What are your thoughts on The Duggar's 19th child delivered at 25 weeks? Continue having children??

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my psychology professor brought up, what i thought, was a valid point about the duggars. she wondered aloud if michelle may have some issues with feeling "needed" in the family. it seems as if as soon as one is not a baby anymore, and somewhat independant, she goes and has another. whatever the reason may be, i think that enough is enough, at some point the human body is just not equipped to have that many kids, and will fail her, possibly causing harm to herself and the child.

Maryanne - posted on 01/29/2010

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I'm thinkin she/they should maybe stop now. 18 is sooooo enough. And with this last one having to be delivered early - could be a sign that her body is giving up. Or her uterus is rebelling!

Krystal - posted on 02/05/2010

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I dont think I know anyone who has that many children..so if its a race id say they won.. Enjoy the ones you have and let you chilren take over and enjoy your grandchildren.

Jodi - posted on 02/05/2010

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Michelle, I will just restate that the human spirit has an amazing capacity to love. I have friends whose parents never cuddled, nursed, helped with any teenage angst problems, wiped tears, took any active part in their schooling (BTW, the children are homeschooled, that gives the mother an extra 8+ hours most parents DON'T spend with their children), played with their kids or any of that. Yes, their parents changed diapers and provided food and clothing, but as loving parents they sucked. I don't think the quality of parenting changes with the quantity of children. And if you look at my post it says relationships...not "don't you have 19 children?" People keep saying they can't possibly have a "relationship" with each of their children. Most of us know far beyond 19 people, heck I have over a dozen people with my parents, sisters, their SO's and children and I have very close relationships with all of them, better relationships than some children have with their parents. As for special needs, none of their children are special needs...so what's your point in it pertaining to the Duggars?



As a realist you may not be able to imagine HOW to have deep and abiding bonds with 19 children...but as realist you should be able to admit that you don't have 19 children and so you can't prove it can't be done. I'm sure if you talked to the Duggar children they would tell you otherwise...that it can be done and has been done.

Emily - posted on 02/04/2010

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I think she must be extremly selfish to continue to have more children, her kids have to look after each other, they are children for crying out loud, let them be kids! they shouldnt have to take on that responsabilty, he she cant handle looking after them herself then she should bloody stop breeding like rabbits. The kids dont know any better and of course she can afford it, she gets a shit load of money from the government..i have no problems with big families but 19? is just rediculous and selfish

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Sophia - posted on 09/21/2012

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GOD BLESS HER AND HUSBAND. SHE HAVE CHILDREN TO HELP HER CARE FOR THE OTHER CHILDREN SO SHE CAN HAVE MORE CHILDREN. MOST MOTHERS LIKE MYSELF WE COULD NOT SEE GIVING OUR CHILDREN JOBS AS CAREGIVERS. WE WANT THEM TO HELP AS PART OF THE FAMILY BUT NOT CAREGIVERS. I HAVE 3 CHILDREN ONE ON HIS OWN ,ONE IN COLLEGE AND OUR LETS CALL HIM OUR LITTLE GIFT AT HOME ..I AM SO OUT OF IT AFTER WORK AND HOMEWORK... SEX WHATS THAT?

Judy - posted on 02/26/2010

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I think that they should have what they feel they should have. My mother told me (I'm #4) that she knew she wasn't done. She just wasn't settled. When she had #6 mentally she just knew she was done. When I had #6, I too said I'm done but something in me just caught in my chest when we talked about getting tube tied. Surprise #7 came while we were still trying to set a date for surgery. I gave birth to such an awesome little boy, nodded to my husband and said I'm done. I have no catch in my heart when I get rid of little baby thing or move into the next stage. no regrets.

Samantha - posted on 02/26/2010

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I feel that if they can support them financially and emotionally( and religiously....i mean...granted we only see what the show allows us to see but those are some great children!) and their doctors say its safe for them to continue having as many as they do/ want....then why not. The world needs more decent people in it.

Lauren - posted on 02/25/2010

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I'm surprised that she (Michelle) looks so good after having 19 kids! She looks so young! Feel bad for the newest addition...hope she doesn't have any lifelong problems.



