What seems to be a good age difference between siblings- observations please!

Christianna - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




Well, my baby boy is only 14 months old and I am contemplating when to have a second. My original thought was to have them at least 3 years apart, so that the older one could communicate better and be more independent, helpful etc. making it easier! But now I am thinking that I would like to get the "baby years" over with sooner- diapers, sleep training etc. Being in baby land is a particular mindset that is intense, and I don't know if I want to extend it into a 6 year period.
I also want to continue to be home while my children are young, but don't want to be out of the work force TOO long- just in case I need to dive back in.
On the other hand- I am just getting stuff under control to where he is sleeping through the night, I can leave him with our teenage sitter, garden and do projects with him on my back, and keep up on the daily cycle of housecleaning, meals and laundry. I can barely balance it all as is...so another will definitely put me back into survival mode again.
So- anyone have any experience with a 2 year old and an infant? A three year old and an infant?

What seems to be a good age difference between siblings- and how is adjusting to the second one different? Please! Tell me your experiences, doubts or convictions! I am all ears.


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Sarah - posted on 01/21/2010




I'm big about age differences lol. I always wanted my kids to be at least somewhat close in age. I have a son who will be 5 in June, and I have a son who's now 8 months old. There age difference is the farthest I'd go, I would have had my second sooner but I was trying to finish my education. Im not sure if I want a 3rd baby or not, but if I plan to have one Im hoping it wil be within the year or two!

Jennifer - posted on 01/21/2010




Christianna, I have an 11 yr. old, a 3 yr. old and a 7 month old. I feel I was blessed with all three! Although it is heavenly having my 11 yr. old around to help out with the younger two, it is a wonderful blessing to be able to watch the two closer in age interact with each other. Yes, there are times when I ask myself "what were you thinking? you just got to the easy part....and now you start all over!!!" But I have to say that the good times heavily outweigh the bad. If you really want to have another I would suggest between two and three years age difference. Yes, it puts you back on diaper duty, but your oldest will still be able to help Mommy with the new baby.....and I find that my 3 yr. old feels soooooo good about herslelf when I praise her for being such a good little helper for Mommy. In fact, I think it's helping her to adjust to "sharing" Mommy....which has been our biggest obstacle. I have no regrets, only beautiful memories and tons of fun and laughs with my little ones. Every day is something new!! Hope this helps in your decision making!


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