What about me????

Nicole - posted on 03/19/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello, I need some advice. I'm a stay at home mom/wife, my daughter will be 2 years old in April. My husband has to work OT to make enough money to pay the bills. We have one car, which he drives to work everyday. So my daughter and I are almost always stuck home unless one of our family members comes and picks us up. I have a lot of guilt, like I'm not getting Kayla out of house enough or around people or other toddlers. She watches a lot of tv when I have housework to do though out the day, which leads to guilt. Every night I lay in bed thinking about ALL the things I feel guilty of. I'm so scared of "ruining" her. I pray every night that she won't be anything like me. I've had a hard life. I'm battling depression and addiction ( been clean since 2008) so that's what I mean by ruining her. I'm also VERY emotional person. Any advice????

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Ami - posted on 03/29/2013

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The simple fact that you have reached out says a lot, it means that you recognize there might be an issue but, I think you are being to hard on yourself. I really believe your daughter is going to be the beautiful well rounded little girl you hope she will be simple because you are aware and paying attention to her needs. Sit back and take a look around there are so many children who seem to get pushed off on to the public school system with out so much as being able to say their own name. You are there for her you love her you have created a safe warm home for her, give yourself some credit and you know what I bet she is an amazing little girl who is strong just like her mom. So what if she watches TV let people judge they aren't in your shoes. My daughter turned three in Oct and she still isn't potty trained and I am just now letting her feed herself. It isn't that she can't it's because I can't handle the mess. And the Potty training I forget to take to the bathroom. So basically I suck as a mom. What I am trying to say is no matter how everyone tries to portray them selves we all have our faults. And its up to our kids to live through them!

Nicole - posted on 03/20/2013

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Thank you. I've been waiting for K to be this age and the weather to be nice. We both love being out doors. I've read in here most SAHM have the same issues as me. I know how to fix most of them but making the effort some days is to hard. Every time I'm with some of my family members the always preach to me about what I need to do, what I'm doing wrong and how I should be trying to fix it. I'm just worried its bad for K. I want to make sure she has right the tools, skills and understandings to live a great life and to be a good person inside and out.

Ami - posted on 03/20/2013

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First configurations on being clean since 2008! Second I am in the same situation my daughter is 3, only we have no family around only a few friends.

It has been a long hard winter for everyone and I will realize that it has been weeks before I realize that I haven't taken her out. PLEASE don't be so hard on yourself try to realize that there are many women in your same situation. Who feel the same guilt every day and there are women who take their children everywhere enroll them in everything and still feel as if they are not doing right by their child.

Try taking your toddler for a walk every day they will sleep better and help you both get some out door time, and you will be amazed at what your child get fascinated with, each day/week try to focus on something new like grass or snow where does it come from look on the internet try fun "experiments" with it like watching snow melt in a pot and turn into steam. This maybe to old for a 2 yr old now that I think about it but you know your child the very best gear things to him/her. If there is something on TV that they seem to really like try doing it together.

Now realize it is so much easier to preach then practice. I don't do this everyday and there are days I am lucky if I get dressed so please don't think you are alone in this at all, and once summer comes I do promise it will be easier.

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