what is the secret to having a toddler and infant


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Kaitlin - posted on 01/29/2012




I just want to second (and third and fourth) the routines- we are ALL about routines in our house- the kids LOVE them.

Bonnie - posted on 01/29/2012




Having some kind of a routine and children shows for your toddler to watch from time to time help too.

Kelina - posted on 01/29/2012




Having a space where you're toddler can run around screaming his head off, doing whatever he feels like and not hurt himself lol. And tv. On days when I'm totally overwhelmed Cars is my best friend.

Jennifer - posted on 01/28/2012




Thankyou for the insight It is rewarding and yet hard at the same time. Just some days....

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2012




Routine!!! and the Chocolate and Wine are bad ideas also :) I find that life always works better if there is a routine to it. Finding play groups and other moms with an infant and a toddler help also. Sometimes talking to a person that is experiencing the same things helps SO much. I don't remember how many times I have thought "you mean your kids do that too" or "you think/feel that way also".

Kaitlin - posted on 01/28/2012




chocolate? WIne? ;)

My first two are 12.5 months apart (on the dot!) and in July I will have three children under three years old.

For me, there are some crazy times, for sure, but it's not as bad as I thought it would be. We are very fun, but very firm, and from an early age, we taught Will (our oldest, now 28 months) to listen and pay attention. Not that he's perfect, but he does pretty darn well. Gabriel (now 15 months) is a little bit more crazy, stubborn and insistent. We'll see how that does in July.

We do a lot of outside activities, play groups, library outings and quiet big boy activities (especially in the beginning, when Gabriel was very small). We are not anti-tv, but I do try to limit it to one Elmo a day (we watch Pooh or Elmo, that's pretty much it).

Expect some bad days. Put some treats (food and toys and books) away for a special occasion or a tough day. And lots and lots of praise for the older sibling(s).

They love playing with each other now (most of the time) and the issues we deal with on a daily basis make play groups a lot better, especially when we're playing with kids that are mostly only children (and have yet to encounter true sharing or conflict- my kids are experts!- we have very few meltdowns there now).

How close are your kiddos (or how close will they be?). It's so fun to have them close- I think it's better, but then, I'm totally biased!

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