what do you do when a Teenager has anger? How do you control it?

Sonja - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a 13 year old son that is A.D.D. and needs to control his anger. He has developed it from the father. I need some advice.


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Kristin - posted on 03/02/2010




Encourage him to take up something. He needs a physical outlet (running, swimming, etc.) to use up the energy. Until he gets the anger under control, don't put him in a situation where he could potentially hurt someone else or himself. Let him choose, it will help him feel he's got some control. You might also encourage him to pursue something artistic; an instrument, painting, drawing. It's a good creative outlet for their feelings.

Councilling will also help, but only so much as he wants it to. But, if he has seen his dad in a rage, he probably has some feelings about that he needs to get a handle on. What he will need from you, is the knowledge that it's okay to feel angry. That you know he will make mistakes in learning to manage his anger and that you love him anyway. He will also need to know what you feel are acceptable outlets for his anger. Good luck.

Becky - posted on 03/02/2010




I read a book called "PARENTING YOUR OUT OF CONGTROL TEENAGER" it really helped with some ideas with my daugter.

therepy also has helped her deal with anger

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Many counselors offer anger management classes or sessions. Perhaps his school counselor or doctor has some information. It may be helpful at home if he has a quiet and undisturbed place to go when he starts feeling angry. I imagine that he can't be reasoned with when he is feeling that way so talking him out of it is useless. You need to give him space and wait until he has calmed down. Good luck to you both.

Roshelle - posted on 03/02/2010




My true advice as a Registered Nurse...you need to enroll him in a physical program...ie sport of some kind, swimming, snorkeling, doesn't matter....these kiddo's can only relieve balled up energy inside them by releasing it through exercise. Try it, you will be amazingly surprised. Hope this helps.

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