What I'd like to know is where does ol' Jim Bob and Michelle find the time to have a sex life? Are you kidding me? I only have two kids and it's a problem!

Leah - posted on 02/25/2010

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im going to have to say no. The situatuion is sad...not only can these children get any privacy from the public to be themselves, but they are always sharing attention between basically a classroom full of children. I think they should take her premature birth as a sign that michelle's body is not able to carry out a pregnancy anymore and they should no longer continue growing their family. Congrats josh & anna!

Julie - posted on 02/05/2010

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In with Jodi's reply I too was raised Catholic and was taught all that jazz too. I firmly believe that the Duggars are pushing the limit here. I think 19 kids should be enough

Michelle - posted on 02/05/2010

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Jodi, so you are saying those 19 people you know you feed them, change diapers, potty train them, cuddle with each individual one, nurse them, dress them, tie shoes, help with teenage angst, discipline, break up fights and the like, teach them about life, fix their boo boos, help them with their nightmares, clean up their puke/pee/ poop/blood, change bedding when they wet the bed, keep track of who took what medicine when, keep track of who's turn it is for whatever, keep track of schoolwork, play with them (chase them, board games, card games, sit with them and play with their toys with them, play act, etc), read to them, do projects with them, help them when they are sick, get up with them at night, help them if they have hobbies or whatever,help them with homework, help them if they need special attention if they are having trouble with a certain concept &/or subject? If they are learning a sport, music, or you whatever, do you take them to the activity, watch them, and help them if they need it? What if you have a child/children that has special needs and don't realize it? Just attribute to having a difficult child, not to bright child. Like a learning disability, speech, behavioral issues, etc. What about if you did have a special needs child either mental, physical, &/or both. Also, try doing all that when you yourself are sick and a good number of kids are sick. Then taking them to the doctor for yearly appointments and/or sickness along with going to your OB appointments. Let's not forget all the myriad of duties of having children, basically be with them, be there for them 24/7 365 days? Then also have time to cook, clean, be with your spouse, have time for yourself or do you have everybody/somebody else do that for you. And do all this while being constantly pregnant and/or recovering from pregnancy.



FYI, I'm talking about a parents relationship with their children not with their own parents, friends, coworkers, cousins, grandparents, and all that. If a person treats their children like they treat their other relationships than to me it doesn't sound like a person has a healthy relationships with their children. I'm also talking about parents who want to be good parents.



I guess I'm more of a realist/pragmatist. I can't quite imagine how to have deep and abiding relationships with 19 + of my children where my husband and I are the caretakers and don't rely on anybody else that includes my children to be parents/housecleaners. By the way, I don't have issues with children having chores, responsibility, etc but I would want them to be children not parents.



On another note, I'm assuming the mother stayed home to take care of the children. Yet if she has help how is that different from say another mom staying home to take care of her children, but hires a nanny. For me I could better understand it if people said her job is having babies, because to me that would be similar in a way to working outside of the house or even like running a childcare business from home. I could respect that a little more.



Also, if one of the myriad of reasons they have so many kids is because the mother has issues with hormonal BC there are condoms, vasectomies, etc.

Jodi - posted on 02/05/2010

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To all of the people who are claiming these wonderful parents can't possibly have relationships with each of their children...do you know 19 people? Do you have some type of relationship with 19people...some family, some friends some co-workers. The human spirit is amazing in its capacity to love, especially it's children. And to Charmaine, what's wrong with hand-me-downs? We had plenty of money growing up but we always went to thrift sales, participated in clothing swaps and shopped at Goodwill. I have plenty of money to buy my daughter new clothes but I buy her second hand clothes as well...is there a problem with that, of which I'm not aware?

Elaine - posted on 02/05/2010

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I agree the older girls are a HUGE help and I don't know what she'd do without them...but they need to have a life too, after all they are young ladies. I try to remind myself of this when I catch myself asking my oldest daughter to tend to her 3 year old sister too often. My mother's oldest sister (family of 8) was put in this situation and she grew to be resentful of her mother always having babies and employing her to be mommy number two. At 18 my aunt got married and got out of the house and started her own family.

