what would you do?

Katie - posted on 02/08/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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i tend to have a problems when we go back home. My husband is in the military and i just had a son in august and ever since he was born i noticed this and even before this. Right before we moved to several states away, my husbands sister is always taking my son when we visit. The first time we brought him to my husbands moms house she has always taken the baby away from others bc she wants to hold him. And the thing is she wont let anyone else hold him. and if she does she is always right there in their faces. she is 17 yrs old and she should know better. like a time when my son was born and was only a day or two old she wanted to keep him in her room and stay up with him all night and i stopped that. i did not allow that and she bawled and got my husband on her side. and made me look like the bad guy. and another time was recently when we just visited she took nolan away from other people. and when we was at my hubbys gmas she would always take nolan in the opposite room than me. no matter where she is she always has to take the baby in a different room. she will not hold him in the same room that i am in and it makes me mad! i always keep and eye on her bc i hate it that she cant be in the same room as me. and if he crys and crys she will refuse to give him to me...and that is who he wants is me. bc he is a mommys boy. it just irritates me but i cant tell her or my husband bc that is his lil sister and it will cause fights between us. his sister is always trying to make me look like the bad guy. and like my hubbys dad is always trying to keep my son awake when he is sleeping and they will not let him sleep. and it makes me soo mad.and he will always take nolans pacifier away from him bc he dont like them..and it irritates me bc if my son wants his pacifier then let him have one... but then again i cant say nothing bc i dont want to fight. everytime we go home i never get to spend time with him bc the family is always hovering all over him and takes him away from me. i just want to tell my hubby's sister to just go and have her own baby and leave mine alone. and like the last time we went home for a couple of weeks she told me that she was disappointed with nolan bc he didnt want her at all and he only wanted me. DISSAPPOINTED with a baby! he dont even really know her and she gets mad about it. and she also told me that she had a dream that my son was her baby and she got to keep him forever...to me that just sounds stalkerish. What would you do?

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Katie - posted on 02/08/2010

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i want to tel them soo bad to just listen t ome or dont see him or hold him but if i do then it will cause many fights and that is the last thing i need is a riot going on. maybe i can figure out some way to tel them. its easier to say then do.

Katie - posted on 02/08/2010

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yes it is teir fist grand child but it is no reason to constantly hover over my son. i mean it aint just a hold and give the baby back it is a hold from 8 am to 12 midnight and then more. we live about 5 states away i mean it aint like they dont ahve access to come and see us. bc they can. and they get pictures all the time and videos. but i just wnat them to back off when we go home. and i want my sister in law to just takes steps back away from me and my son..bc she is getting way out of hand. if it was me then i would understand the reason the abby dont want to come to me.. iwouldnt get mad at him/her bc she didnt want me to hold him/her. i gues you just have to be in my position to see where i am coming from.

Ashley - posted on 02/08/2010

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If I were in ur situation I would tell them all that they need to follow MY rules with MY son and if they didnt like it then they dont need to see him or be around him anymore... U r his mother therefore U should be the one making decisions about wether or not he should be sleeping and wether or not he needs to have his binkie... And just explain to his sister that u would just feel more comfortable if she wouldnt take ur son out of the room... Say that u want ur son in ur sight at all times.

Christa - posted on 02/08/2010

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Is there first grandbaby on that side of the family? How far away do they live from Nolan? It sounds like they love him very much and really want to love him. Maybe you should think of embracing their desire. Maybe if you would, they would lighten up a bit. Of course he wants to be with him mommy; but there is no reason whe he can't still feel comfortable with his grandparents, aunts or uncles. Imagine if it was your brother, his wife and their child.....would you want to hold the baby? how would you feel if you knew the mother didn't trust you with your nephew? something to think about.

Katie - posted on 02/08/2010

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i have tried numerous times talking to my husband about it and he dont see where im coming from..he thinks im being overly protective and taking this overboard. his idea on this her taking my son in his point of view is that they dont get to see him all the time. and they need to spend time with him too..but i just think that their going overboard..like the pacifier that is my sons security blanket and just bc his dad doesnt like it doesnt mean that i am going to raise my son the way he raised his. it just irritates me bc i feel as though they are trying to tell me how to raise my kid. and i aint going to allow that. i have been wanting to tell his sister to screw off for months now..pretty much ever since we met. bc she irritates the f*** outta me. she will hold him from the time he wakes up till the time i take him away to go to bed if we dont end up going anywhere that day..and she will literally follow us to my hubbys grandmas house (her grandmas too) but she will follow us to gmas house just so she can hold him. it just scares me bc when he is able to talk i dont wnat her brainwashing my son and tell him things that is going to piss me off. i know for sure this time i aint going to back down..i am going to stand on my ground..its just hard when you have everyone against you and not seeing your point your view and your the only one fighting against everyone else.

Chelsea - posted on 02/08/2010

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tell her to go take a hike, who cares if it starts a arguement, if it does break down yourself, you are the mother, it is your job to be the mother, if someone purpously took my girl to another room to stay away from me i wouldn't have it, and i wouldn't care what my husband thinks about it, because he should always have your back, about the passy thing, i dont know about that, but if he wants to take care of him when he's upset and wants his passy then he can have it his way. and for her to be dissapointed?? tell her well sorry your the mother of the child, maybe if you had your own you might get what you really want. its your son. your husband should be behind you 100% she's 17... she needs to screw off.

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