Why doesn't my child say more words?

Candice - posted on 05/19/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My 16 month old only says, DaDa,Hi, and Bye. Is this normal? She also started to stick her fingers in her ears, which concerns me because one of my cousins does that and she has autisim. I think she does it because it sounds funny, sticks her fingers in her ears and says DaDa!!!!! Not sure tho. Any ideas? am i over reacting?

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Lisa - posted on 05/22/2010

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Also dont let anyone scare you into thinking that your child has something a-typically it has to be a close connection like if your brother or sister or father or mother has something than it could be passed genetically. My cousin just passed from Wilson's disease which is very herititary and I dont even have half the genetic marker for it!

Lisa - posted on 05/22/2010

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Every child starts talking at their own time my son was 2 1/2 before he really started talking. The finger in his ears thing may be a symptom of Autism but its not a diagnosis for it my son did it and still to this day does it. Like my mom says if you look for something you will almost always find some symptom of it. My son has been tested and he is Autism free he just developed his speech later than some! Have faith and someday you will be wondering if he can stop talking for just 5 mins!

Nicole - posted on 05/22/2010

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I would trust your gut and have her evaluated especially if you have autism in the family. Does she make eye contact, point to objects etc? I would call early intervention and have an eval done. They will be able look at all areas of her development and you will have a better idea of what is going on. I think she is ok from what you have said but better safe than sorry. Good Luck!

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I would still take your child to the doctor but I wouldn't worry too much. My sister has had many kids (about to pop number 7 out) anyway she has a set of twin 5 year old that recently only started speaking coherently and has a two and a half year old that still doesn't say anything more than momma. She has had all three checked and the doctor told her that if she doesn't give her child the opportunity to talk or encourage it then it wont happen. I am not saying that you do this but I have noticed that sometimes I will respond to my two year old's grunts and points and that doesn't help her. When I started asking her to use her words I noticed that she actually started to make the effort more and I did this around 18 months. Now she talks a lot more and more coherently then a lot of the other kids we know her age. It might help or it might just be another of many suggestions! Good Luck!

Carol - posted on 05/21/2010

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My dad didn't talk until he was 3. He was the middle brother of 5 boys. He's always been very intelligent. On the flip side, I used to have a day care and one little girl was only 18 months and she was tri-lingual. Her dad was French, mom was Italian, and they lived in the US. She was amazing.
Every kid is different. Keep an eye on it, like you're doing, but don't worry too much.
Good luck.

Nosheen - posted on 05/21/2010

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dear friend it is quiet normal, my daughter is 22 months old ....she only says few words n not in clear tone. i think ths is ur first child so u have no idea, when u have second u doesn't notice these small thgs. so dont worry at all

Melanie - posted on 05/21/2010

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One of my daughters hadn't been saying much at 16months, while my others had started. Kids are ALL different. Really they are, but any & all concerns should be brought to your pedi just to talk it over and see if their could be something else going on.
If she's sticking her fingers in her ears, maybe something is wrong with her hearing. Don't just jump to autisim so fast, there's lots of other reasons for not talking.
I say talk with your pedi and see if anything is going on.

Sara - posted on 05/20/2010

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Your dr should be following all of this. Some kids talk later. It's possible she has some sort of hearing issue. Get a second opinion if yours doesn't seem to be doing anything. Around 18 months there is usually an autism check list that dr's go through. I have a friend whose daughter was similar to yours. At 18 mos she wasn't really talking. The dr checked her ears, put in tubes, and now she won't stop talking...

Christy - posted on 05/20/2010

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She's fine. Sounds normal. My almost 3 yr old son also puts his fingers in his ears because it makes things sound different. If she isn't talking more by 2 yrs then you may want to talk to a DR.

Ruth - posted on 05/20/2010

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My daughter only said a handful for words at 15 months, but over the last few weeks (she's barely 18 months now), her vocabulary has exploded. If you're really worried, go ahead and talk to your pediatrician, maybe see about getting her ears/hearing checked, but otherwise I would give it another month or two, and just see what happens.

Kathleen - posted on 05/20/2010

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my son and neice do the ear thing also. they do it because it makes a funny sound when they make noises. I wouldnt worry about the speech thing just yet, some kids are just late bloomers for that. but talk to your pedi about it if there isnt any extra words being picked up.

Susan - posted on 05/20/2010

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By 18 months they should be saying 6 words other than mama and dadda, according to literature from my pediatrician. If you are concerned talk to your pediatrician because I have hear early detection is key. Try not to stress, she just may not have anything to say right now and when she does she will be a chatter box ;)

Chelle - posted on 05/20/2010

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Hi Candice is your daughter an only child? I myself didn't talk until i was 18 moths old i apparently would grunt and point and my brother would get what ever i wanted :).
Also your daughter maybe mimicking your cousins autistic child especially if they spend a lot of time together your best bet is to not stress on it but bring it up with your health care nurse or pediatrician or doctor and get it checked out like Jennifer mention kids will play with there ears it could be a middle ear infection that isn't quite clearing up but definitely try not to cause yourself undue stress... Cheers

Jennifer - posted on 05/20/2010

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Have you had her ears checked for infections, because some kids play with their ears when they hurt? I wouldn't worry too much about the talking. About the only thing my son said by his second birthday was mama and dada. I was so worried, because I knew he should be saying much more. About a week later, he started repeating everything we were saying and I do mean everything! Now at 2 years and 3 months, you can't get the boy to shut up(hahaha) and he speaks a lot clearer than a bunch of 3-year-olds I know. Some kids just start a little later, and that doesn't mean there is something wrong, they are just taking their time.

Lj - posted on 05/20/2010

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I think that is still normal. Kids develop at different levels. I have a licensed daycare in my home and have had many little ones come through here and at that age I have had many that only say a few words. It will come soon and then you will wonder why she talks so much! :) But definetly keep an eye on things and ask your doc next time you are there.

Michelle - posted on 05/20/2010

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Talk to your pediatrician and see what they say. A lot of other factors come into play that only you and your doctor would know anyway.
You could try baby sign language with her, you can pick up a book or dvd from most book stores. I did this with my daughter, I would still speak the word out loud to her, but it really seemed to work well with her.

Best of luck!!

Clare - posted on 05/20/2010

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16 months doesn't seem that late but my advice would be to get the ball rolling - see your child health nurse or doctor to see what the next step should be as early intervention is so important if there is a problem

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