What is an appropriate age to tell your child the truth about Santa Clause??

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Amy - posted on 09/16/2009

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My oldest figured it out herself - not exactly sure when but she's 13 and I know she knew last year!

Cathy - posted on 09/16/2009

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I think they should figure it out for themselves. My 11 year old daughter figured it out a couple of years ago. Now I just tell her to keep it to herself because my son, who is 8 still believes. They are only young once. They need to enjoy it for as long as possible.

Kate - posted on 09/16/2009

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What truth????? What do you mean he's not real?! Sob! Sob! I just have to step away from the pc for a moment......

Amy - posted on 09/12/2009

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Last week my 11 year old daughter and I were school shopping together. We were enjoying our girl time without her brother around and I knew it was the perfect time to have the Santa talk or the sex talk. I chickened out and had the Santa talk (and included the Easter Bunny, etc..). She looked at me and said, "Yeah, I kinda figured all that out a long time ago." I hope I don't get the same response with the sex talk. :)

Caroline - posted on 09/12/2009

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Quoting Veronica :

My husband and I decided before our son was born not to even start the whole santa thing. At first we argued about this, because I wanted to have the fun with it, until my husband made this point to me. We do not want our kids to lie to us but yet we are going to lie to them about santa, the easter bunny, ect. Also I didn't want my son to go on for years believing and then have me squash that believe and have him be devistated like I was when I found out that there was not a santa. Don't get me wrong we still celebrate christmas and easter we just tell him the true meanings of these holidays.



Wow, Veronica!  Way to reason it out!  I feel the same way.  I will mention Santa & the Easter Bunny, etc., but not push the idea like it's REAL.  Instead, I focus on Jesus.  I will teach the reasons why these characters came into our culture, namely, Saint Nicholas, who did give out presents (mentioned earlier by an astute mom), and fertility rites (which I obviously won't discuss in detail).  But culture & history are a big part of our holidays, and it is a great teaching experience.  Thus, the Santa we see in the mall will never be a real person to my children, but they will know he is based on a real person.  So then I never have to break their heart with the sudden realization that MOM LIED!  I couldn't do that.  It would feel like a double standard.

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Hi there, I have made the mistake of telling my daughter that her parents were santa to young,she was devastated and nearly cried. I was very upset about and still am.



I thought i'd better tell her cause people were telling her in class and i wanted her to find out the nice way, have it all explained properly.



I should have waited longer , waited for her to tell me. My advice would be to wait until she comes to you and says mum are you santa or something along those lines



lesson learnt a little late for me how ever..I still have a baby so i will be taking my own advise there..lol...good luck with it all..:-) ps she is 10 incase you wanted to know her age..:-)

Caroline - posted on 09/12/2009

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Quoting Veronica :

My husband and I decided before our son was born not to even start the whole santa thing. At first we argued about this, because I wanted to have the fun with it, until my husband made this point to me. We do not want our kids to lie to us but yet we are going to lie to them about santa, the easter bunny, ect. Also I didn't want my son to go on for years believing and then have me squash that believe and have him be devistated like I was when I found out that there was not a santa. Don't get me wrong we still celebrate christmas and easter we just tell him the true meanings of these holidays.



Wow, Veronica!  Way to reason it out!  I feel the same way.  I will mention Santa & the Easter Bunny, etc., but not push the idea like it's REAL.  Instead, I focus on Jesus.  I will teach the reasons why these characters came into our culture, namely, Saint Nicholas, who did give out presents (mentioned earlier by an astute mom), and fertility rites (which I obviously won't discuss in detail).  But culture & history are a big part of our holidays, and it is a great teaching experience.  Thus, the Santa we see in the mall will never be a real person to my children, but they will know he is based on a real person.  So then I never have to break their heart with the sudden realization that MOM LIED!  I couldn't do that.  It would feel like a double standard.

Veronica - posted on 09/09/2009

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My husband and I decided before our son was born not to even start the whole santa thing. At first we argued about this, because I wanted to have the fun with it, until my husband made this point to me. We do not want our kids to lie to us but yet we are going to lie to them about santa, the easter bunny, ect. Also I didn't want my son to go on for years believing and then have me squash that believe and have him be devistated like I was when I found out that there was not a santa. Don't get me wrong we still celebrate christmas and easter we just tell him the true meanings of these holidays.

