where do you go to meet people?

Nicole - posted on 12/28/2009 ( 32 moms have responded )

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I'm a SAHM, and we're about to move from Virginia to Missouri in a month or so and I'm wondering where to go to meet people with kids my son's age, 1. I thought it was hard to make friends before I had kids, but it's even harder now! My husband is military, so I've met a lot of military wives, but no one I've really clicked with. They're all younger with no kids and like to party or they're older with older kids. Plus some of them are just plain weird! I think we were "late" having our son (I was 25) by military standards, most people get married and have kids right away, we waited 5 years. I made a couple friends while I was working, one had a baby 6 months after I did. We get together every now and then. But I'm going to have to start all over in a few months. So besides finding a mommy group or going to church (we don't do church, we're not religious), where do you meet people? I would hang out at Wal-Mart in the baby section and try to talk to people, but that might seem a bit creepy, lol!

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Candice - posted on 12/31/2009

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I signed up for meetup.com They have losts of mommy and me groups on there. you just need to pick one and either suggest a meeting or wait for one to happen.

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Sarah - posted on 07/02/2013

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Hi I live in Brentford in the uk I have no friends im billy no mates I have 3 beautiful children who I love dearly I have recently split wiv my partner n I want to meet new people does anyone come from around here.

Betsy - posted on 01/09/2010

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I don't know about Missouri - but our schools sponser a program called Early Childhood family education. It's a great resources - once a week we meet w/our groups in a local school (about 15 kids) and they play, moms talk etc. Great way to develop new relationships & start a playgroup. Also search out MOMS Clubs in your area. It's in most areas, and most have playgroups based on ages of the children.

Diana - posted on 01/09/2010

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WOW!!! i'm not a military wife but i had the same problem as you when we moved to Dubai, i heard from alot of people before we moved here that is very hard to make friends in this city but i thought hey! i'm a very easy going girl im sure is not that hard (was i wrong) it took me 6months to meet one friend, i have a 5yr old. i took him in the begining to a lot of play area and even library so i can meet other moms and make some friends (sad but true), hope you make alot of friends where you are, if you were in Dubai hey maybe we can do coffee some time (haha),

Julie - posted on 01/09/2010

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WOW this sux I am in virgina and I was wondering the same thing, how do I meet friends! My husband is in the military too and like you said we meet ppl and they are weird!!! We have been in va for 3 yrs now, we had friends but divorce happened or they moved or somthing! I Started going on myspace and looking for ppl in my area and if I liked stuff about then I would just send them a message. I have meet ppl like this but with the military you move they move or you just dont click. I would say your best bet is looking on myspace or maybe when you get to the new command have your hubby find a friend at work with a wife and kid. I hope this helps you, My life is really miserable with out friends, Im just so ready to go home, and I feel sorry for my daughter too bc she doesnt have anyone to play with :-(...

Liz - posted on 01/03/2010

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You still have the internet althougth you have 2 b careful . You could try going to your local pup or see if there are any local groups in yor area .good luck in the futer

Carolyn - posted on 01/03/2010

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I think having kids makes it easier to make friends. When we first moved down here we had no friends and now with the kids in play groups, etc., that's how I have met my friends. I would look in to the library and see if they have a reading time/play time. I would check to see if there is a children's museum in the area, they usually have a toddler time or playdate, etc. Church will help you meet other families you might click with and you don't have to be super religious either. You could also post something at the site about wanting to start a walking club with strollers. Good luck. It's not easy!

Christina - posted on 01/02/2010

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I've been living with my husband for about 2 years now and I've only had one friend in that time. She too moved away and now I have no one. I'm in Cape Girardeau, if you're moving close by, send me a message and we can hang out.

Heather - posted on 01/02/2010

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Haha... I had never thought about hanging out in the baby section of Wal-mart! I understand where you are coming from completely! My husband is military too and we just moved to NM. I had a great group of friends at our last base who were wives of guys my husband worked with, but here most of the people are single. Just wanted to wish you luck, too bad you aren't in NM!

