what the hell????

Shellee - posted on 06/16/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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my husband and i were talkin in bed and he brought up fathers day. i said atleast you got a gift. he got himself a 500 dog. and i didnt even get a card on my first mothers day. and he said to me... atleast i put a roof over your head. so now im out here on the sofa because im so pissed. what do you say to that? what do i do?

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Shellee - posted on 06/19/2011

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well he finally read my blog about how i felt on FB. and after her read he did the dishes and now hes cookin for me on fathers day. and he took me on a date to the movies and to toca bell. i am a cheap date but hell i aint FREE! lol hes gettin better. we will see how long it last.

Stifler's - posted on 06/17/2011

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tell him OH FUCK OFF and then tomorrow do nothing around the house. that's the sort of thing i'd do anyway. then i'd go buy myself jewelry next time he got paid.



i wonder how much a full time babysitter would cost for your child. because i'd find out and tell him that too. plus how much a cleaner who does everything you do charges.

Jodi - posted on 06/17/2011

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He's not planning on eating any homecooked meals for a long time I hope. That was REALLY rude of him to say that. I'd be pissed too. I'd go on a total strike.

Ashley - posted on 06/16/2011

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just lots of swear words come to mind but what he said is abusive he said it to make you feel indebted to him and to make you feel bad. You need to find out why he said it and is that how he realy feels because that is not healthy. Have been fighting about money was it a mutual decishion for you to stay home. None of the answer make it ok for him to say that to you but you should no why. Ask him if you can talk to him if he says no wait when you are both ready tell him how that made you feel go past angry into hurt scared however you felt and try to resolve this now. does he say things like that all the time or was he just being an ass the once nip it in the but before it gets huge. let us how it goes good luck

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√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/19/2011

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Heck, at least he got it....... I had to yell at mine

Kyleigh - posted on 06/17/2011

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doesnt he even know your out there?! my dh knows why im in the living room upset and he refuses to go to sleep til we resolve issues :( sorry to hear

Shannon - posted on 06/17/2011

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omg i would be to id kick his but out on the couch you shouldnt be there go back in there stand your ground!



also one time he called me lazy and im a sahm and everything and i have yet to make him dinners or anything i also went on a shopping spree

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/17/2011

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First off I would have literally swiveled around and used my leg power to push his asshole ass off the bed. BAM!

Then tell him he's a jerk and to go to the sofa, where there's still a roof over his head to enjoy.

I don't know what else to tell you because although my boyfriend wasn't that big of a jerk about it.......... and definiatly didn't spend 500 on a dog...... he didn't even wish me a happy mothers day on my first either. He hasn't made it up to me yet and well I'm still mad at him over it too.

Your guy needs to get a big fat clue. That's aweful. I'd be worried about how truly uncaring that was. But guys can be asses. :(

I'd say take 500 (make sure you have the basic necessities to squeeze by but do it really basic. EX: make a CRAPload of rice, store it in the fridge. Buy some teriyaki sauce and then store a bag of cooked veggies and like 2lbs tiny cut up beef for the week for ALL of your food needs, you and your husband. Stock up on top ramen, cup of noodles for snacks lol) then take as much money as you can out for yourself and go on a shopping spree.

Either you get him to understand he's a jerk, so he's nicer next time. Or you take revenge. There's not much else to do. I'm still hoping for the 'nicer' to be accomplished but well I don't have much hope...... so I'll probably soon switch to revenge.

Good luck baby doll........
I'd also do stuff like walk around in lingerie but not let him touch me LOL jerks

Karen - posted on 06/17/2011

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What an ass! I don't usually get anything either for Mother's Day, but when father's day comes around he takes the day to sleep in, then goes out shopping for fishing stuff or a new hunting gun. Maybe some clothes too. "It's Father's Day today. I'm going....." He's never said anything rude like that though. I'd be pissed and take the wheels off his car or something. You can't really take the legs off the dog though lol. Go on strike!

Nancy - posted on 06/17/2011

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I'm a smartass so I would have probably responded with, "yes my love, you provide the roof but I make it into a home where you can come back to and feel loved and appreciated and where OUR children are cared for......aren't you so blessed".

Corinne - posted on 06/17/2011

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Why are you on the sofa? it should be HIS ass out there! What a git. I'm with the ladies who say strike, been there, done that and it worked.

Shellee - posted on 06/17/2011

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yeah that seems like a better way then what i did. i posted how i felt on Face Book. but i customized who could see it. just our moms and him. now hes mad that i put it on there, but i have told him once before and i tell him almost everyday. and now he feels bad he felt bad last time and it didnt last very long.

Mimi - posted on 06/17/2011

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My husband has said something like that once. I quit doing everything I normally do around the house. After a week he noticed the huge piles of laundry,dirty dishes and generally dirty house. He said something about it. I told him to hire someone since I didnt do anything all day long anyway. He has since been much better.

Alicia - posted on 06/17/2011

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Lol Katherine, so true! Think they forget our job is looking after our children, a job that's 24/7 with no breaks! We just get paid in cuddles, loves, and kisses!

Katherine - posted on 06/17/2011

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WHat the F%$#? I would be so freakin mad. What a horrible comment to make. I would have said at least I raise your kids. I'm awful about things like that, I get so mad lol.
At least he has a clean house to come home to and gets fed! What an ass!

Alicia - posted on 06/17/2011

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My partner called me 'lazy' the other day, when im a SAHM to our 2yr old and 6month old. I was pissed. so the last two days iv cleaned up the bare minimum, not cooked his dinners or washed his work clothes.. Just waiting for my apology :)

Shellee - posted on 06/16/2011

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lol thanks. we dont fight about it aften because i dont bring it up. but trust me if i did then we would be fightin about it al the time. and an other thing. we havent even spent that much money on our daughter!!!!! family has been givin us diapers and clothes. it is the first grandchild so that explians most of it. or we could have put that money towards his students loans. i dont have a degree so if i did work it would just go for day care. i applied for wal mart for a night shift. so if i do get it ill be gettin up at 6am and stay up all day cleanin then go to work at 6pm until 12am then gettin back up at 6 the next morning.

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