What's your view on 'Saucing

Tara - posted on 03/03/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )

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I was reading about this the other day, the new form of spanking (a tongue spanking they call it) I have used hot sauce once when my son was swearing. It worked, but I can't imagine using it as a form of disipline all the time. What's your opinion??

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Tanya - posted on 04/11/2010

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When I heard my 2 1/2 year old saying sh_ _ under her breath when she couldn't get her babydolls dress on. I quietly asked her "Honey, do you know what that word means"? Of course she said no. I asked her if she ever heard mommy or daddy say that, of course she said no, but she said she heard her nanny say it. I told her that nanny should never have said that word because it is nasty & disgusting and I was going to talk to nanny about it. Then I said to her "Let's don't say it no more because it is just a gross, nasty, word and people will think your gross when they hear you say it. She replied "Sheww" and I've never heard her say it again. She's now 11 and I've handled several words like that. She's come to me countless times and said "Mom so and so at school said (whatever) what does it mean"? I'm proud it worked like that. Now, my son (which is her twin brother) was caught saying da_ _ while playing at the age of 3 (have no clue where he heard it from) because his dad and I don't cuss. I handled it the very same way. He thought it was funny and tried to keep saying it over time. I finally quit being so nice and quiet about it. I told him firmly that if he didn't hear me and his dad saying it he better not. He never said it again. He too has come to me and asked many meaning's of words he's heard his friends say. I've been TOTALLY SHOCKED at some, but he never knew it. I was calm, quiet about it and after the latest- fu_ _ word he said "Mom, thank you for always helping me out". I realized only then, hey this really worked. Parenting is trial and error; but I just don't get hot sauce and/ or soap. Just don't. Yes I spank (haven't had to in a long long time- but I would if they needed it), yes I ground, but I don't know I just couldn't do the mouth stuff.

Kate CP - posted on 03/03/2009

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Quoting Laura:



I scared my daughter with the threat of this she had the habit of telling white lies and trying to get away with it, and it will only be horrible the first time, hot saucing can not do any permanent damage, and if it works, once may be enough!






Good Luck,





Yes, hot sauce CAN do permanent damage. Capsaicin can damage nerve endings and cause SEVERE pain. In 2005 in Dallas a toddler died because her mother gave her too much chili powder as a form of discipline. 



Personally, I don't see how putting hot sauce or soap in a child's mouth teaches them anything but to not open their mouths. It doesn't teach them to associate pain with a lie or a swear word. They associate pain with Mommy putting something in their mouth.



I never have and never would do this to my daughter or any future children. There are better forms of discipline.

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I'm sorry but for me this is yet another form of child abuse......put it right up there on the shelf with smacking and spanking!

Tracey - posted on 04/11/2010

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yeah know talking in any of the conversation rooms about any form of discipline is gonna make it a heated topic. and every person is gonna have there opinion on its good/bad or if they think its child abuse. yeah know what people think me and my husband treat our 5 yr old daughter older than she is and that when we threaten to spank her and don't do it that we are wrong. we actually use it as a threat and what her to do what is being asked of her first. i mean in some situations spanking may be needed for the child, as for saucing if it worked the once then why see a need to do it again. i mean you tried to reason with your child to get him to stop saying the bad word. as for using it all the time i think thats a bit extreme. i mean i had a little bit of soap put in my tongue and i am fine. you dont want to pour the stuff down the child's throat.

Angela - posted on 04/11/2010

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i guess if it doesnt physically harm them and just burns there tongue a bit but gets the point accross its ok... i dont believe in spanking but hot sauce doesnt harm them. At first i was alittle stand offish by even the thought of hot saucing but then again a child swearing repeatedly is not exceptable either! tell us how it all works out!

Kellean - posted on 04/10/2010

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Absolutely not! This is definitely crossing the line. I have spoken to doctors who have had mom's bring in their children who had difficulty breathing due to hot sauce being put on their tongues. Family doctors and Pediatricians alike are against this. They will report you to CPS if they find out. If you can't work with your child without resorting to other forms of abuse I would suggest getting help from your doctor or a therapist.
My Grandparents used to wash my mouth out with soap in the 70's. This too goes on CPS's records if parents use this method of discipline.
You wanted your child right? Then take the time for discipline them either by the one, two and three method (worked for mine), time-outs or sending them to their rooms. I also used the changing the scenery method. Picking them up and having them do something else. Also if they are old enough you can have them write down on a piece of paper 10 to 50 times not to say naughty things etc. Just don't resort to hurting them in any physical way.

Samantha - posted on 03/15/2009

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Wow I've never heard of this. Seems a little strange. And if my DD has hubbys taste buds it would never work. He LOVES hot sauce, and I cant keep vinegar in the house cuz he drinks it!! I'm so not kidding either.

Jocelyn - posted on 03/13/2009

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I had never heard of this "disipline".  It sounds like compete bull to me.  My newly two year old asks for franks (hot sause) on most of his food, and loves to eat this spicy hummus (made with chili pepers) as a snack...all I see coming from "saucing" is a dislike of spicy foods (and possibly an increased metabolism).  I can't see "saucing" working for my son :)

Jennifer - posted on 03/13/2009

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when i was growing up my dog ate a jalpeno pepper (Slice) that fell out of a subsandwich onto the floor. After that she had trouble smelling food that would be on floor. 



 that hot pepper ruined her nose . What if that was to happen to your kid ? you would feel awful . Kids say things all the time if you don't want that language give them other word choices or make up silly words for them to use when they get upset. My oldest likes using good golly gum drops when something goes wrong. If you praise the good they stop doing the bad (its all about attention)

Jennifer - posted on 03/13/2009

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My mom always made us drink a spoonful of vinegar when we told lies,  it tastes awful and it doesnt cause any harm, so I would use that instead of hot sauce.  I also love hot food, and want my kids to eventually enjoy it too, so I wouldn't want to scare them with it.

