Very advanced 21 month old who just wont let the pacifer go. Need advice

Rachelle - posted on 06/06/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a beautiful, very advanced 21 month old girl. She was completely walking at 8 months, potty trained at 1 1/2, and talks great, but as advanced as I feel she is, she is soooo attatched to her pacifer still. I am not one of those moms who give in because she cries and give her whatever she wants. I keep it hiddentil sleep time to try to ween her off it, but she is literally heart broken. I know she doesnt need it because when we are going to leave the house, she throws it and leaves, so she only wants it in the house. I tried cutting the tips off them and saying they were broken but that didnt go over well. Any ideas on a semi painless way to get he completely off her pacifer. I know she is still young but she is very tall and very ahead of herself progress wise, so I really have an issue with her being on the pacifer anymore.


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Ali - posted on 06/11/2010




Neither of my kids took the pacifier. They both rejected it completely. And they don't suck their thumbs. Thank God because you can't take it away. Having said that, I believe in "out of sight, out of mind". That's not to say that it will happen instantly, but children adapt extremely quickly. I would say come up with a somewhat gentle approach to taking it away and then don't let her see it again. She will be upset for maybe a day or two... My guess is three at the most. And then most likely she will forget about it. However, I could be totally wrong. I don't know this from direct experience. It just sounds good... on paper, anyway. Good luck!

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I know that this is usually a blanket answer for all baby questions, BUT they all develop differently. Honestly if it were me, I wouldn't worry so much, because she is so advanced in other areas. Most kids seem to have an area they excel in and one they lag behind in. My own daughter was advanced with fine motor skills and hand dexterity but very average with talking and a little behind in gross motor skills. Since your daughter is growing and changing so fast, she may just need that pacifier just a little longer. As a matter of fact, my daughter turned 2 a month ago, and this is only her third night sleeping without her pacifier and she's doing great. If I had tried to take it a month ago, she would have flipped. As with everything else, we just have to follow their cues. Not the answer you were looking for, but I hope you found encouragement in it.

Crystal - posted on 06/11/2010




I saw an episode of super nanny, and she told the little girl that it was time to give up the pacifier for the new babies in the world. You take all the pacifiers and put them in a gift bag, and the tie it to a low branch in a tree or something similar. then that night you exchange the paci's with a present of some kind. then when you check it in the morning your daughter should be happy to get a new present for all her paci's. maybe the more paci's the bigger the present or something. but you can only do it can convince her by saying that once she turns two, it is time to pass on her paci's to new babies, and the paci-fairy will come and get them...kinda like the tooth fairy. Or angels, depending on what you think is more likely to work. you can even take her to a nursery somewhere, like a daycare or hospital. if they let you, and let them "give them to the new babies" but they might not be able to do that because of germs, so they might toss them away, but at least it is a good thought, and it helps with the whole "sharing" lesson. I hope this helps you in some way. Good Luck!

Heather - posted on 06/06/2010




I feel you sweetie! I have a 3 1/2 yr old girl who is also very advanced and big for her age. She is a thumb sucker and it drives me crazy. However we have found that trying to force her to stop just made thing worse. She is now only sucking it when she is sleepy or going to sleep. I asked the doctor and he said paci's and thumbs, especially in girls are the hardest habits to break especially when they are taking leaps and bounds in all other areas of development. Good Luck and don't stress too much. She will stop when she is ready.

Katherine Leslie - posted on 06/06/2010




why is it a bad thing. she is only 21 months. it isn't bad. I have seen lots of kids a lot older still having them out and about. but I don't know you could just throw them all away. or tell her big girls don't need them, or try just not letting her have it, tell her if you don't need it when we are not home; you don't need it here. but it might be a confert thing and that is hard to brake. maybe you can do a gift thing with her for not using it. like a little something. then when she is doing really good off of them start to change her gifts to something else. then she might just give up on it. I am sorry I really can't help my oldest stopped on his own at 26months and my second son stopped at 3 months. I am sorry that is all I can think of. good luck

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