We don't work?!

Angelica - posted on 09/25/2015 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I've been a stay at home mom since my first set of twins were born ¬ a day passes that I don't here that I don't work

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Lisa - posted on 09/28/2015

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Wow... I think you definitely need to let him take the kids for few days. My husband has always been very appreciative about what I do in the home. But last year I went back to work for about 8 months during my pregnancy with my daughter. I worked in the am until 1pm and came home to let him go to work at 2. When I came through the door, there was almost never a day when he wasn't frazzled and exhausted by our 1 son, who is 4. He would always exclaim, " I don't know HOW you get everything done that you do!! I just can't!!". It made me feel good to know that he understood from experience, and I no longer devalued myself for not working OUTSIDE the home. Now we have 2 children, the 4 year old boy and 10 month old girl, and I am considering going back to work again. I want to save up some money for our family so that we can have a nice Christmas vacation. But I feel bad because I know how hard it was on my husband when I worked. And I know he doesn't really want me to go back, but he is very supportive and won't tell me what to do. Anyhow. I just wanted to share my story with you so that you know how valuable and special you really are. I think you might consider doing what I did, so that your husband is able to spend some time in your shoes. He needs to understand that a MOTHERS job is the HARDEST job in the world! NOT A CAKEWALK LOL!!! No pun hahaha! He also would benefit from knowing that there are many other parts of your job that he may not be recognizing because you are just so damn good at doing them! (ie. Paying the bills, cooking, housework, repairs, errands, school stuff for the kids, and just plain old taking care of your families problems, like the mastermind that you are!).. Tell your husband that you feel unappreciated when he reminds you that you don't work. And if he brings it up again look for a job opposite his schedule so that he may watch the kids while you are at work. This may be the ONLY way that he can understand that you aren't Peggy Bundy. Best of luck!!

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Sasha - posted on 10/16/2015

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Angelica - posted on 10/01/2015

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It hurts that were not appreciated because if they don't appreciate us how will our children.I have 2 sets of twins & while their all school age its still a lot of work

Char - posted on 10/01/2015

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I am dealing with the same issue. My hubby and I have 6 kids all together. A25 yr old son and 23 yr old son from my previous marriage, an 11 yr old daughter from his previous marriage, a 5 yr old son together, and 2 yr old twin girls from his one night stand during our 9 mth separation. I have tried working off and on but mostly been stay at home mom because at 43 I can't physically or emotionally handle a job And taking care of 4 children by myself because he feels his 22$ an hour job is so hard he shouldn't be asked to do Anything else. My hubby is also the type that doesn't see it as a job being a stay at home mom. Its depressing and exhausting trying to make everyone happy..in return getting no appreciation or respect or time for Me. In my current situation now the Bo mom of the twins is being verbally abusive and bad mouthing me to my hubby and hes too scared to say anything to her. They have had a verbal agreement about child support and visitation for almost 2 yrs. But suddenly I've stepped on a nerve with her so she is threatening to get a court order of no contact from me and make him pay child support through the state..which will be almost 3 times what hes paying now. That affects this whole family..not just me..not just him. Her tactics are manipulative in my opinion and I can't do anything about it. I now feel he cares more about making her happy than he does about making me happy.
I hope your situation gets better :)

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