why is my 5mth son waking every 2hours during the night

Jemma - posted on 12/19/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




my son has just decided to wake every 1hr-2hr during the night mostly for a cuddle some times for food. he is on solides.


Renae - posted on 12/20/2009




25% of babies who have their parents with them when they go to sleep suddenly stop being able to go to sleep and start waking at night between 5 and 12 mo, closer to 5mo is more common. If this is what is happening, you can either wait it out, there is a greater than 60% chance he will go back to normal within 1-3 months on his own (also 40% chance he wont). Or you can teach him to go to sleep on his own.

To teach him to go to sleep and sleep for longer stretches you have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.

If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave her to figure out she is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to her cries so that you know if she needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.

The most common no-cry option is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks.

Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method.

You can also try the books Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall (lots of mums swear by this book though she has lots of critics, but so many mums cant be wrong) or Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution (her methods are very gentle and can take up to a few months to work).

There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long).

Keep in mind it is not uncommon for a 5mo to still need to feed during the night. Most babies dont need to feed at all at night after 6mo but there are some who continue to need one night feed until about 10mo. The cry interpretation I mentioned before can help you determine whether he is hungry if you are unsure. Most mums know because they gulp it down if they have woken out of hunger.


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Michelle - posted on 12/20/2009




I would recommend on reading [url=http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Baby-Wise...]On Becoming Baby Wise[/url]

It worked great with my first twin babies. I unfortunately didn't use the basics with my other two boys and it took over a year for them to sleep thru the night. There are a lot of books and articles out there. Find one that makes sense to you. Good Luck!

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Babies all go through stages of major development during the first year or so. There's a great book called The Wonder Weeks that talks about these stages and how they can effect your baby. Sleep is one thing that can be effected by these developmental leaps. Between 18 and 20 weeks, one of these leaps occurs. This could be something that is causing your LOs wakefulness. Here's a link to The Wonder Weeks website (specifically the section on this leap)...


Other things that cause upsets in sleep could be teething, growth spurts, separation anxiety (though that one might not happen quite yet). Some babies are more effected by these things than others. But I can tell you that we have experienced them all with full force! Some day your child will sleep well again, and so will you! I can't say when...no one can. But just know that it's normal for babies to be this unpredictable. Just when you think you're on a great schedule and you're starting to get things figured out, BAM! They throw you a curve ball:)

Krystal - posted on 12/20/2009




Around that age they start to have regular night time sleep cycles too. So he'll have a light sleep for 40mins then a deeper sleep for 80mins. That could be the 2hrs maybe? He possibly is just using the food as a prop to get back to sleep too.

Jennifer - posted on 12/20/2009




he cud be teething or he cud be just doing it for attention try to resist picking him out the cot if his doing it for attention le thim settle on his own

Christina - posted on 12/19/2009




I'm thinking that he may not be getting enough food durning the day...are you feeding him before bed? also with the Cold winter air make sure he's warm enough at night...if he's cold and he'll want to cuddle to get warm.

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