Cassandra - posted on 02/05/2010

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I feel like that is too many children to handle, and alot of responceability is put on the older children. But if thats the what makes them happy and it works for them, Then I say more power too them!!

Sheryl - posted on 02/05/2010

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i think there a great family. but this time she really put her life in trouble and the babies too. those kids need there mom so it seem like they should really think about it before add anymore. cause i know i would not want to put my life and a babies life in danger like that. cause i have two others to think about. they need there mom too. so that the only reason why i think it may be time for them to stop. only cause they got a big and great family already. all those kids dis. to have there mom around.

Alicia - posted on 02/05/2010

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The Duggars are not Catholic, though. But they have chosen not to use birth control, and to be open to what God has in store. They also were using it many years ago and I think due to some consequences of it, they lost a baby through miscarriage. Since then, they have chosen not to take that risk again.

Angela - posted on 02/05/2010

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I think her body just may have had enough, 19 children? That's a lot of stress on one body by anyones standards, at this point they should count their blessings and be done,

Michelle - posted on 02/05/2010

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I dont get why people think that having kids do 'chores' is wrong...its called learning responsibilty and working as a team. Two of the most important things about living in this world. Everyone of that family love each other..putting the laundry in once a week for one of them and taking it in turns to cook dinner, its not that bad,come on, my daughter is 2yrs old and helps me load and unload the washing machine, she will help me hang the items on the dryer and also tidy's her toys up after shes played with themm. The reason why so many people are so disrespectful to others in this world is cause they havent been taught responsibilty. Giving your children a care free, money filled life is spoiling them and making them into horrible adults. If my daughter learns tru family values by the time shes married I will consider that a blessing in itself. I was made to tidy up after myself, I had to make my mum and dad tea before I went to bed at night, hoovered and polished every saturday, mowed the lawn with my dad in the summer and washed the car, went to the shops for bread and milk from 12yrs old and sorted out my own washing, washed dishes after they were used.....it has not hurt me one bit! I knew how to do all these things by 16yrs old so now I have my own family I can do them with ease, its a part of life. my younger sister however was spoilt in some more ways, she got let off quite a bit, and now at nearly 20 she cant turn a washing machine on! and all she can cook is pasta. Shes a uni student and studying criminology and child psychology...but this is all she has in her life...I feel sorry for her, yes its care free, but she drinks alcohol like no tomorrow, and I just pray for her everyday that God keeps her safe and well and that one day she will see where her life is meant to go.

Michelle - posted on 02/05/2010

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Everyone who thinks they cant support thier kids are wrong, they are real estate agents, and Jim Bob brings in a lot of money through this, how else do you think they built a 7,000sq ft home debt free. I do believe that writing books and talking to the t.v. is boasting about thier family...I do not agree with this. But at the end of the day, these people still run thier house everyday, with grandma as baby sitter once a week...a $1500 grocery bill a month and a 24 seater mini bus...
and Im living at my moms on £180 a week...I say fair play to them.

Michelle - posted on 02/05/2010

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Im with you Jodi on that one. I have realsied that birth control for me is not the answer, I am a Christian and believe that God will grant me and my other half a child when the time is right. When I was on birth conrtol it ruined my body - even my nurse told me that so I am now using the rythem method and one day the Lord will bless us with another child. Elisabeth...1 million kids born, 1 million more mouths to feed bla bla bla...but around 6 million people die when those 1 million are born...think of that, a child dies every 3 seconds of the day, come on have some more heart, the only reason why the world is coming to what it is is that people arent putting thier faith in the Lord anymore and turn to drugs and drink...they then have children cause they dont know what they are doing and have no common sense - pray for them, we can only blame ourselves for the way in which the world works, dont lay the blame on others, If we was the only person in the world to think twice of our actions, the world would be a better place, cause wed ALL be thinking the right way, but unfortunately not all parents believe that love, trust, respect and hope are part of life anymore...at least the Duggars can raise thier children in the way of God...Bless them and thier new arrival, I hope for a speedy recovery and that the Lord takes hold of another one of his children and gives her the strength to live..Amen.

