Why does my nine year old call me with a tummy ache 2 or 3 times a week from school?

Jennifer - posted on 01/06/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My 9 year old calls me 2 or 3 times a week with a tummy ache from school. She has done this so many times. I don't believe her anymore because the first 2 times she did it, I picked her up from school and neither time was she sick. She has been doing this for 4 months now. I have spoke with her teacher. She says she is a great kid, a social butterfly, and she is doing great in school...What could be wrong with her? What can I do to figure this out. Anyone..please help.

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Jennifer - posted on 03/10/2012

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My 7 year old son was doing the same thing. I even wrote his teacher a note, telling her that he has recurring stomach pains. Well, after about a year of this, (I know, I shouldn't have waited so long), I finally took him to his pediatrician, who ordered x-rays. The end result; he's full of crap, literally. As it turns out, even though a child is having regular bowel movements, do not discard them as being constipated. My son was so backed up, his whole colon & intestines were completely full. If this isn't relieved, it can make a child very ill, and possibly worse. I hope this helps you. Good luck :)

Amanda - posted on 01/08/2011

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Does she do it the same days of the week? The same times of the day? If so, there very well could be something going on at school that the teacher is not aware of or has not put any significance to. (Maybe it happens during specials or on the playground... Maybe it happens with a child who is not in her class, so the teacher may not hear about it). If these are not the case, and you know she's not just trying to get out of a test of public speaking, you may want to take her to a doctor after finding out what other symptoms she has.

Mabel - posted on 01/07/2011

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Jennifer ,I was the kid calling home with a stomach ache and I was the one being bullied by the kids in school.Please make sure she is not being hurt by other kids.She might be too scared to tell you if it is going on and maybe she needs another adult to talk to.I know I had a teacher take me in the hall and told me that the kids in class said I smelled too bad to be in the same class.I can't tell you how many times I cried on the bus and how always wished I could end it all,but I did grow up and yes it got better but it never leaves you.I hate to scare you but I hope this helps and maybe can help your daughter.

Theresa - posted on 01/06/2011

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Talk to her about any problems she may be ahving at school. If she's making up feeling bad to go home then there may be some issue she's trying to avoid at school. Is she maybe being teased or bullied? You caould also talk to the school counselor about it. The counselor can then talk with your daughter to see if they can get any answers.

Candi - posted on 01/12/2011

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my stomach hurt for over a yr and I kept going to the Dr and they kept trying to give me pills for irritable bowel to sleep aids. Come to find out, it was my appendix! I finally had to be rushed to the ER for surgery.She could also be ready to start her period. Good Luck

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Shauna - posted on 01/08/2011

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yeah, as a child i had horribel anxiety and would call home when i was having a rough day. I had problems talking to my parents about it. And also beware... when the menstrual cycle starts ... id call home alot when that happened too .. b/c i didnt want ppl at school to know i was having my period ... sounds silly now but i got mine young and embarassed me.

Lisa - posted on 01/08/2011

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has anything happened at home? new baby, marriage, move, best friend moved? Testing at school? does she feel more lonely? it sounds like she wants more attention, OR she could actually have a medical condition. My son is allergic to a lot of things, but only slightly. So when he drinks orange juice it makes his stomach hurt. Find out when she gets the stomach aches--before lunch, after lunch, breakfast, what does she eat before it happens? My son also complains of stomach aches after he's eaten. If I've eaten the same thing and my stomach is acting strange too, I just tell him its the food he ate.
Is she using the bathroom regularly? check her stools to make sure they are normal--should be like wet dog food all stuck together, a nice medium brown. Not white, or with red, or black. If any of those colors, call your doctor right away. Hope this helps and I hope she feels better.

Amber - posted on 01/08/2011

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I think I would maybe get her checked out..is her eating all right..I too was one of those kids who called home "sick" from school starting 4th grade!! i had TONS of friends and was VERY good in school..I just wanted a break! i mean being cooped up in a room for 8 hours a day doesnt seem appealing to ANY child! and it also had to do with the fact that i was pushed up in 1st grade..so i had less play time and lots more work time lol..if your doctor doesnt find anything wrong i would sit her down one on one and find out whats going on..maybe all those "friends" are really bullying her..and maybe doing really well in school is not causing problems..better safe than sorry :D

Taylor - posted on 01/08/2011

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I did this to my mom all the time.... I didnt have any problems in school, had great grades, lots of friends. I just liked having a break from school, and once I realized how easy it was the first time I did it, I did it again, and again until it became a habit that I continued and got worse all the way until I graduated. If you let her start doing it will probably only get worse. I missed 20 days my senior year, and was probably actually sick for only 2 of those. Aside from just not wanting to be at school, I think it was also an attention thing for me. I liked the attention I got from my mom, teacher and the nurse. My mom worked alot at the time though so it's a bit different from your situation.This is of course assuming that she is faking and not really sick.