Mandy - posted on 01/02/2010

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I would suggest the library, just like many of the moms here did. You can also check out your local book stores. A lot of them will have a story time as well. I think the hardest part is walking up to a complete stranger and trying to make a friend. It's almost like dating! LoL. Good luck!

Debbie - posted on 01/02/2010

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I agree with some other posts. I was able to find a moms club in two different states we moved to. Go to www.momsclub.org and find your state. I was able to go to a city close to mine if it didn't exist. If you want to do a lot of work, you can build your own. We ended up changing one of our moms club groups into a yahoo group and I found there are lots of them out there! Just go to yahoo and look for mom's groups. Meetup.com is great too. They have lots of groups to choose from. Some of the groups have yearly fees as MOMS Club does. I found yahoo groups to be free for the most part. Once you are part of the yahoo group, you can receive emails with conversations about where people might be going and so forth. Sometimes we would post a poll for the members to respond to where they might want to go or what they would like to bring to a party. You can even start your own group for free on yahoo groups. Good luck finding what you are looking for!

Angela - posted on 01/01/2010

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I had one of my boyfriends friend's wives add me on facebook... I thought it was a little strange at first and then she just asked me to hang out. I thought it was going to be awkward but then she explained she had too just moved and didnt know anyone. Sometimes its worth just taking the plunge and asking as now we are good friends!

Twila - posted on 01/01/2010

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I am military as well and our bases Spouses Club helped me to make friends, and they set up playgroups, I like it because if they were weird i could just not attend the play group. Sometimes the family support office on base will have a list of playgroups. Or I just hung out at the park letting my kids play and met good friends that way too.

Brittney - posted on 12/31/2009

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also i love the walmart if u start hanging at one i might bump into anyway:)

Brittney - posted on 12/31/2009

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idk about missouri but they gotta have something like this, we have a funigans and a chucky cheese they are resturants/gamerooms/romper rooms 4 kids i take the kids they looove it and sometimes ppl will just start chatting u up alot of ppl hang out at the park too just do things that r fun to the two of u anyone u want ur kid hanging with would b doing the same things yall like

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look for a mops (mothers of preschoolers)group...ours meets every other week,there`s free childcare for (older) kids,lilttle ones can stay with you,we have guestspeakers,doing crafts.....there`s food and a chance to be amongst others...

Cheryl - posted on 12/31/2009

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they have i beleive everywhere. name might even vary.. but here in fl there called MOPS And there mothers of Preschoolers. They have play dates and activities for everyone. look in white pages or call churchs and ask them..

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I am a SAHM but I am not a military wife. My son is a year old as well and when I took him to a local park on a nice day it was loaded with kids and kids make friends so quickly it causes the mothers to have to interact with each other because... kids push and pull and bite and.. you gotta stay close by. My son made "friends" instantly. Some I chose to talk to their mothers, others I didn't Some were older mothers, some were my age. Let your kids help you make new friends, that way you know your son will want to play with the other child... Local parks.. on nice days are a great way. But during the winter it's much harder... cause you're basically trapped inside. If you hung out at Walmart you'd find strange people... bad idea. Sorry I can't help during winter time though!! :(

Kim - posted on 12/31/2009

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My daughter is know 12 but how we met other children was through the library during story time. Then as the kids would play for a little bit us parents got acquainted & we then formed a playgroup we would go to someones house every week. Good Luck!

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I second meetup.com. I keep pretty busy with my son going to meetups and meeting other moms and little ones. So much fun!

Lucrecia - posted on 12/30/2009

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well we go to the local library for story time, i found it's fun for the little ones and there are tons of moms with kids the same age.

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Well I was going to say at church but if you don't go that won't help...lol. In my town our library has tons of programs for kids of all ages, including toddlers and babies. I've met moms that way. Check the newspaper or ask neighbors what activities there are for children. Also, I've made a few friends at my gym. You have to be consistent with the time you go to consistently see the same people and build a relationship.