Charmaine - posted on 02/04/2010

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I think these guys are trying to secure their claim to fame. How on earth do you give individual attention to so many children? I don't even want to guess what their grocery and clothing bills look like. Poor kids probably live on hand me downs from everybody.

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from: losapina....."My grandma had 19 kids and adopted 2 but this was in the Polynesian islands of Tonga. So my mom and aunts and uncles lived in poverty but were raised with knowing how important their family values are. So I say CONGRATULATIONS TO THE DUGGARS!! These are good people who are raising there children right. It's not like it's some drug addict who accidentally got prego with her 10th kid and has to have the government take care of them. This is a rare American family that we have in these times and I think we can learn alot from them whether we have 2 kids or 20 kids. So as long as they are not neglecting their kids or living off the government then I say they have every right to raise as many kids as god gives them!! I hope that baby Josie will recover soon and wish them all the best of luck!!"



totally agree with you...its sad that we attack those living by Gods will on tv.. who are we to judge or assume that the duggar parents dont have personal relationships with each of their children.. why cant tv follow a nice life giving supportive family?? what is so wrong with this.. and their child being born early.. that happens to first borns, second born whatever.. let the parents be parents and i think its great that their children learn how to take care of their family so that they will also be great parents

Courtney - posted on 02/04/2010

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I have always liked and respected the Duggars, but their last episode truly upset me. My son was also born at 25 weeks. The immune and nervous systems of these babies is so fragile. In one way, it is positive to have more people aware of micro preemies, in another way bringing a camera crew into a neonatal intensive care unit is insane. Changes in lighting, sound, etc affects these babies. Also having the whole entire family right at the isolette! Both NICU's we have been in NEVER allowed more than 2 people at a time. I worry and pray for the family. I know the kids help out greatly, but these preemies need so much care and therapies, they have weakened immune systems and get overstimulated so easily. I wish they would just take time off and give the baby the care she needs.

Paige - posted on 02/04/2010

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I agree with some people here. Of course it is all up to the parents to decide if they want to continue or stop and focus on their family. But I think that it would be better if she stops since her last pregnancy was very complicated which ended up in premature delivery. It seems that her body can't handle it anymore but I could be wrong though. I still think that they should know that they should put their energy into building relationships with their kids and helping out with their grandchildren instead of overshadowing their kids' happiness by making more new babies.

Losapina - posted on 02/04/2010

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My grandma had 19 kids and adopted 2 but this was in the Polynesian islands of Tonga. So my mom and aunts and uncles lived in poverty but were raised with knowing how important their family values are. So I say CONGRATULATIONS TO THE DUGGARS!! These are good people who are raising there children right. It's not like it's some drug addict who accidentally got prego with her 10th kid and has to have the government take care of them. This is a rare American family that we have in these times and I think we can learn alot from them whether we have 2 kids or 20 kids. So as long as they are not neglecting their kids or living off the government then I say they have every right to raise as many kids as god gives them!! I hope that baby Josie will recover soon and wish them all the best of luck!!

Danielle - posted on 02/04/2010

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personal opinion 19 is plenty!!!and quite honestly shes getting a little too old the risks of down syndrome, etc are sooo high now that its time to stop and consider some birth control or something (just personal opinion)

Melissa - posted on 02/04/2010

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Personally I don't think it's right to have that many kids. There is no way that those parent's can have a relationship with each child. When watching the show I see all the older kids taking care of the younger ones and it breaks my heart. Kids should be kids for as long as they can and those older kids are being forced to grow up too quickly to care for thier younger siblings. It just doesn't seem fair.

Jodi - posted on 02/04/2010

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There are a lot of things around any home that children do for free, dishes, laundry, yard work, walking and feeding the family pet, watching or babysitting younger siblings. Just about any child in any home has to do these things...for free. It's not child slavery, it's taking an active, helpful, responsible role in the family unit. There was an episode that explained the responsibilties of the duggar children. It's a buddy system, the older children only have ONE younger sibling to HELP, more than i can say for some oldest children of much smaller families who have to raise multiple younger siblings. I think they're doing a great job with their children and family as a whole. They are wonderful parents to allllllll 19 of their children, their children are very well behaved and respectful and they with all they have to do, they still have fun and love one other very much!

