When can i put my baby in sepperate room???

Sarah - posted on 08/18/2009 ( 37 moms have responded )

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My baby is 10 months old, he still with me and his daddy in the same room. When can I put him to sleep in his own room?

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Nicole - posted on 08/18/2009

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I moved my daughter to her own room when she was three weeks old! I stopped letting her sleep in the bed with me at the same time. I was a slightly difficult transition but it pays off big time! I get a better sleep and I feel she does so as well. She now sleeps in untill eight, and when she wakes up, plays with toys until I mosey my way in there. She is also starting to put herself to sleep. I nurse her and rock her at bedtime (9:15) until I can tell she's really sleepy, then I lay her down and she rolls right over. Shes 10 mths old now, and the hard work is really starting to pay off!

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Lydia - posted on 08/25/2009

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I will tell it would have been easier to move the baby when the basinet was getting to small around 4 months. Now is going to be more difficult because baby is aware of surroundings. Do not wait for the to turn one. Start the transition. Hubby will have no together time, and that could affect your marriage. I know is hard to separate from baby
but the longer you wait, the more difficult it gets. So get that baby monitor ready, and as they say ...take a big girl pill.

Martha - posted on 08/25/2009

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I put my daughter in her own room at a month and a half. She started sleeping 10 hours straight that night! She was up two or three times a night before that. We all sleep better in a seperate room. My husband and I have our own space, and a better relationship because of it.
I loved listening to my little girl sleep, and it was a comfort to have her there. But it was a good time to get her in her own room because now its all she knows.
I have had friends that have kept babys in thier room, or bed, for a year or more and it was Really hard to get them into their own room. It takes about a week of really big transition. Your baby will really enjoy seeing you walk into their room in the morning after a good nights sleep.
Best of luck

Kylie - posted on 08/25/2009

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My daughter has slept in her own room from the day we brought her home. My husband and I stayed in her room for the first week. After that she has been in her own room. She sleeps so well at night, anywhere from 8-10 hours and she is just over 2 months old. You just need to make a nice transition. Try during the day to start. You have to be strong too....don't give up too quickly!

Morgan - posted on 08/25/2009

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i moved my daughter toher own room when she was 1 and i never let her sleep in my bed cause i learned from my sis her 7 yr old still sleeps in the same room cause she let him sleep with her for so long. my daughter loves having her own room but she is now 3 lol

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Technically, you could have done it from day one. :) So really anytime you are ready is when you should do it. He may need some reassurance you are still there for him and maybe a little extra cuddle time before bed, but he'll be fine.

Vickie - posted on 08/24/2009

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When you are all ready, although now would be a good time to start, as they get older it will be harder for him to make the transition. Take it slow, and be patient it may take sometime. Good luck!

Norma - posted on 08/24/2009

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did you have a reason to have your baby in your room? If not then you can put him in his own room any time your ready.

Coralyn - posted on 08/23/2009

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whenever you and the baby are ready. i have know people who put there kids in there own room when they are first born. my fiance works nights so my daughter sleeps with me at night except when he is off work than she is in her own room. she is 4 months old. but the longer you wait the harder it will be.
good luck :)

Tiffany - posted on 08/23/2009

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You can put baby in separate room as soon as baby is born... there isn't the perfect time. Really just depends on your preferences. Some cultures value a child's dependence on family (and strong family ties) and the entire family shares the same room. Not much privacy, but it is what they are used to. Western culture is high on independence and self reliance... therefore it is expected for kids to have their own rooms.

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Hiya my son sleeps in his own room, he been in his own room since he was 3 weeks, i cant stand hearing all the noises they make in there sleep and its easier for you all if you get a good night sleep but then on the other hand you got to be happy with the desision your going to have to make as 10months is a long time and then to change it might be abit of pressure, break him in gradually hun

Kristy - posted on 08/22/2009

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you can put him in his own room when you feel ready. my first child sleep in his own room when he came home, but i would sleep in his room when i need to. my two month old sleeps in our room. so it is up too you when you think it is time. everyone is different. i would start in the morning and try to make him sleep in his room. then if he does good. go to the night time.

