What do u do when u have a 16 year old mom who has no respect for anyone.

April - posted on 05/03/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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She lives with the babys dadys mom. she is so very rude and hurtfull all the time even before she was pregnant. well the latest is i told her to show respect when she speaks to me. so she said she didnt want any thing from us forher bday that all we were doing was trying to buy her love. Now that her brother and sister told her what her gift is now she wants it .what do i do. She is giving me whiplash.

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April - posted on 05/03/2010

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Thank you all for your advice. I ended up giving her half, now she has to deal with my husband for the rest. I think she needs to appolgize to us first for the things she said. Has for the other mother goes she trys to treat me like a child. So no we realy dont get along. I bite my toung when she is around for my daughter and grandson. I have a medical condition that is very pain full. She has been violent before. Even resantly.I know that its not a excuse but i have a younger child in the house.

Susan - posted on 05/03/2010

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yes still has to be respectfrul in your house .but i think been pregnant at 16 must be scary exsperience a avoidable one but scary and probably acting up because shes learnt it gets your goat up and negative attension is better than none in most teenage girls heads ,she certainly needs to grow up and hopefuly having baby will speed things up i hope you live in are with good support agencies in place like surestart center or teenage parent group maybe you need to set some ground rules but put in way like speak to me the way you want your child to speak to you make her think about her parenting decisions before baby arrives and good look to all of you

Irma - posted on 05/03/2010

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I too was a teen mom and i never talk to my mom that way..my mom was my biggest support even when i was living w/ my baby's dad mom's house..i wouldnt give her nothing..she needs to grow up & get her stuff together she a mom now w/ a baby to think of..u need to put ur foot down & say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH..

Melissa - posted on 05/03/2010

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I would have gotten slapped across the face if I talked to my mom like that. I wouldn't give the present to her either. And I also don't think it matters wether she lives with you or not she still needs to be respectful to you when she is visiting your house. She may be 16 but now she is a mom and she is going to have to grow up and act older than her age now. I would try to get her to sit down and talk to you if she would.

Joanna - posted on 05/03/2010

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I would teach her a lesson and yeah DONT give it to her and put her words back in her mouth how she didnt want anything from you! She is very lucky because if I spoke to my mother in any rude way she would slap me. And when she come's over tell her you demand respect in your house. GOOD luck

Susan - posted on 05/03/2010

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well back away love its harder than most people understand but its what i had to do ,if shes not living under your roof she dosent have to live under your rules which is hard to get head round if the other mum and you get along maybe just meet up and have a coffee and make a alliance because the baby is going to need to granmothers help and support and if you push to hard now you maybe pushed out of the equasion. maybe dont hold her birthday present to ransom because shes just going to play you just give it with love and in future when shes been sweet because shes after something instead of going out and buying it leave it a while and see if behaviour remains good if it do .put money in bank and go out and buy it together and make a day of it.going for coffee ect treat her like an adult because shes soon going to have to act like a adult and think like a adult for a baby 247 and thats when shes truley going to need you.good luck

Jessica - posted on 05/03/2010

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One thing is shes only 16 even if she is a mom. I remember I when was 16 everything was DRAMA! but i always was very respectful. I agree to told her not to speak to u that way and she shouldn't don't back down but don't expect it to be easy

Kayliecia - posted on 05/03/2010

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I wouldn't give it to her nomatter what, i was a teen mom and if i spoke to my mother like that i wouldn't give in..she seems like shes upset maybe try speaking to her but i wouldn't give it to her i would also tell her she needs to start straightning up when i became a teen mom and before that i was never rude to my mom like she is being to you..good luck i hope i helped.

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