Brittany - posted on 02/04/2010

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and everyone keeps saying "if she can take care of them and support them then keep having them" but she can't support and take care of them! Her older kids take care of the younger ones, think about it...no one person...not even two people can take care of 19 children! I am the oldest of a large family and had to constantly help take care of the younger ones...its not right to make your children into free child caretakers.

Miranda - posted on 02/04/2010

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I think it's sad that people are so judgemental. I'm not sure I'd be totally supportive of her having another child after this one was so close, but not because they're unloved or anything..just because I'd be so nervous! She's delivered 18 perfectly healthy children and I pray that baby Josie will be nice and healthy, loving, and Christian like the rest!

LauraBeth - posted on 02/04/2010

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I find it very sad of all the mothers that said they should have stopped haveing children al long time ago! because I bet all the Dugger children that are here would tell you pro-choicers other wise. Each life that is here is so very special.



I help take care of my sister (who is 10 years younger) I never felt like I lost my childhood, maybe before you judge them you might want to watch the show. Also if you dont want to give you child any responsiblity (by haveing to look out for a brother or sister) maybe you should just stop at one, I hate for them to grow up thinking that you didnt have enough love or time for them.

Jodi - posted on 02/04/2010

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To Elisabeth, I was raised Catholic in a catholic school with nuns and all that jazz. The only acceptable, non-sinful forms of birth control are abstinence and the rhythm method. That's what I was taught.

Lori - posted on 02/04/2010

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In this family it seems like the older girls raise the younger ones when Michelle gets pregnant and/or is nursing the latest baby. They seem like a really nice family but the siblings are raising each other while their Mother pays attention to the baby then once she's on to the next one then that baby gets passed to the older girls as well. As a mother how does she justify not giving each child the attention they need and deserve from her? She has too many kids and too little time to devote to them. Plus with her age and this scare, you would think they would decide that they are done babymaking.

Elaine - posted on 02/04/2010

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I love watching that family too...she is blessed to have so many, when some women can't even have one. I think she should be careful from now on...maybe wait till this last one is a few years older. That poor body needs a rest from being pregnant, I read somewhere that it takes a year for a womens body to fully restore from pregnancy. What amazes me is that this new baby seems to be the first one born without any issues or challenges.

Rikki - posted on 02/04/2010

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they are a great family but im thinking they mite want to slow it down i would hate for them to eva lose a baby i realy hope this one is doing great but maby its time to stop the deverstation if they were to lose a baby would be realy bad for all the other kids not to mention themself :)

Elisabeth - posted on 02/04/2010

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I do not believe that God ever said that all christians must never use birth control and must have as many children as possible.
But what God did say was , " Do unto others as you would have done to you." and "Love your neighbor as yourself."
The Duggars are following the path that is set for them and they are doing an incredible job with their family. I find them inspiring but I am not going to emulate them!
I pray that their little Baby Josie will grow to be healthy and strong.

Kathleen - posted on 02/03/2010

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I have no opinion on this one way or the other as it is NONE of my business. I get so tired of people asking me if we are finished (having children) that I could scream. It is no ones business how many children a family chooses to have....And may God bless them and the newest baby (Josie)!

Helen - posted on 02/03/2010

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I agree, they seem like a nice family... but enough is enough. To think you can have as many kids as you want and none of them have problems is just pure denial. There was bound to be one that something would happen. So i think now, they are starting to have grandkids, they need to focus on them and focus on there little one that is in the hospital and the rest of their kids. All things good must come to an end. Time to retire the uterus and focus on your family.

Cristina - posted on 02/03/2010

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I think their kids are cute, but I also think that they should stop, this preemie should let them know that this might be a good time to stop and focus on the ones that are here, by the time this baby is 20 the will be in their 60's.

Tursa - posted on 02/03/2010

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I think life if in the hands of God. He is in charge of conception and life. Who are we to try to do His job. I went to fertility specialist...they said my ovaries didn't work well and that I wasn't ovulating that we would need to take fertility drugs the next month to try and get pregnant...this was right after they did an ultrasound to check for ovulation ( I had 2 ultrasounds that week)....I found out two weeks later that I was pregnant. So the "specialists" told me my ovaries weren't really working, but to our surprise...i was pregnant. It just proved to me whaat I already knew...it's not up to us.

