What should I do?????

Tona - posted on 06/17/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My son is 19 months old and he hits himself every time we tell him no and he also throws himself into things. I'm afraid he will give himself brain damage. We have tried everything what should we do?


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Nicole - posted on 06/20/2010




I have four children, and have went through almost all types of tantrums, when you tell your child NO and he exhibits self destructive behavior what kind of reaction does he get out of you? I have figured out that when they get a reaction they'll keep doing it. Its attention seeking behavior, in its truest form. Ignore your son when he does that, remove him to a place where he can't do to much harm to himself. Trust me he won't do to much to himself, because it hurts. Once he figures out you won't tolerate it and gets no reaction good or bad he'll stop this behavior. It might get worse before it gets better, but in the end you'll be glad you stuck to your guns. Good Luck!

Clare - posted on 06/18/2010




my son was a headbanger we ignored it an after a week he stopped it because he didn't get the attention. my daughter is 20 months and throws big tantrums and we just sit her in the corner and ignore her after a minute or two she stops as she isn't getting the attention and then we ask her if she has calmed down and give her a hug and then try to change the subject eg lets go look at this book.

Chelle - posted on 06/18/2010




Yes thankfully my boy has not had too many tantrums but once he had one for 45 mins!! BY the end of it was starting to get worried. Yes and one of the things he did was throw himself on the ground. I find that even though he might react that way it is important to stick to your guns and still uphold the "no". They must learn they cant get their own way if they play up and that some things they are just not allowed to have/do.

My loch is 19 months old too and i find that when he gets upset because i have told him he cant have something, iit doesnt last that long and doesnt get to tantrum stage generally. I just maintain no and perhaps explain to him why. I have also gotten into the habit of telling him when he is calm for the count of 5-no whinging, wimpering etc then he can have something he wants and not before.

Good luck

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He definitely wont get his brain damage--- it can be very traumatic for a parent to watch their child do that.... Try use I statement egz; I feel sad when you do this because you will get hurt ouchy whatever words your buba will comprehend ....

Tantrums tend to occur at the worst possible time for you. They are times that a typical toddler might feel emotional overload, and like he doesn't have your full attention. If you are aware of the situations that trigger tantrums, you may be able to prevent them..Also remember that the occasional tantrum is a normal byproduct of toddlerhood and development.
Maybe dont use the word no... Maybe say stop childs name mummy feels really sad when you jump on the lounge you might hurt yourself"

Sherilynn - posted on 06/17/2010




I went through something similar to that with my son when he was little, he would actually hold his breath til he passed out. My advice is when he does it just grab him and hold him or you could even tickle him to get his mind off of whatever he's wanting. It worked for me.

Pip - posted on 06/17/2010




He'll grow out of it... I've got 5 boys and they all did that, head butting the ground was 1 of their favourite tricks to get attention, even if it was a concrete pavement, spilting their lips and all. Twits. Just treat it like a tantrum cause that's all it is.

Medic - posted on 06/17/2010




Umm... it is highly unlikely that he will cause brain damage to himself from throwing himself into things. My son did it for ever and would even bang his head into the floor....he walked around for the better part of a year with a big freakin bruise in the middle of his fore head...he stopped around 2.5 maybe closer to three his dr said to just ignore it and we did. Kids are ment to get bumps and bruises and are in no way strong enough to do severe damage to themselves.

Shanna - posted on 06/17/2010




i would imagine that this is like treating a severe tantrum. if that is the case, the best thing to do is ignore the behavior. eventually it will stop. now, if he injures himself, make light of it unless it requires medical care. at this age, just about everything they do is for attention, positive or negative. just be consistent no matter what you do.

Coolgirl426 - posted on 06/17/2010




my daughter is about the same age and when she gets in trouble she also hits herself and throws herself into things...i just try to correct her when i see he going to do it

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