What do you do when you are at home all day with no way to go anywhere???

Elizabeth - posted on 03/12/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I want to know what everyone does when they are at home all day every day 24/7 and you do not have a way to go anywhere. My husbands car broke down almost a year ago and he has been driving mine. It is really starting to get annoying. I have asked him to try and find a way to fix his car or find another one. These walls are starting to cave in on me and I need help!!! Please someone give me some advice on what to do with all my time???? I do have a 4 yr old at home with me too :)

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Nikki - posted on 03/13/2009

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I went through the "cabin fever" stage for the first 6 months after my first was born. I worked the first 6 months after I had him but then I quit to stay home with him because we lost our babysitter and I didn't want to put him in daycare.



It was soooo strange. I was a corporate on the go woman, used to traveling all over the world, being at work 24/7, always out and doing stuff. Well we only have one vehicle so I went from that lifestyle to being home with no way to get away. It was very rough on me emotionally. I also didn't go through any sort of anixety or depression until after I decided to stay home. The constant isolation and the whole "first time Mom" stress was very hard to deal with but slowly I got used to it.



I keep myself busy as much as I can with keeping the house picked up which is a full time job with a almost 4 and 2 year old. I took up learning how to bake. I'm planning on homeschooling the boys so I do a lot of pre-school activities with the boys. And we go outside A LOT. I find that being outside in the fresh air and sunshine removes a lot of that claustrophobic feeling. Last spring I started working on the yard and doing gardening which is actually a lot of fun and again keeps me and the boys busy together throughout the day when the weather is good.



Your biggest enemy is being inactive because it will drive you nuts. Since I worked so much before I had the kids the only ppl I know are from my work environment so I have the added burden of not knowing anyone here to hang out with either so when I need some "me time" I spend time on my parenting messageboard talking with other SAHP's.



So you aren't alone, a lot of us are or have been right where you are right now and it does get better. :)

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I don't have a drivers license for the country I'm in, so we are in the same boat.

When the weather is nice we go for walks/jogs, talk with the old people in the neighborhood, explore the little shops and things around the house. Come spring this year we're going to plant a garden. I even have some seeds for my 2 yr old to grown on his own.

While the weather is crappy we play pirates in the house, build forts, fold giant origami boats and when I need something for myself I make us bake. We even clean or vacuum together some days. now that my baby is a bit older I usually like to get the boys out of the house at least once a day to walk somewhere close by(though not for long). I agree that making a daily schedule helps out a lot, and don't forget to include time for you in that.

I also invite friends over for food and play. We can gab while the kids run roughshod over the couch.

Good luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/12/2009

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Quoting Melanie:

i feel the same only i dont drive i have a 2 year old at home with me most of my friends are at work ...can only go to the mall so many times ...i go to the the early years centre once and a while ...i am going nuts at home all day to we should get together and start a playgroup or something



Where do you live???  I am always looking for playgroups :) 

Elizabeth - posted on 03/12/2009

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Wow....thank you all so much for the wonderful advice.  I never thought to do some of this with her.  I will definitely give them  a try :)

Carrie - posted on 03/12/2009

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I would establish a set routine to get the day moving...the time goes a little quicker when your on a schedule.



Plan ahead- if you know the only time you have to leave the house is on the weekends or in the evening...plan the trips ahead of time.



Projects are great to do with 4 year old. They can help you bake, make cards for family and friends, do all kinds of crafts, decorate for the nevereding holidays...make scrapbooks together...play school...anything to engage each other to pass the time.



I don't know what kind of community you live in but is there anything you can walk to...library, restaurant, etc. trying to plan at least a trip or two a week might give you something to look forward to.



Do you have any friends in the area that you can set playdates up with or any church groups or what not...you may find someone who would love to pick you two up to go shopping or out to lunch.



Also, type in the search engine "customer service from home"...there are reputable companies like alpineaccess.com which can allow you to work from home tkaing orders over the phone for companies like JCrew and 1800flowers...you can earn $7-10 an hour from your home and maybe you could earn enough to fix your car...



Times are tough...I feel for you..I was stuck at home with a newborn last year and if i had watched one more Law and Order rerun I would have died! I hope things will get easier soon for you.



I also just started a book club with some girl friends who are also stay at home moms. We meet every 3 weeks or so and I have something to read and look forward to when I'm bored.



Good Luck,



Carrie

Melanie - posted on 03/12/2009

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i feel the same only i dont drive i have a 2 year old at home with me most of my friends are at work ...can only go to the mall so many times ...i go to the the early years centre once and a while ...i am going nuts at home all day to we should get together and start a playgroup or something

Jeanne - posted on 03/12/2009

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Enjoy the time with your little one. Play school, crafts, bake. I am typically home all the time. I leave the house once a week for grocerys. I know how it feels at times to have the walls closing in. Going outside and play is great and helps.

Letticia - posted on 03/12/2009

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i live about 5 mins. from a shopping center so i go for walks.........or if its too cold i put on some music and dance around the house, redecorate and reorganize everything from the closet to the cupboards

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