out does not work. I need advice and lots of help... thanks

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Jessica - posted on 06/29/2014

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I have no idea sweetie. lol, i have a 2 yr old girl and 3 yr old boy both born in the same year so you could only imagine...I get the twice nos. I have researched so much my eyes hurt. Some say do time outs, some also say don't do time outs. Some say give the child a hug until he/she calms down. which on my son really worked. He hated sitting in the chair but he hated getting huggs more. Sounds sad huh? A child who didn't like hugs from his mom, i guess he was just at that stage. Now my problem is after i fix what they were doing bad...they are good...but now back to misbehavin. ugh. Routines, consistencey...Anything you can think of, and try everything , even like with the hugs u think wouldn't work, but did. Maybe the dad just doesn't want to deal with the child, so he lets him do whatever....I tell ya break that habit or you'll have worse problems later. Good luck to ya n your family!

Ashley - posted on 06/19/2014

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Hello, moms! So I, myself, do not have any kids. However, my boyfriend has a 4 year old. Well, the child has to be told 6 to 10 times to do anything. He back talks. He had only 4 smiley faces the entire year of preK. He says awful things.. and he is only 4. Well, I dont know much about being a mom however. This 4 year old plays video games from the time he wakes up til the time he goes to bed. Actually, this past weekend we all went yardsaling, and I asked and then told the child 6 times to stay away from an animal bc he is deathly allergic.. well of course he didnt listen cuz I dont think he has every listened to 1 thing.... EVER!!! Anywho. As soon as we got home after not only did he misbehave and ignore us the entire time we was out... but back talked the ENTIRE time.. then when we got home.. his dad told him to go play video games. The way my boyfriend is allowing his child to control our lives is destroying our relationship. And I have no idea what to do... everytime I say something to my bf we fight BAD! HELP! Please!

Candice - posted on 11/25/2008

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Yeah, my kids don't do nap time anymore... I have tried but they just will not be still long enough to even try....

Ricarda - posted on 11/25/2008

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I've found that with my kids if they are acting like brats it's usually something I've forgotten like I'm running late with snack time or they are over tired because they didn't get enough sleep I've found the best way to get my kids to respond to disipline is to make sure they are getting adequate sleep with my kids it's about 10 hours and to be as scheduled as possible with meals. No kid wants to go to bed early but if they have to get up at 6 they need to be asleep by 8.

Erica - posted on 11/25/2008

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I agree with Dawn 100%! You have to be consistent. That means every time, no matter where you are or if you're tired. It is dificult at first, but kids want consitency in thier llives. You have to follow through with threats of punishment. One thing that has worked for me is staying calm and refusing to argue with my son. Children learn from unpleasant consequences...you're not being mean, just a good mom! Good luck!

Melanie - posted on 11/24/2008

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Sometimes, when I have had one (or two or three) that continue to be mischievous I have to slow down my own response. It sometimes works to make them help clean up the mess. I know that it is time-consuming but it is a good way to teach them.

Penny - posted on 11/24/2008

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OMG as i sit here I am trying to get my 7 & 9 year old to behave... I am at my wits end, I am sick of listening to myself , I have tried everything, not yelling , yelling, time outs, I need super nanny..... I am not online every minute and am always doing something with them, last night we played some board games... I am so tired of them misbehaving and feel like I need some help too.... why do they need to behave so badly? I am a loving mom, tell them all the time when they do good things, reward them for it... why why why ???? i am consistant , I am just tired of the way they ignore me, and have no respect for me , school says they are wonderful students, and I cant believe they are talking about my kids.... it's me... how do I fix it?

Dawn - posted on 11/24/2008

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You have to be consistent with the time out, they need to know that you mean business.I find consistencey goes a long way....hope this helps!!!!

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