What should I do with my clingy toddler?

Lindsey - posted on 09/29/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




Recently my son, who is 14 months old, has started acting like he is terrified of everyone. We went away on vacation in August for a week..we came home and he was terrified of everyone. He won't go to any of our family members, if they walk in the house and try to pick him up he just screams. When we go to family dinners he won't have anything to do with anyone, if we put him down he just screams until my husband or I pick him up. What should I do?


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Jessica - posted on 10/03/2011




It's normal. Just pick him up and love him up and help him feel secure. He will get over it. My2 yr old daughter has been doing this off and on for a while and it gets old after a while! But I hold her and reassure her and I know that it won't last forever.

Charity - posted on 10/03/2011




My son went through this for a while. He's now 3 1/2 & finally a social butterfly. I dealt with him not wanting anyone but me for almost 2 years, he rarely even wanted his Dad. It started around 18 months. I found an article that summed it up for me. Basically he's a high maintenance child. They require more comfort & reassurance than other children. It's been challenging at times, especially if I wanted a break because he wouldn't go to anyone. He finally started staying with Dad around 2 yrs old. Now he will stay with my Mom & her husband. He is around them more than anyone else so he is most comfortable with them. It's been a hard road but it's great to finally see him coming into his own!!

Tara - posted on 10/01/2011




It really is normal. My girls went through the same thing about the same age. Don't pressure your child into being social with other people if he is uncomfortable. If he feels safer with you or your husband, let that be ok. You can talk to others with him, but don't force him to let others hold him or give affection. He will outgrow it. I used to be embarrassed or worry about hurting others feelings, but in the end, I realized my babies' worries were more important and people will understand if you explain he is going through a shy stage. Good luck and it won't last long. Before you know it, you won't be able to get him to sit on your lap for more than 10 seconds at a time!

Bonnie - posted on 09/30/2011




It is normal. He is likely going through separation anxiety. Usually happens around this age.

Lindsey - posted on 09/29/2011




I will definitely give that a try! Chris and I are willing to give anything a try! I was worried that there was somethin seriously wrong so I am glad to hear that I am not the only one having this problem.

Janeta - posted on 09/29/2011




My daughter is fourteen months old and has started the same thing its stranger anxiety and its normal, I hold her and I go up to family and friends and talk to them and let her talk to them so she realizes that they are ok and not to be afraid of them, I will then put her down and reassure her that she is ok and then when one of our friends or family members try and pick her up and she starts to fuss I just look at her and say its ok Ryleigh they are our friend mommy is not going to let anything happen and i just reassure her that she is ok and she usually quits fussing and will let them hold her, she is getting better and better with it. Good luck

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