Why do some proclaim the age two to be the

Cleo - posted on 12/02/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I know this age isn't easy because I have a two year old of my own. What age ISN'T in some way difficult? I personally think that proclaiming this age to be terrible will mentally set the parent(s) up for a terrible second year mentally. What do you think?

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Jackie - posted on 12/03/2009

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Terrible twos actually has nothing to do with age. Some children go through it later and some go through it early. My daughter started it at 15 months old and it was my own doctor who pointed it out. Its actually a phrase that majority of children go through that is both behavioral and emotional. Maybe its not the right title for it or the most PC title but it doesn't mean it isn't real. There is also the troubled 3s. Again a phase that is both emotional and behavioral that majority of children go through.

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Katy - posted on 12/12/2009

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Hell no...... 3 was wayyyyyy worse, constant tantrums screaming and acting like a little bugger! Now she is an angel at five. well mostly. It depends on the childs temprement and the way you deal with it though. All ages have there ups and downs, If you think it's hard now just wait until they become teenagers!!!!!

Cleo - posted on 12/07/2009

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Quoting Miranda:

I have a 4 year old. She's so bad!


that doesn't give an answer to the post at all.

Cleo - posted on 12/06/2009

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Quoting Rose:

what in the world makes you think that.Children are children it's all about growing up, learning, going through the stages of life,


could you explain?

Rose - posted on 12/06/2009

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what in the world makes you think that.Children are children it's all about growing up, learning, going through the stages of life,

Bridgette - posted on 12/06/2009

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Oh man! My son has autism and 2 was the worst arched back, head banging, screaming fits. LOVE every memory wasn't easy then it was horrid.

Brittany - posted on 12/05/2009

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I always called it the Terrific 2's! I always feel you should feed life into your children. I do not want them to think, "Mommy thinks Im terrible" My little one just turned 2 Nov. 19th, And as he is rough and tough to keep up with his 6 year old brother. The challanges at both age never get easer. But I feel if you show your children respect and praise them, correct the bad but do not dwell on the bad points only the good. Then the kids will have more respect and love for there parents.

Carrie - posted on 12/05/2009

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I think the worst age is three-my kids were both really stubborn at 3 but 4 was the best age! Your right all ages have there issues but i think that at three it's extra hard because they are learning to be more independent which is good except they haven't quite learned that all actions come with consequences. I don't think saying terrible twos is setting us up i look at it as a warning so you can prepare yourself.

Christie - posted on 12/05/2009

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I have found other ages tough as well - I think two is a cute age; just frustrating for the child because of budding independence and a desire to interact with more independence than they are capable. I found that when I noticed what it was my child was frustrated about, and helped to overcome or adjust to that challenge, the age was pretty simple overall :-)

Jamie - posted on 12/05/2009

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With my girls being teens now, i look back and think that for my oldest child, 4 was a rough year, and for my twins, 1st grade was a rough year lol. I think you're right, all years can be possibly rough, kids have stages and minds of their own.

Joy - posted on 12/04/2009

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Its just a "saying" You don't have to take it literally. If you don't like it, then you have to come up with something else. But like I said, don't take offense to it. Every kid and EVERYONE is different! We just happen to have a "word" for things to make things easier I guess. The world isn't perfect.

Kelly - posted on 12/04/2009

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honestly i dont even think it sould be called the terrible twos terrific threes cuz in my little clan of 5 i never had one problem with my children when they were two it seem to come when they turned three and let me tell you you would not believe what i have gone through in a year time with one child and the funny thing is this is the age of my children 11 6 4 turning 3 and 10 months so it seems that i end it with one and start with the next or better yet the younger ones see what they are doing and try to do it too omg lol but i still had fun i love being a mother its awesome

Leisel - posted on 12/04/2009

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My youngest improved from 2 because he could suddenly express himself verbally and was a lot less frustrated! There are always going to be people who willl will coin a term, in this case "terrrible two's", but it is up to us as responsible, loving people to decide what we do with such terms!

My aunt used to always say that as you think you have moved on thro one stage there is another to follow. This parenting stuff is a challenge without getting bogged down by unnessesary, unhelpful terms. Take out what is useful from anything (book/discussion) and toss the rest!

Amy - posted on 12/04/2009

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My mother made a comment to me that seems to fit. The terrible two's aren't the age 2, but rather last about 2 years!! So about ages 2 - 3 seems most difficult. One year olds are a bit more innocent, curious and still figuring things out. On the flip side four year olds know the boundries and can verbalize more effectively their thoughts and feelings. I have a 2, 4 and 6 year old and agree the 2 - 3 age range has many more difficult moments.

Heather - posted on 12/03/2009

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Two was easy compared to three. Right now I am having trouble with my three year old. Consistency is the best thing but oh so tiring. But I agree every age has its ups and downs.

Valerie - posted on 12/03/2009

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Mainly the terrible twos was dubbed due to a book talking about two being the age where children typically start to try to assert their independence combined with an increase in mobility and starting the age old battle of potty training. However, two year olds are not necessarily terrible. It's all how you handle it. Keep your head and you're fine. Like you all said, all ages have their own challenges. I love the fact that my two year old now runs up to me, hugs me and tells me she loves me! Nothing beats that!

Sarah - posted on 12/03/2009

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I think it throughs off some parents. My son was an awesome two year old. . . Then he turned three and had some tantrums but it wasn't terrible. It is great to see him grow and teah him how to deal with certain situations from nap to good manners.

Helen - posted on 12/03/2009

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ITS AN OLD WIVES TALE my kids r 5 3 2 1 they all ave there turns of bein lil pains thats just kids for u theres no certain age they r worse my fella is 31 an even he has his turn lol

Rebecca - posted on 12/03/2009

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I agree! My son in my opinion is more opinionated at this age and knows what he wants but i don't see it as a terrible thing. He is growing his onw point of view and saying how he feels...in some for or another now that he is able to. Kids who are younger just don't know how yet so people think it's easier...and when they get older they learn how to say how they feel even more so i think every age is difficult as wel.

Cleo - posted on 12/03/2009

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I'm glad that I am not alone because to me if people are going to title the age two to be "terrible", then why not go on and title EVERY age right? to me it's if the word "terrible" isn't meant to be taken literally then maybe us as moms need to try to be creative to come up with another title because I know that the two stage for me at least isn't terrible at all. Of course she test us all day every day but that's her job right now and I'm not going to be upset with her for that.

Cristina - posted on 12/02/2009

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You are so right about that, I for my part have a 19 month old boy who has been a wild jumping bean since he started to walk, to think that it might get worse by age two is nuts, i honestly think that at around age two the want to be heard and it's just hard to express themselves easily so they throw the tantrums and so on. Now if we were to speak of the terrible anythings would be the teen years, that is terrifying to me, i see how most kids are with the parents, boy I'm not looking towards those attitude changes at all. But we just have to endure and enjoy our babies like our moms did.

Tam - posted on 12/02/2009

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I think people say this because its when they start walking, talking and getting into everything. people said it to me and i just laughed, cause this is probably my favorite age of kids.. and I agree all ages have their difficulties, raising teenagers is terrible sometimes also but we dont proclaim them terrible teenagers..

Jade - posted on 12/02/2009

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My daughter is two and a half and she is doing perectly fine. She doesnt usually have tantrums she listens quite well and is very smart. I think it all depends on how you deal with your child as to how they will react to things around them, no matter what their developmental age is

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