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While i think it is great that they support their kids financally i think that it is wrong to have kids and then to make the older ones take care of them because "there is just to much to do" as the mom put it. Yes kids should have chores but not the care of siblings they will have their own kids to take care of one day. And also it is unfair to the children because you cannot give the personal one on one time that a child need with that many.But it is their life i just hope the kids do not resent the parents for it.

Deanna - posted on 02/03/2010

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My personal thoughts are that they should have stopped having children long ago. Having a big family is one thing, but when you have so many children that the oldest ones cannot have a normal childhood because they are too busy nannying for their younger siblings, it is ridiculous. If you cannot watch 19 kids, please don't have 19 kids

Nicole - posted on 02/03/2010

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I love the Duggars, I think they are an amazing family. They probably should stop after this one. What I want to know is how does she find the time and energy to keep MAKING more?! I just have one, and he wears me out, I don't know how she manages with 18. And I wonder if Josh and Anna are gonna go that same route and keep having kids?

Kymberly - posted on 02/03/2010

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I love the family and their views. Personally my husband and I would have more kids, but my last pregnancy went really bad, so we decided to stop. If they choose to have more kids, may god look over them and protect them. I also pray everyday for their new baby girl and all children struggling to stay alive in this world.

Hannah - posted on 02/03/2010

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I kno that baby can make it...my sister n law had twin boys who were born at 23 weeks an they made it...they r now 14 years old...but as far as them havin more kids I think they should of stopped like 16-17 kids ago...I mean how do they even support that many kids? But really it ain't my place r nebody else's place 2 say how many kids they have, but I do wonder how they even support those kids...I mean he don't have a job cuz when u c him he is always n front on tha camera an she is always friggin pregnant..so do they have food stamps r sumthin?

Samantha - posted on 02/03/2010

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Ya know I have been seeing so many nasty reviews with ppl talking trash about them for having so many children and my thought is... What is it anybody elses business how many children they have! They feed and cloth and take care of their OWN children and its very clear that this family knows how to control all of them despite the large number of them- each child is respectful and well behaved even so more then MOST children that we see today that are an only child or have few siblings. In the older days families this size was very normal, now the media and people who just feel like they need to butt in other peoples lives and find fault in everyone make them look like criminals for having children. The bible says Be fruitful and multiply so how ever many children God wants to give them is a blessing. oh and as far as money goes- they were doing just fine BEFORE they were put on this show, and will do just fine after God provides, and he is still providing. God bless to this wonderful family

Christina - posted on 02/03/2010

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i personal think she is freaking crazy i would not want to have 19 kids popping out of my vag she is ridiculous.
i love that show but holy cow

Brittany - posted on 02/03/2010

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In MY opinion, I feel it is extremely selfish and ignorant on the parents part. Its great that you want to accept all the gifts that God wants to give you, however he also gave us the intelligence for the medical knowledge that we now have. She is too old and has had too many children, she has ruined her body and I can't understand why doctors are allowing her to continue having children...look at the close call she had with this baby what will happen to the next one?! On top of all that...i also feel it has alot to do with greed...they would be nowhere without having had all these children, they wouldn't be on tv and therefore wouldn't have the money paid to them by the tv networks...pure greed and selfishness...she needs to be tied.

Rachel - posted on 02/03/2010

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This appears to be their first prem, so I think its up to them, they raise their kids well, support themselves, so good luck to them. It is not up to us to judge, just because the thought of having that many kids frightens us

Natalie - posted on 02/03/2010

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I think it's crazy to say that GOD wants all christians to live like that. Imagine all christians in the world would get married and then never use birth control and have more and more children... This earth is already too crowded. Why not take care of the children that are already here and don't have a loving and caring and supportive family. We're having our 3rd baby now, we're both christians and my husband is getting a vasectomy after this baby is born. If say in 5 years we decide we would like to have more children we would adopt.

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