What do u do when u think your teenager are having sex?

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Teena - posted on 10/15/2009

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You won't be able to stop them if they have already started, but you can arm them with as much information as possible. I know most parents refuse to do this, but I would suggest supplying them with condoms at the very least. One thing you have to remember if you are against giving teens condoms is...do you want to be a "GRANDMA".

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Christy - posted on 10/21/2009

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My 13 y/o nephew lives with us and I am pretty sure he is having sex on some level.......TALK TALK TALK, and of course they probably lie, take away cell phones, and if you choose not to at least take texting off of it. Know where they are at all the time. Chapperone (sp) events he/she goes to....movies, dances, etc. Of course this is all dependent on age......

GINA - posted on 10/15/2009

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WELL HUN I HAVE TO SAY THIS IS A VERY TRICKY SUBJECT. NOW IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD. IF YOU HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP AND EVERYTHING IS SHARED THEN ASK YOUR TEEN STRAIGHT OUT. BUT IF YOU THINK YOUR TEEN IS TRYING TO HIDE IT FROM YOU BECAUSE HE OR SHE IS EMBARRASSED OF THE "TALK". I HAVE BEEN UP AND DOWN THIS ROAD MANY OF TIMES WITH MY KIDS. SO MY BEST ADVICE IS ASK THEM TO TRUST YOU AND SPEAK TO THEM ABOUT YOUR CONCERNS OF THEM HAVING SEX AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE. TALK ABOUT PROTECTION FROM PREGNANCIES AND S.T.D'S. SHOW THEM BOOKS, MOVIES, PAMPHLETS THAT WILL HELP EDUCATE THEM ON THE DECISION THEY HAVE CHOSEN. AND IF YOUR RELIGIOUS SHARE WITH THEM WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT SEX BEFORE MARRAIGE. NOW ADAYS TEENS ARE DOING WHAT THEY WANT TO DO REGARDLESS OF WHAT THEIR PARENTS SAY OR THINK SO IF ALL ELSE FAILS STILL BE THEIR FOR THEM TAKE THEM TO THE DR.'S SO THEY CAN LEARN TO USE BIRTH CONTROL AND CONDOMS. ALSO TRY TO EXPLAIN TO YOUR TEEN WHAT THEIR BODY IS GOING THROUGH, YOU KNOW WITH ALL THEIR RAGING HORMONES. LET THEM KNOW THAT HOW THEY ARE FEELING IS NORMAL. REMEMBER YOU ONCE TOO WAS A TEENAGER AT ONE TIME. COMMUNICATION AND TRUST ARE THE KEY!!!! GOOD LUCK AND I'M SURE EVERYTHING WILL BE JUST FINE.

SINCERELY,

GINA

Hannah - posted on 10/15/2009

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Talk to them, be open. There is nothing you can do to keep young folks from doing it. Aside from a chastity belt...Talk about birth control. Tell them it just takes one time to make a baby. Just dont freak out.

Alicia - posted on 10/15/2009

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If you try to keep them away from the boys and going out, they will find a way to have sex. I think you should now say anything and take them to the clinic and get them on birth control and ask them questions about stds because then, they will start thinking about it. Just an idea!

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even if you're sure they are whether they tell you are not.. i think you could sit them down and remind them of the virtue part of it and moral part.. you're stilll their mom who can point them in the right direction.. its not too late even if theyve started to.. they will appreciate you candor and honesty about it.. doesnt have to be a non conversational subject.. and obviously remind them of the consequences GOOD LUCK. hope this helped

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Remember that you probably can't stop them. Try to talk to them about it, and how they feel about it. Try to make sure they are using protection.

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just b strait forward and ask...there probbly past the bird and bees talk so just make sure the r useing protection and make sure they understand what STI's,u cant stop them so arm them with all the infomation u can,mabey a trip to the doc's to talk about birth control...stress the risk of pregnacy..too many kids think u cant get preggers with protection..lol...my moto is if ur not ready for a baby,then u shouldnt b having sex..hope i helped.

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