Freda - posted on 08/22/2009

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I started from the beginning, but it's best to start as soon as possible, so the child will not get so attached and you both being right there when he wakes up, because it will be hard to get him out of that routine once he starts getting a lil older.

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i would start to try it now.my son has been in his own room since he was about 4 or 5 months old when we moved him out of the bassinet and into his crib and the transition was so smooth he never noticed the diff. i admit it was easier to tend to him when he was in my room right beside me but i got better sleep with out him there.i was constently hearing him move or make funny noises and it would keep me up.i would try moving him in slowely if he does not respond ok try him a few mins. each night and make it a bit longer each time till he falls asleep. or u could just do the let him cry it out method which i did for nap time. put him down in his crib at bed time in his room and leave him. let him cry if he does give him i would say about 15 or 20 mins if he dont calm down then yes u can go get him but try to hold back and let him go own his own it will work i lay my son down even if he dont go to sleep right away i let him stay in his crib i dont go in after him unless his cries sound very schrilling like he had a nightmare or he is in pain.u will be able to tell the diff. from mommy come get me out and mommy im in real need of u get me now.just give it time and soon u will have ur room back to urselves and u will be able to have ur ummmm lol romance back lol.good luck.oh i failed to mention my son is now 16 months old.and been in his room ever since at least 4 months.

Karen - posted on 08/21/2009

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Once my kids were sleeping 8 hours straight for 2 weeks I put them in their own rooms. My first was 8 weeks old (I know, I'm lucky!) and my 2nd was 12 weeks old.

Becki - posted on 08/21/2009

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I have four children (ages 13 - 2 years old). I had them all in my room and they slept with us in the bed most of the time....my advice is the earlier you get them out of your room and bed the better. It will be hard for a week or so but the younger you do this the easier and faster the transition will be. It was harder of a transition on me than my kids. It was hard to not have them sleeping next to me where I could see and hear their every move....but they sleep a lot better away from you and so do you once the transition is made....good luck!

Frances - posted on 08/21/2009

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With my first he was sleeping in his own room from 4 weeks on wards and with my 2nd she was in her own room as of her 1st nite at home from hospital and in a cot. I know some people thort I was crazy but we have a really good baby monitor and now she is only 4 months old next week and sleeps from 7pm to 8am.... Even with my son he was always a great sleeper once in his own room. I agree with Alicia Poth try getting him to sleep in his own room during the day and then introduce nite times. Good Luck

Michelle - posted on 08/20/2009

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Let me just say that If I had it to do all over again... they'd be in their own room from day one... as it is I have a five year old and a two year old that refuse to sleep in their own room

Kim - posted on 08/20/2009

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When you are ready! Truthfully, we slept with our first child much longer than with the second. I just had more energy then. :) I needed the second one to be in her own room a bit sooner. I think she started sleeping in there on her own at about 9 or 10 mos. Now she is 3 and a MUCH better sleeper than her older sister. I think it's because we "taught" her how to sleep on her own much sooner. Good luck!

Jenn - posted on 08/20/2009

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I had my daughter in her pack and play for about 4 wks bc I had a c-section and couldn't bend over the crib. It was hard not seeing her in our room, but she has slept great in her OWN room in her OWN bed every night since then and she slepts about 6-9 hours a night...I love it! I leave the ceiling fan on low and close the blinds and gently put her to bed. She never slept in our bed, that just doesn't seem safe, but everyone is different, I just want my little girl around for a long time and the safest place is in her BED. Good luck!!

Alison - posted on 08/20/2009

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With my first son I waited untill he was 5 months old, so the transition to his own crib over night was a bit difficult, with my second son, he was in his own crib by the end of week one, I found with him I slept better if I wasn't waking up to every little sound he made, and I think he slpet better too!

Stephonie - posted on 08/19/2009

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My son has been sleeping in his own room since he was 5 months but he still comes out of his room in the middle of the night. Your son is 10 months so he should be ready, you should just sleep in his room with him for the first couple of nights so that he will be comfortable sleeping in his own room.