Jessica - posted on 03/13/2009

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Ok I know I'm behind on this conversation but Hot sauce is not horrible,I'm a Latin woman and my daugter has loved hot sauce since she was 3! Candies from Mexico all have some kind of chile on them and she and I sit witha bowl of lays potato chips and douse it with Cholula hot sauce! lol ..... So no parent should feel horrible about saucing their kids, it's better than some parents that smack their kids around. Did you know that Chile's are actually good for blood flow. A little sauce isn't going to hurt, I'm sure parent's give their kids worse like soda's, sugary drinks...at least hotsauce is natural. If it works good for you, don't let anyone make you feel bad.

Jana - posted on 03/03/2009

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I didn't know it had technical name, but I have heard of people using this method, but not with hot sauce.  I have heard of people using mustard, and if someone threaten me with mustard I would stop my behavior!

Tracy - posted on 03/03/2009

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I have heard of this, it was in a book written by Lisa Welchel, she played Blair on the Facts of Life and she wrote a child rearing book called Creative Correction, it was supposed to be faith based as her husband is a pastor and I was surprised to see she said the tongue spanking with hot sauce. I didn't read much else and returned it to the library.  I do remember that scene from A Christmas Story where Ralphie swore and his mom made him eat soap, thats what my mom did and it didn't hurt us so maybe that is a better option.

Sarah - posted on 03/03/2009

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I think that is horrible. I would be afraid it would hurt their stomachs, or make them vomit from the taste. I do time out, or take something away for a short period of time, depending on what my kids are doing. I will spank, but it is last resort.

I've never heard of this, but a friend of mine has a son that is out of control. She couldn't do anything with him as far as discipline goes, and she would put her fingers in a glass of water and 'flick' him in the face to make him stop. It seemed to work. I don't know agree with doing that, but you never know exactly what people are dealing with either.

Kristine - posted on 03/03/2009

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I also have never heard of the hot sauce method. When I was a child, we were given either a teaspoon of Caster Oil or Cod Liver Oil for swearing. These tasted revolting, so much so, my mum ended up giving us a mint/sweet to cover the taste (defeated the purpose a bit!). One of my friends mother gave Caster Oil to her daughters (this was nearly 39 years ago) every day, to the point that the girls/ladies like taking it today! I would NEVER recommend this form of persuasion, it was never a deterrent. I'm lucky in that my little one (3 1/2 years) still listens to me, and when I say not to use a naughty word (which he has picked up at nursery) he stops using it.

Tara - posted on 03/03/2009

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Don't misunderstand me ladies..I DO NOT use this as a form of discipline, I'm a time out fan (I use the naughty mat method from Supernanny) I couldn't believe it when I read that people are using it all the time. When I used it (only once) it was actually my parents that suggested it, so I tried it out (one drop of tobasco on the tongue and he's just fine) Anyways, just curious on peoples views...

Heather - posted on 03/03/2009

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It's child abuse if used all the time! Time out or just time alone with an explaination of the situation is enough.

Jeanne - posted on 03/03/2009

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Ok Hot sauce and soap can really hurt them. Hot sauce can burn all the way down and cause alot of problems. Soap there is so many chemicals and crap in them. Not a good idea at all. I have heard of another alternative, use vinager if you want to use this method.

CJ - posted on 03/03/2009

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I can understad this being done for swearing, because it teaches them to associate swearing with the burning sensation on there tongue. But i dont think it is appropriate as a new form of disipline. it just doesnt seem right.

Dawn - posted on 03/03/2009

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i've never done this but when i was little my friend's mother used to wash his mouth out with soap!! i think i'd rather see someone using the hot sauce or some pepper!! i've never used it myself cause for right now the time outs are working for me. my daughter when she first learned to talk would say the "s" word all the time cause she heard daddy saying it but i just made HIM stop saying it and she stopped. good luck. but if your gonna keep using it i would ask the dr first...you don't want to hurt his little taste buds.

Kelly - posted on 03/03/2009

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I'm with TinaMarie....I've never heard of this, and am a little shocked. Hmmmm my thought is that it may work short term but what happens when they get used to it? I am a fan of giving them an alternative to say instead of the bad word. They can still use it in context, with all the emphasis they want but it's not 'bad'.  Are they not just using it for shock value? To get a rise....it's hard to ignore I know but the more you make out of it, the more they see that it will work.

Tara - posted on 03/03/2009

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That's true Laura, one woman was saying she used it on her kids and now they ask for it on their pizza..lol

Laura - posted on 03/03/2009

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I scared my daughter with the threat of this she had the habit of telling white lies and trying to get away with it, and it will only be horrible the first time, hot saucing can not do any permanent damage, and if it works, once may be enough!



Good Luck,

Tara - posted on 03/03/2009

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I use time out's as well. The one time I used it, he would not stop saying the f word no matter what I did. One drop of hot sauce and he hasn't said it again. Some people are using it all the time, which from what I read can cause some serious medical problems for the child. I think it's cruel to use it as a regular consequence. I don't think I'll ever use it again because I felt so bad after I put the drop on his tongue..I think it's mean and I felt mean for doing it!!!

TinaMarie - posted on 03/03/2009

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Quoting Tara:

What's your view on 'Saucing

I was reading about this the other day, the new form of spanking (a tongue spanking they call it) I have used hot sauce once when my son was swearing. It worked, but I can't imagine using it as a form of disipline all the time. What's your opinion??



At first I am shocked!!!!  I can't imagine putting hot sauce on my kids' tongues!!!!  Not that I am not a believer of a good swat on the hiney but I resort to time out first!

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