When is it the right time to put my 20 month old in a toddler bed???

Mikayl - posted on 03/05/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son is 20 months old and my husband and I bought him a toddler bed. I have it in him room now just so he can get used to it. But if I put him down for a nap in it he will try to go to sleep in it and then gets up and plays with his toys.... he will sleep in the bed he just gets up alot!! I have tryed putting him back in bed and telling him that its not time to play its time to take a nap..but as soon as I close the door he is up and playing or he will get really upset... any suggestions??

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Mikayl - posted on 03/07/2009

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I just wanted to say thank you to all of you who have helped.  It didnt take long but now he loves sleeping in him toddler bed.  THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

Krystal - posted on 03/06/2009

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i too, as someone else stated, never used the crib/bed for nap time. In the begining i used the swing and now my 2 1/2 year old sleeps on his little fold out couch on the floor in his room. I know he does not sleep the whole time but he at least knows he can NOT leave his room until nap/quiet time is over (his 1 1/2 year old sister still takes a nap). It was hard at first as he really enjoyed his new "freedom"  and would be super cranky in the evenings from not sleeping during nap time, but he now is able to almost decide himself if he needs to sleep or not. some days i can hear him "reading" his books almost the entire 2 hours, but other days (normally every other day, actually) i check on him 10 minutes after i put him down and he's fast asleep. So for me i guess what worked was just letting my son be the boss.



I'm sorry im not of much help! Good luck!

Samantha - posted on 03/06/2009

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Toddler beds are a marketing gimik in my opinion. We chose to go strait to a twin bed as they will need one anyway. Consistant putting him back in bed and using a soothing tone. Try not to have a conversation with him as he will just want to have more from you. It will take time and patience. We chose not to have anything in my daughters room except books. NO TOYS!! That was my room. I felt that if we had the space for a toy room then she did not need them in her room. We also have soothing music playing which cuts out our general noise. I hope that you have success.

Erica - posted on 03/05/2009

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I have a 16 month old son who has been sleeping in a toddler bed since he was 1year old. I have a similar problem. My son gets out of his bed as soon as he wakes up and plays or now he is actually opening doors! I would suggest you have him asleep before you put him in the bed. It makes it easier. He is alot safer sleeping in a toddler bed and as long as it has rails you should be fine. If you don't want him coming out of his room, put a baby gate on the outside of his door.

Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2009

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my daughter changed to a bed at exactly 2 for the sole reason that she was starting to crawl out and scream for us...she was going to break her neck..so we had to switch..otherwise,,,if there is no reason..i say keep them in as long as u can...my son will be 2 tomorrow and i am not switching him..he loves his crib still...so i'm making it last as long as possible....or until he looks to uncomfortable in it...because as soon as u switch to a bed...they come out of their room...at different hours!

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We didn't do a toddler bed. We went straight to a twin size bed. It took one day of telling her to get back in bed about a hundred times and it's been bliss since. Just stick to your guns and show him that you can out last him. They will push and push till you stand your grounds. It normally takes one really hard day of discipline, but gets easier the more you hold to the rules. They need that control a parent gives. Also, make sure to remain consistant with him. Don't let him get up cause you are too tired to deal with it one day, because that will backfire on you. Just be cosistant and stay strong. You can do it!

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As soon as he is able to climb out of his crib. That's when I did. I figured a fall from a toddler bed would be much softer than one from over the crib rail!. I think my twins were both 2-1/2.

Melinda - posted on 03/05/2009

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I went right to a big bed and I found it much easier. That way I could lie down with my daughter until she drifted off to sleep and we have never had a problem

Melissa - posted on 03/05/2009

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My son is 19 months old and has been in a toddler bed since he was 12 months old. He kept trying to climb out of his crib but he would get his legs stuck in between the slats. He too will get up and play with his toys when I put him down for a nap. I have found that he just isn't quiet ready to sleep so I let him play a little. When he starts to fuss then I go and put him back in bed and he normally will go to sleep. I hope this helps. I also had to do this same thing with my oldest son when he was younger but he went right into a big bed.

Hellsbells2311 - posted on 03/05/2009

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Hiya, I personally have never used their bedrooms for nap time, I put them in their buggy or on the sofa (when they are big enough to climb up and down) to have naps and their rooms have been used for bed (night). I found that that way my child knows it is sleeping time and stays in his bed, only playing when he wakes in the morning. As for the bed issue I agree with Jennifer if your child has attempted to climb out or has even managed it I would have them in a bed, our youngest (17months) first climbed out at around 11 months old at which point we took the side off his cot and used a bed guard to stop him falling out, he now quite happily tells you when he's ready for bed and walks into his room and climbs in, lies down and covers himself up (very cute). So I know that when I decorate the room he shares with his brother he will be well and truely ready for the bunk beds he will have with his older brother. Hope this helps

Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2009

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Hi - The right time... well thats a tough one but the general rule of thumb is when they try to climb out of the crib, put them in a bed. One of the things I did to ease the transition with my son (24 months at the time) was to super baby proof the room, take all the toys and fun (put toys in a closet just until he is used to the bed). Make sure to put handle covers on the inside of the door, the closet doors. You don't want him to leave the room while you are sleeping. As an alternative to that put up a gate at his bedroom door. Taking out all the "fun" helped my son to stay in bed. I did give him a book to "read" while in bed and to this day he takes abook to bed. Once he is used to the transition, you can ease the access to toys back into the room. Also make sure you have removed the crib entirely. Once you switch, don't go backwards.  Good Luck

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