Peggy - posted on 09/09/2009

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Not all children mature at the same pace but I had four and usually when they start school they are told by other children. Then there are some children who pretend to believe after 7 yrs of age to get more presents. Myself I played Santa as long as I could because I didnt want my three daughters or one son to try to act like they were teens before their times. Worked for me.

Tina - posted on 09/07/2009

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Usually around third or fourth grade. I waited until the questions got consistent and I realized most of my child's peers were made aware. You don't want yours to be made fun of. Then I read Yes, Virginia, There is a Santa Clause. I didn't want them to stop believing that magic did not exist, but that in fact in exists in the humanity and love the holiday inspires. And that is very, and forever real, if you choose to embrace it.

Skittles - posted on 09/07/2009

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I am 30 and i still beleive in the spirit of santa.I mean my DD knows the person isn'treal but I told her abou where the idea came from and the gifts that he leftus is the spirit of giving.We don't have much mony by any means but every year I have my kids go with me to walmart and I have them pick out a toy that they get to put in the toys for tots. They get excited because they know that they are going to make some childs christmas just alittle bit better. We also invite ppl we know that don't have family to our house for a feast and fun. That is what I work with my kids all the time on. That no matter how bad they think they have it(like when my DD doesn't get the newest hanna montana stuff lol)there are others out there that don't have as much as they do and that they should be thankful

BJ - posted on 09/07/2009

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I have two children. My daughter is 13 and found out on her own. To this day I still tell her there is a Santa Clause. Even if I am that Santa there still is one. She knows there is no magical person who comes down the chimney but she still believes Santa is real - a gift giver! My son still believes in the magical Santa. He is 7 and one day he will find out that the Santa he believes in does not exist, however I will not be the one to tell him. I, myself, found out by comparing Santa's writing and my mom's. lol I would not go and tell any child there is not a Santa, that day will happen and when it does the child should still know that although the Santa theyhave always believed in does not exist, that there is still a Santa. We give to charity every year and are Secret Santas - that is what they should know of as Santa!

Karina - posted on 09/07/2009

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I think when the child asks- thye are only kids once in their lives so why wreck alittle wishing!!

Samantha - posted on 09/07/2009

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Only when they ask! In my experience they will find out at school, and keep it to themselves for a while then ask you when 'they are ready'. If they don't 'believe' or spoil it for younger siblings - Father Christmas won't come!!!

Dale - posted on 09/04/2009

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you're right about there used to be a saint nick, he used to go around at Christmas time delivering toys that he'd made to all the poor kids

Lisamarie81m - posted on 09/04/2009

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I dont think you need to tell them there is not a santa, they will figure it out on their own, my 6 year old asks questions and I dont tell him he is not real. He figured it out on his own that santa at the mall is not real same with the easter bunny I tell him not to say anything too loud so that others wont hear him. And if I am correct there actually was a "santa" or saint nick or some one I hope this makes sense, I just think there is no reason to tell them same goes with the tooth fairy, but that might be another topic :)

Jessica - posted on 09/04/2009

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We didn't make a big deal about Santa. Instead we put more importance on Jesus' birth. We still take them to the mall to see Santa and have a small gift from him as well. We are waiting for them to ask if he is real, and then we'll explain the truth.

Dale - posted on 09/04/2009

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they believe for as long as they want to believe. when my little brother was 6 the next door neighbor told him there was no Santa his reply was "of course there's a Santa, my mum couldn't afford to buy all the presents i get!"

Anna - posted on 09/04/2009

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I say let them believe as long as possible - it's fun for them. They'll figure it out soon enough

Kristina - posted on 09/04/2009

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I agree with Tiffany, I think there comes a time when they figure it out on their own (or that mean kid at school tells them!) I remember my mother told me when I was 5 and I was devastated! To me, I thought that meant there was no Christmas. I'm not going to tell my children, I'm going to wait for them to talk to me about it, and then give them the whole background of Christmas and all.

Tiffany - posted on 09/04/2009

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I think most kids just figure it out themselves.. My brother is 8 still gets gifts from "Santa" and he made the comment himself that Santa wasn't real. I don't think you have to flat out tell them

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