Kimberly - posted on 08/19/2009

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You could have done that from the beginning. Me and my husband just had our 2nd child about 6 months ago and both kids have there own room. When our first son was born, he immediately had his own room. We had monitors in our room and his room too. You can put babies in there own room when they are first born. There is nothing wrong with that. Since he is 10 months old and has been in the same room with you guys for that long, it will be hard getting him to sleep in his own room no matter what age they are unless you do it when they are first born. Any transition will take time and when you give him his own room he will need comfort, and he will also fuss some what because he does not understand he is used to sleeping in the same room. When we moved an hour away it took some time for our oldest to get used to his new room. Any new place will need time for the child to get used to.

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my daughter was one, and to be honest i wish i had done it a lot earlier, at the time it was due to lack of room, but how i wish it had been different, i have never had a full night sleep, she will only go to sleep if i am with her til she goes off, then when she wakes during the night, i have to sit with her til she goes off again,



do what you feel is right for you and baby, but dont forget daddy he might like some time alone in the room with just you......see how baby goes on for a nap in their own room, the try it little bit at a time, it will work out good luck

Mandy - posted on 08/19/2009

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I am one that keeps my babies in my room for a while too, with them joining me in my bed sometimes too. I think anytime before a year is great. If you wait too long after that the kiddos get too darn smart and can put up BIG fights! Trust me I have been there with my first baby. With baby 2 and 3, I moved them at about 6 or 7 months. I agree doing naps first may be a good idea, but I went full force and started with night time. which meant some sad nights but it was only a few and then they were happy as could be in thier own rooms.

Nikki - posted on 08/19/2009

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Our daughter has slept in her own room from day 1...she's only slept with us when we were camping and it was cold (and that was about 2 weeks ago...she's now about 7 1/2 months old). I think it's up to the parents on how that works...but I couldn't handle my kiddo in bed with us. It depends on what you want to do.

Lisa - posted on 08/19/2009

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we put our lil one in our room in her cot instead of moses basket at 5mths and then at around 8mnths put her cot in her own room. to start with we waited until she had fell asleep and then put her in her cot in her room, after a week we started to put her in awake, it was hard at first and there were a few tears (from me too!) but now shes nearly one and I put her down awake at around 7pm and she usually sleeps through until 6am-7am the next day! hope this helps. Lisa x

April - posted on 08/19/2009

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My son started sleeping in his own crib in his own room from day one and he is now 3. We have never experienced sleep time issues. He does very well going to bed in his own room to leave privacy for my hubby and I. I think it definetly depends on the parents. I have heard of all ways from my friends.

Jamie - posted on 08/18/2009

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It is all just a personal preferance of the parents and what works best for you and your little one. My daughter moved out at about 6 months, because of the same thing mentioned above we kept waking her up when we would go to bed or get up to go to work. My son is almost a year now he still has his crib in our room he is about to move out soon though and sleep in his sisters room. He still occasionally when he is sick or something sleep in our bed with us.

Rhiannon - posted on 08/18/2009

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both my girls started in their own rooms the night they came home from the hospital. i chose not to cosleep my children because i was allowed to cosleep until i was in the 6th grade... my aunt let me share her room and to this day i still have a hard time sleeping alone so when my husband is at sea i rarely get decent sleep

Arwen - posted on 08/18/2009

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I had to at 4 months because by then we were keeping HER up. lol I started by letting her nap in her room, and after a week or so of her(mostly me really) being comfortable with the idea, I put her in there at night.

Alicia - posted on 08/18/2009

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I don't have much for first-hand advice b/c we put my son in his room at about 1 month (I could not sleep with all his baby grunts!)
But here is what I would do--If he is already in his own bed for the most part, I'd say just move it and see what happens. If you keep the same bed time / nap time routines, etc, he might just make the switch easily. It probably isn't practical, if he is in a crib, to just start with nap times b/c you can't really move it back and forth.
If it is a really hard transition, be sure to give it time and while he is adjusting go in and reassure him you are there. Good luck. Changing sleep habits is always stressful. But know it will work out and probably the sooner you do it the easier it will be.

Alicia - posted on 08/18/2009

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Whenever you are ready. Since he is 10 months and pretty aware of his surroundings, it might take some adjusting for him. Where does he nap? In his own room? If not, try starting then. I found it is always easier to make a change in sleep during the day when I have the energy to tackle it. Is he in your bed or just in your room?

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