Megan - posted on 12/30/2009

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When I moved two years ago I felt so alone until I found a local Mothers of Preschools (MOPS) group. The ladies there were my saving grace. I was able to take my kids to the meetings and they provided childcare while I was able to build relationships with other moms who were going through similar things. You can get online and see if your location has one. The website is www.mops.com.

Blessings,
Megan

Michelle - posted on 12/28/2009

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I would look to see if they have a local Mom's Club, a local Boy's and Girl's Club that has an indoor park or something similar, or/& if there is a local community college or Parks and Recreation they might offer some sort of Baby/Toddler/Child and Mom class or they might offer playgroups. You might also see if there is a local Gymboree or take any type of activity for your child like waterbabies, tumbling, etc. You might meet moms that you are comfortable with. I almost forgot you could also check out the local YMCA.

Moms Club
Boys and Girls Club
Gymboree
YMCA

I don't have links to your new area's other local places, but I think you get the idea. Good luck! And if you try something and you don't think it will work try something else.

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I'm a military wife as well, I'm 22 with a 15 month old. When we moved NC last July I was seven months pregnant, and I was so scared! We live on base though, and that's where I met most of the people I hang out with now. I won the neighbor lottery I think lol. It was the middle of summer, so I just went out and talked my neighbors who were outside playing with their kids. I'm the only one in my 'group' with a one year old, but he's big enough now that he can play with the two year olds and they actually like him :) The other people I hang out with I met through FRG mixers. Good luck!!

Jocelyn - posted on 12/28/2009

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I am a sahm (and a future military wife, dh is in the process of enlisting). Check out your local pool! We have a toonie swim that's just for parents with small kids twice a week, and I've met some great people there (surprisingly most are sah dads! lol) Also see if your library has some mom and kid programs. I also met two really great gals online! One I met on facebook just this year and the other I met on nexopia almost 4 years ago :)

Gidgit - posted on 12/28/2009

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I recently moved back to Tulsa, Ok from San Antonio Tx. and eventhough I already knew some people I had really lost touch with them and they are no longer interested in spending time with us now that we have a baby. We tried for 11 years before we were finally able to adopt our daughter who is 3 weeks old.

I posted an add on Craiglist under "strictly platonic" stating that I am a sahm/wahm looking for others like me in the area to talk online or get together for coffee. I have met 2 really great women so far. You don't have to use your personal email or even provide your phone number on the post. I really found it fun as I enjoy meeting new people.
I am an Army Brat who grew up traveling and mom used to meet new people at places like Denny's and Wal-Mart!

Amy - posted on 12/28/2009

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We also were military for nine years, Missouri has something called "Parents as Teachers," just call your local school district , when you get here. they provide one on one meetings, teaching, helping whatever, they also provide field trips and events throughout the year.like to the fire house or come and meet Cat-in- the-Hat. We waited 4 years to have our first child. We were very young.... Don't discount older people, some of my best friends are much older than me and LOVED my little ones ( truly had the time because they were not as distracted with their own) I do understand wanting to meet people just like you, I struggled for a good year to find true connections. It is diff here, but every place has their own signatures. Also Missouriconservation here hosts many events for families and specific age groups like story and puppet time for toddlers or stroller moms. one more is your local library, Story time, I have had good results meeting moms there.

Abby - posted on 12/28/2009

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playgroup saved my social life, i lost all my friends when i had kids n i never went out of the house for two years then i got invited to playgroup n i went n met people that r now my closest friends.

Samantha Neil - posted on 12/28/2009

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well I also have moved and find it hard ... Im 24 and have two little boys and our thrid is on the way due in april :) I have tryed the baby group thing as well but then agian its just as odd or weird people there, but the hole wal-mart thing is not a bad idea as my son ran our cart in to someone and well i now talk to this nice lady all the time now im not saying go and run a cart in to someone lol but it worked for me :P good luck

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