what do you do to recharge????

Devon - posted on 03/09/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




HELP, i'm a stay at home mom of two boys ages 1 and 2, i recently moved 100km away from my family and friends so i have no one to watch my boys for me while i take a break. what can i do to maintain some sense of being me not just wife and mom?


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Amanda - posted on 03/10/2009




Thats how I feel. All my family lives hours away and my hubby works 12 to 16 hours a day. I have three kids and postpartum depression on top of it.

Katie - posted on 03/10/2009




if they wont do nap time do movie time... it is sooooo important for you to have that alone time to recharge.  my son is 3 and naps have become feewer and feewer. so i just make him have a mandatory quiet time for at least two hours in the afternoon. i know this may sound harsh, but my son knows that this is quiet time and there are no iffs ands or butts about it. if he chooses to spend his quiet time crying then thats his choice. i either turn the music up, take a bath or shower, or go outside (i know its too cold now, but soon this will b an option)  also before quiet time give them someting warm to drink because it will calm their nervous system and help them relax. but most important is that you get time to your self. and if that means that your kiddos need to cry for a lil while then thats what needs to happen. it wont hurt them, only help them, cuz youll b a more happy well rounded mommy.  as for your husband... remind him thast he nocked you up, so when he gets home its dad duity. even if its just for 30 minutes while you make dinner.  put on your favorite music and rock out while you cook. i hope any of these things help. and whenever you need someone to talk to feel free to FB me. sometimes it helps just to have someone to get it all out to. best of luck! PS remember that if momma aint happy, aint nobody happy ;)

Devon - posted on 03/09/2009




Most days the 2 year old doesn't even nap and the 1 year old only takes one 1/2 hour to 45 min nap a day. then in the evenings my husband figures i'm at his disposal, so really there is no point in teh day for me to be alone. even while i write this i'm being interrupted. The town i moved to is really really small and everyone here has known eachother their whole lives and are pretty unwelcoming to newcomers. i've tried the play group but the cold shoulders just made me feel lonlier so i only go now when the boys need to get out of the house. Plus we're up north so it's been on averace 20 celcius below since october and burried in snow so we really can't go outside....

Julie - posted on 03/09/2009




I feel for you! My me time is at nap time and in the evenings. Nap time and bedtime is very strict around here, it truly is the only time I feel like a get a moment to breathe. If you go to church sometimes there is a mommy's day out program where once a month you can drop your child off for an hour or two and have some time for yourself. Check and see if there are playgroups in your area and such. Good luck!

Angie - posted on 03/09/2009




Nap time is me time. I always try to workout during naptime. I feel refueled and ready for the rest of the day. And it doesn't hurt my body either.  Good luck!

April - posted on 03/09/2009




do they have a regular naptime together? with my twins, I strapped them in the stroller and went for a walk--it was usually pretty quiet with them being lulled by the scenery or the motion! also, check out local newspapers for groups or hobbies you could join. other moms are a great resource, and so is your childs pediatrition- they are concerned with the well being of the child, but also their mommy! theres nothing wrong with asking them what is good to do in town when you have no childcare options .. I had the same situation a few years ago when we moved from the d.c area to a small town in wisconsin and I didnt know anyone. I floundered around going to the pool and story hour at the library, and met other moms, who introduced me to their friends, who not only gave me great tips on kid friendly stuff nearby, but tips and recommendations on baby sitters they trust. also, once I found a church home, I felt more like myself and met other people, joined a moms bible study and got involved in activities while hearing the much needed Word! hope some of these ideas help, hang in there- it will get better, even if it takes a little while!

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