What can I do when I go out in public w/ my toddler that does not listen and my baby.

Tina - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have a week old infant and a 2 yr. When I go out in public I can't always hold my toddlers hand b/c I have the diaper bag and car seat also. Any advice on how to successfully keep control of my child. Should I invest in a leash for her? or are there ways I can teach her to follow directions?

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Jane - posted on 12/26/2009

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start giving her timeouts so that she learns the importance of listening. it doesn't have to be a timeout b/c she's "in trouble". just get the point across. if she doesn't listen, she looses a favorite toy for the day, etc.
also, Graco makes a good double stroller that fits a car seat. or you can hook a shoulder strap from a computer bag to her back belt loop and hook the other end to your front belt loop.
2 is a tough age,they have a hard time following directions. we had our 2nd when our 1st was 18 months old.

Kristy - posted on 12/26/2009

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I had a double stroller and then I got a leash that looked like a dog for when my little guy wanted to walk. Everyone thought it was so cute and we used to make jokes about having our kid and our dog on a leash, total redneck I'm sure, but a life savior. One thing that every Mom should have when she has a two year old is a leash becuase you never know when your 2 yr old is going to make a run for it. When your little one gets bigger get alight weight stroller and teach your 2 yr old to help push the baby. I did that with my little guy. He loved to push his sister around it made him feel special and important. In a year or two when they both are wanting to run off you'll be wishing that you could restrain both of them to the stroller. Enjoy these precious moments while you can.

Jennifer - posted on 12/26/2009

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I have a double stroller and I also have a leash with a monkey harness that straps around my son and a umbrella stroller. When my todler wants to walk I put the harness on him and put my younger son in his umbrella stroller.

Kristen - posted on 12/25/2009

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I had a 2 year old, a 1 year old, and a baby. And i really love those leashes. And they come in ones that look like little backpacks and are cute.

Sarah - posted on 12/25/2009

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A double stroller is nice because then you know where both of them are at. I do day care so when I go out with the kids I put the ones that can't walk in the stoller and the ones that can walk must hold onto the stroller. They also have jobs as we walk. They help keep the little ones occupied, and we also play games as we walk looking for different things (objects, shapes, or colors) this helps keep their attention. If they let go of the stroller, even if they are still walking beside it, I will stop and make them hold onto it. This way they know we will not go until they are holding onto the stroller and that that is a MUST.

Christy - posted on 12/25/2009

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Stroller. Or put her in the basket of the shopping cart. My 2 yr old NEVER listens. I also have a one year old.

Tina - posted on 12/24/2009

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thank you everyone for the great advice! I will try all the options and see what works best for me.

Deana - posted on 12/23/2009

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Quoting Melaina :

I would definitely invest in either a leash or a double stroller, or put your toddler in the single stroller and carry the baby in a carrier. A two-year-old is simply not old enough to stay put on their own all the time. Curiosity and restlessness will inevitably get the best of her. Good luck!



Melaina is also correct in saying that a 2 year old will not stay put on their own all the time. You have to be consistently keeping an eye on her and talking to her. Let her know when she is being good, downplay when she is distracted. You can teach her to walk with you, but you will have to stay on top of her. Always praise her when she is good. Positive reinforcement.

Deana - posted on 12/23/2009

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The first thing you are going to have to resign yourself to is that there will be screaming. 2 year olds are all about independence, and they don't like it taken away. Do you have a stroller? You can either carry your baby in a sling and have your stroller open for the 2 year old or invest in a sit and stand or double stroller. I would allow her to start out walking after explaining the rules. You will stay close to me, you will not run, you will not take off, if you cannot see me I cannot see you. If you break any of these rules you will not be allowed to walk and I will put you in the stroller. As soon as she breaks any of these simply say you broke this rule, I told you that you would have to ride in the stroller if you did that. Then wrestle her into the stroller strap her in and keep going. It may get noisy. People will stare at you, but you can't give in to keep her quiet, she will figure it out pretty quickly. This is what I did with both of my older boys and I am now doing with my 2 year old twins (they just turned 2 on the 21st). It always worked for me after a couple of weeks of consistency, and it does get easier. As far as a leash goes, I've never used one. My second son would have just thrown himself on the ground. It seems to work for other people though. Anyway, good luck.

Melaina - posted on 12/23/2009

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I would definitely invest in either a leash or a double stroller, or put your toddler in the single stroller and carry the baby in a carrier. A two-year-old is simply not old enough to stay put on their own all the time. Curiosity and restlessness will inevitably get the best of her. Good luck!

Shelby - posted on 12/23/2009

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I was in that same position and I invested in a double stroller. That is the best thing ever!!! I would put them both in it and give my toddler snacks and he was good to go. Good luck I hope this helps.

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