What's wrong with crying?

Deundra - posted on 05/13/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My mom came to see me on Monday, she lives an hour and some minutes away from me. I was so happy to see her. I go to school on Tuesdays and I have to take my baby to daycare for the hours I'm in school. I wanted to look for a job so I let my baby go to my moms so I would have more time to try and find a job before or after school, and this would be an icebreaker for me because at some point and time I would have to work on the weekend and she would have to go somewhere while I'm working. As soon as she walked out the door I started crying because I didn't want to let her go over nite. Well I cried to whole time she was gone and after school I rushed to my moms to get her. Anyone else had this problem or feel that this is not normal for a mom to do?


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Deundra - posted on 05/20/2010




Thanks to eveyone for letting me know I am not being weird LOL, wishing me good luck on finding a job,on going back to school. I was happy about being able to go to the movies while she was gone but I could not stop thinking bout her. My first day of dropping her off at daycare to go to school, make me sick I felt nausea and like I was going to faint or something. I guess I'm just real paranoid, no one will take better care of your child then you would.

Michelle - posted on 05/14/2010




yes i cried the first time i left my daughter and i phoned every half hour too to check she was ok but it did get easier although she's all i think of when shes away from me but i can cope now

Jenna - posted on 05/14/2010




very, very normal. my MIL has been taking my son once a week now for months and I still get teary and miss him like crazy.

Gina - posted on 05/13/2010




Don't worry about it,first time moms have a difficult time letting go of baby the first few times ,and your hormones are still out of balance so your emotions will still be crazy too. This is just a bit of post-pardom,that a lot of mom deal with.
It gets easier everytime you have to leave baby with someone else,and you will want to do it more the older she gets.
take advantage of the help now,you won't be without your baby very often,and good luck job hunting!

Sarah - posted on 05/13/2010




My girls have been going to day care 1/2 a day a week to get use to it before I go back to work part time and they both used to bawl every time I dropped them off. I use to sit outside in the car park upset and call up the office to make sure that they had stopped crying and settled down before I left. Now they love going to daycare it just takes them a while to adjust and it takes us mums a while to adjust as well. I found it really hard at first to let anyone else take care of my babies and wanted to know exactly what had gone on while I wasn't there. Eventually we have all gotten use to it though and now dropping them off to daycare is quick and easy =)

Alicia - posted on 05/13/2010




Its normal and totally fine! My kids are almost 4 and 2. Recently we moved away from all other family so the last time we were in our hometown my kids stayed over night with their grandma and I cried.
It was nice to have dinner out alone with the hubbs, but at the same time it was hard to enjoy with out our little crumb snatchers screaming next to us.

Rebecca - posted on 05/13/2010




I still do this. My mom only lives 30 minutes away but if she takes the kids over night for us to have a night out i am up at the crack of dawn and gone to get the kids and then when i get home i think why the hell didn't i sleep a bit longer lol. I think it's normal. It's gotten easier for me to leave our oldest 2.5yrs old, but the only person my kids stay with is my mother. I will get easier the more you have to do it.
Good luck with school and the job hunt:)

Sandra - posted on 05/13/2010




I cried the first time that I left my son with my mother and I lived with her, not to mention that I only left him for four hours while I went to a night course at school. I think that this is perfectly normal and says that you really love and care for you child!

Stephanie - posted on 05/13/2010




it's perfectly fine, especially for the first time. :) some moms cry more than others. but as you are apart more often, you'll get used to it.
the first week I left my twins at daycare to go to school, I called the office to check on them. :) they were always just fine, but I missed them and worried about them. :)
nowadays, I'm thrilled to have time away. of course, they're now 7 and the toddler's 3. so I've had plenty of time to adjust. hehe...
just give yourself the time and don't give up.

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