what do you think?

Ashley - posted on 03/31/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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ok so heres the deal my fiance and his mother have had some big differences and they havent been talking for a couple years almost now .. long story short she hasnt even met our youngest really ( she has seen her for 5 mins and the child screamed the whole time this was last week .. youngest is almost 11 months old) anyways heres my problem im starting to make the list of who is invited to the babys first birthday and i personally dont think this mil should be invited because well she hasnt been in my child's life at all and she hasnt made the effort to ... but im at a loss should i be the bigger person and invite her.. should i follow my gut and not ? should i just leave it all up to my fiance ( who already said doesnt want her there unless she has to be) what to do??

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Shara - posted on 03/31/2010

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As much as your finace doesnt want her her there that is her grandma and she should get a chance to be part of her life.I think inviting her would be good idea.But if she doesnt make the effort remember it is her loss for missing out.Give her a chance and see what happens.

Ashley - posted on 03/31/2010

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to give you a bit more of a background story at the beginning of the year we all went to a funeral his mother was there so she felt the need to do the big public display of i love my son and daughter inlaw ( the children werent there because i dont think they need to be at a thing like that) and ways so the day after valentines day she thought she would stop by first time she had ever been to our house (kids werent here either because my mom kept them so we could have a valentines day to ourself) and she hasnt called or stopped by or nothing since the only reason she seen the baby last weeks was because my fiance and her ran into each other at her sisters house and he left right away so in feb i said to my fiance that if she made a effort to be around then we should invite her baby's birthday is may 6th but she hasnt so im stuck

Illyssa - posted on 03/31/2010

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I would probably invite her for the sake of your child. At least you would be doing your part and being the bigger person.

Okeisha - posted on 03/31/2010

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Personally I would be the bigger person & invite her, if she doesn't show OH WELL you made the effort to try & get her involved.

Melissa - posted on 03/31/2010

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I would probably invite her just to give her the chance to be part of the family. She has the option to accept or decline. But having her around with other people makes it a more civil environment.



I am kind of in the same situation with my father, so I know where you are coming from. I will probably invite my dad to my son's party, mainly because I want him to be part of my son's life whether or not my relationship with him is a good one.

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