What do I do?? I think i'm getting depressed..

Angelina - posted on 02/05/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I just found this website while looking for advice online.
I'll try to make this short...
I had been a single mom for almost 15 years. In those years I busted my butt to work and provide and get my bachelors degree and it was ROUGH. I'm newly married and now a SAHM and it is waaayyyy harder!! I am starting to get depressed. I stay home all day with my 4 year old daughter who cant start school til August, we have two dogs who drive me crazy (I never had dogs growing up) my son is failing 10th grade, not because he doesn't understand the work but because he is lazy I think..My husband works out of town all the time and I only see him one night a week.. I feel like a bad mom and a failure at EVERYTHING. I cant take my daughter anywhere because we only have one car right now but it doesn't matter because we now live in a city where I don't know anyone or where to go anyway. We live in a nice neighborhood that has lots of parks and we do that and go for walks but that's about it. I have no adult interaction and I used to have a ton of friends back where i'm from. I don't even talk to them on the phone anymore though because then they'll ask how i'm doing and that's pretty depressing..

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Karen - posted on 02/06/2013

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I just found this site yesterday in much the same way. I'm a new mom, sahm, to a 9 month old boy. He is absolutely the most womderful thing that has ever happened to me, but also one of the hardest things. I stayed home while I was pregnant as well, but then I could get around more. Minus the waddle, lol. We are also a one car family and my husband is in Law School. So it's just me and Seamus (pronounced SHAY-mus) for 10-12 hours a day, and then my husband has to study. I know in the long run it will be worth it, but right now, it just feels isolating.
I moved from NY to CT when we got married because he was in the Navy at the time and we settled here. We have no family in the area and all of the people I am closest to are hours away. Depressing is definitely the word for it. I still talk to them on the phone and through facebook, but I also can't seem to bring myself to let even the closest of them know how this has really been, I just end up telling them all of the cute and happy stuff. Seamus is babbling mamama and such.
Ive been looking for mommy and me groups and there arent any close enough for me to get to with him right now, but maybe there are some near you? check out MOPS. I've been seriuosly considering getting into counseling, I just haven't quite gotten up the nerve to make the calls yet.
I may not be able to do too much to help, but I know its tough, and I can relate. Feel free to message me if you want someone to talk to who you wouldn't need to censor yourself around. Maybe we could help each other.

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