What should you do when your child yells No at you

Angie - posted on 02/10/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have a four year old daughter who seem to be in a stage where whenever she is doing something she shouldnt be doing and I tell her to stop she turns around and yells NO at me. Not sure what I should do about it. Any ideas would be great. Thank you.

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Monica - posted on 02/10/2010

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You should ignore her "no" and do whatever you normally do when she's being punished. If you ignore it and don't show her that it's getting her anywhere then she will stop. Just don't show that she's pushing your buttons!! I give my son time outs as punishment, he's 3 1/2... i hope he doesn't start the "NO!"!!

I think if it was my son, i would just laugh and say "oh, really?" and like i said, do the same consistant punishment :)

Katie - posted on 02/10/2010

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My 3 yr old has been tring to pull that with me.. I normally have a sit down with her and tell her that it is not okay, tell her why and why I tell her not to do things.. Then there is a time out.. If she does it a few times we have a reward system so she loses money for it! Plus if she really keeps it up first to go TV time, then some of her fave toys.. GOOD LUCK hope this helps

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Jane - posted on 02/12/2010

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timeouts or take toys away until she can earn them back. i hear that it is a stage, but still, she needs to learn how to conduct herself in the world.

Karina - posted on 02/12/2010

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ps. they do seem to EVENTUALLY grow out of it!!! Yay!! looked forward to that!! :-)

Karina - posted on 02/12/2010

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Haha! before I even clicked on you question I thought i wonder if they're four!!! lol My youngest is the same age and all i hear from him is "No I NOT!!!" at various volumes depending on his/its mood lol Its a bit tricky cos he's autistic aswell but i usually ignore it and make him do what i wanted him to do anyway, if he doesnt he goes to bed til he will listen and do as he's told. But if i know wont be able to see it through to the bitter end i just let some things go, if you dont win it just make next time harder!! Learnt that one!! lol Plus his most fave thing is the playstation!!! He is learning that if he annoys his mother to much he will not be playing it!!! Using something they love or something they hate to do WORKS!! My daughter (6) loves her brats dolls and my eldest son (11) is obssessed with computers etc so they both hate having them taken away from them! Alls good til that stops working then you have to find something else lol Good luck!!!

Christina - posted on 02/12/2010

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my daughter never replied to time outs, i had to take things away, i also started saying no back to her, she didn't like that and stopped saying no to me. reverse sycholigy it works hope it might work for you

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shes coping someone, take gently by the hand away from what she is doing and distract her with something else and tell her shes not allowed to do that and every time she says no give her a timeout for 4min and everytime she moves make her go back and tell her every time she shouts no thats whats gonna happen good luck

Nadine - posted on 02/11/2010

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I am all for timeouts, taking away toys and deducting from there allowance. of course aslo reward good behavior. But I am still all talk, my son is undera year old.

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