Maria - posted on 01/08/2011

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Like Cheyenne, I had the same problem when I was young. I had anxiety and would get stomach aches. Sometimes I would vomit up to 20 times a day, but sometimes it was just an upset stomach with no other side effects. Finally after about a year a doctor said I was having "Migrane Equivalents" which is basically everything that comes with a migrane *except* a headache. It was caused by anxiety and there was nothing we could do about it. Eventually I grew out of it, but it took about 3 years of suffering and vomiting.

Cheyenne - posted on 01/08/2011

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i did this when i was younger, turns out i had anxiety problems. everytime i took a test or anything that would make me nervous i felt sick

Michelle - posted on 01/07/2011

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I did it when I was a kid. I was on honor roll and had tons of friends, even involved in extra-curricular activities. I just wanted to spend time with my mom just me and her. Nothing was wrong at school, my family wasn't having any issues, and no changes were occurring. I just wanted some time for my mom and me together just the 2 of us.

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2011

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a 8 year old girl i babysit did the same thing for a long time. her mom took her to the dr... nothing wrong with her. they think it all started around the time of the mom and dads divorce. has anything traumatic happened to her that might be making her stressed. maybe she just needs to talk it out?

Bonnie - posted on 01/07/2011

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If your daughter likes school and she is doing well like her teacher says, I wouldn't think she is making it up. I would take her to the doctor and have some tests done. Just because she doesn't seem sick or have any other symptoms, doesn't mean nothing is wrong.

Stacey - posted on 01/07/2011

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It could be stress, anything new at home? It is worth a visit to the doc to make sure something medical is no going on.
My son has reflux and he is 8 nd that was one of his big complaints.

Hayley - posted on 01/07/2011

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threadworm, tapeworm, roundworm? Maybe its only something we get here in the UK then. If its left untreated it causes alot of tummy pain. My 8 yr old niece was complaining for a couple of months about a constant tummy ache.....kept being sent home from school etc. My sister in law just couldn't work it out until she checked on her one night and realised she had worms.

Sarh - posted on 01/06/2011

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Could she be nervous about something? Like another kid picking on her? Bullies are everywhere! My little brother is 13 and he gets picked on at school and complains of a tummy ache a lot! He also has anxiety/panic attacks and the stupid school nurse calls saying he is having an asthma attack. Where do they pull these people from?! Anyways. I would sit down with her and ask her if there is something going on. Maybe ask her if she knows why her stomach is hurting...?

Catherine - posted on 01/06/2011

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I agree with Theresa and Jennifer, your most likely issue is some sort of issue at school. I'm a teacher, and I frequently saw these "functional" illnesses (things that can't be measured or diagnosed, mostly headaches and tummy aches) when there was a test, the student hadn't done their homework, or there was some sort of bullying issue going on. Is she tending to call at the same time of day or on the same day of the week? Is there a certain class she's trying to avoid? Those might be interesting things to find out because it could give you a clue as to where the problem is. Also, since we just had the holiday break, did she complain at all over break? If she didn't, and she only complains at school, then it's most likely not medical. Good luck, I hope you're able to figure this out.

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Is there something she is trying to avoid at school, or something happening there that is upsetting her? Has anything changed at home? Perhaps she is looking for an excuse to come home because she wants to spend time with you. As a teacher, I saw it all. I think contacting the school counselor is a very good idea. Hope you get some answers.
Hayley mentioned worms, but your daughter would have serious rectal/anal itching if that were the case.

Jennifer - posted on 01/06/2011

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Theresa, thanks for your response..I will be contacting her school counselor.

Hayley - posted on 01/06/2011

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Just a thought....worms? I'd check her at night while she's sleeping. They usually come out at night to lay eggs so you'll be able to clearly see them.

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I would ask your doctor to have her checked out, just in case. She may need an MRI or some similar scan just to rule out any problems.

If there is no medical reason, take her out somewhere maybe for a smoothie or something and have a chat with her about it.

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